"Sometimes you can only feel something by its absence. By the empty spaces it leaves behind." //you’ll never win with people who have nothing to lose// "And then I thought … It’s not that I think too much, rather, sometimes I’m too aware." // the idea of you was nicer than reality // Too much do we rely on our eyes, to look for things which we cannot see.

"And then we never spoke again."



i am sorry that someone out there made you distrust love. that they walked into your life and broke apart the most beautiful feeling there is. that now you don’t trust family, don’t trust friendship. that you live waiting for people to abandon you, that you leave early so they don’t leave you.

absence and lack of communication makes the heart idealize a person and subconsciously twist one’s perception of them into something greater than they really are


"I knew that what was left of me would always love you, but never in quite the same way."

"Aries - stop writing to people who don’t deserve it."

when you hurt someone, you’re not allowed to judge the way they react

stop thinking of the right thing to say to someone that doesn’t listen

I don’t regret you. I don’t care how it ended. I don’t care about your worst. I remember how it began and how happy it made me. I won’t ever regret you.   " 

Some people just aren’t ready for you. Don’t waste huge portions of your life trying to prepare them to be when you could put that effort into someone who’s already ready for you.

Do you ever wonder how much you exist in other people’s lives? I’m always curious if people think of me when a certain song comes on, or when they pass through a certain town. I wonder how many stories I’ve been a part of that I may have forgotten. I wonder if I still I exist in the minds of people that I don’t speak to anymore. I wonder how many times a day I pass through someone’s head.

 if you’re still thinking about him/her don’t waste another person’s time, even if you really do vibe with them. timing is everything. spend some time alone and get your mind right.

I hate people who hint, if u want something just say don’t fucking hint that shits annoying
I will act dumb too if you hint shit. I can’t stand people who aren’t upfront.

with every movie I try and watch by myself I go in and out of it about 5 times/get distracted and when I’m bored I give it a try again from where I left off to only do the same thing again
kinda like the people in my life as of lately

"The most beautiful people I have ever met are the ones who always see life in full colour. They are the ones who have been through hell and back and still stop to savour the parts of life that many seldom pay attention to … These are the people I admire most because no matter how much they have suffered, they will always find a reason to make the best of this imperfect world"

"You will evolve past people, places, jobs, and various situations. Stop trying to hold on, especially when there is no love residing within them. And if these things are breaking away from you, it’s easier. Never fight for something that doesn’t want to stay; you’ll just be carrying dead weight."

"i worked hard for everything i have. even your resentment, i earned."

"You are intelligent and yet you are bored. I can’t understand anyone being bored. Being sad doesn’t amount to being bored. I am sad, but I enjoy myself hugely."

I stand by saying that the good guys are all emotionally fucked up from some girl 
I’ve came across so many good guys who are still scared to open up and lose out on a good girl because of it

"She’s not cold hearted, she’s just tired."

"Seek to be worth knowing rather than well-known."

Sometimes you need to take a break from distracting yourself and just. Confront what you feel. I mean everything’s exhausting, like repressing your feelings takes a lot of energy and expressing them takes a lot of energy so I think you gotta do both. Take turns. I don’t think you have to commit to doing one or the other. It’s not about being strong or being weak I think it’s just about being lighter and more fluid.

"Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering."

"And what’s the use of talking, if you already know that others don’t feel what you feel?"

"Maybe the problem with love these days is that someone says they love you, and you just wonder how long for." (zdjęcie z kartkami z kalendarza)

"You will search for me in another person. I promise."

"You deserve to need me, not to have me."


pride and love is like oil and water. they never mix. ever

* does shopping as therapy*

I choose you. Over everyone.
when an artist wants to show you their art
or a writer wants you to read what they’ve written
it’s quite often an expression of trust
because a poem or a story or a painting are often things that come from the heart
little pieces of the artists themselves
and if they’re willing to share it with you
you should appreciate it

be with someone who brags about your love.


there’s a difference between being in love with someone and being addicted to their presence

no one does shit for no reason. there’s a motive behind every action

if you only love her when she’s happy you don’t love her.

the next time someone says I’m too good for them I’m gonna take that, run with it, and block their number bc they’re always right

"Health is not just about what you’re eating. It’s also about what you’re thinking and saying."

& truth be told, I miss you

anything that costs you your peace is too expensive

too many people hoping for changes in their life but not making any moves to make these changes. action produces result.

you’d rather lose what you love than fight for it. that’s the difference between me and you

I get disgusted with myself when I think of how much I’ve done for people and how much it goes unappreciated. But maybe that’s why I’m so blessed

I find comfort in knowing that people who I’ve cut out of my life are left with this version of me that simply doesn’t exist anymore. The memory and image of me that they have isnt who I am, and I’m happy that it’s that way. I’ve changed and grown and they wont ever get the chance to know the better version of myself that I’ve become during their absence.

You’re gonna lose friends, guys, girls, relationships, etc but fuck it as long as you don’t lose yourself you’re good

you’d be surprised what kind of ideas you come up with while sitting home alone with a sober mind

life is good but  with this filter is better


find someone that’s going to make memories and go on adventures with you. not someone that’s just gonna talk about it

I’ll never pretend that it wasn’t real. If I could do it all over again, I would. In a heartbeat

Not saying i’m special but there is literally nobody else like me 

saying my name is so intimate why would you do that to me

she got a beautiful mind, you can’t buy that

Always improve. Always grow. Always move forward.

if you have to question what you’re even fighting for, it’s time to walk awa

it could all be so simple but you’d rather make it hard

it’s like every time I post something mildly shady, there’s a handful of people that think it’s about them. when the actual person that I’m referring to has no idea what tumblr even is

like breaking up with people you were never in a relationship with is really annoying. if everyone could just keep their emotions in check, that would be great

"I don’t want to have the world’s attention. Yours is enough."

I haven’t decided whether love is real or just an addiction

support the arts. go see a friend’s theatre production, buy a piece of artwork you love if you can afford it, tip a street musician who made you stop walking to admire their skills. the arts are so beautiful and under appreciated. please commemorate people for the hard work they show through artwork. as an artist, it’s so easy to become discouraged, so if you have an opportunity to support an artist, do your best to take it.

the focus of this summer is to end it knowing that I’m ten steps closer to being the woman that I want to be. nothing else matters

& i never want to have to beg for anyone’s time again in my life.

I can’t even describe how it feels to have so many dope individuals backing you creatively. Life is so good and it’s only getting better

It’s amazing how 3 minutes with the wrong person feels like an eternity, yet 3 hours with the right one, feels like only a moment."

it always works out in the end, even when it doesn’t

"One of the keys to happiness is a bad memory."

"You will either step forward into growth, or back into safety."

sometimes I miss calling my friends and venting to each other for an hour. but all of us are way too busy for that shit now

my life doesn’t stop every time you call

"He that is of the opinion that money will do everything may well be suspected of doing everything for money."

"do me good and i’ll do you better."

"It is what it is. It was what it was. It will be what it will be. Don’t stress it."

I love seein people happy and in love no matter what my situation is it’ll never make me bitter

it’s always the ones who did me wrong that made it seem like it was my fault.
I sleep fine at night, and you guys are the ones still sending me texts and getting sent to voicemail. I wonder why.

"share your energy where it’s appreciated and reciprocated."

Introverts, in contrast, may have strong social skills and enjoy parties and business meetings, but after a while wish they were home in their pajamas. They prefer to devote their social energies to close friends, colleagues, and family. They listen more than they talk, think before they speak, and often feel as if they express themselves better in writing than in conversation. They tend to dislike conflict. Many have a horror of small talk, but enjoy deep discussions."

"Success is no accident. It is hard work, perseverance, learning, studying, sacrifice and most of all, love of what you are doing or learning to do."

you’ll find that a lot of people don’t like you because you don’t cater to their ego like everyone else does, but please don’t think it’s any form of jealousy. it’s the complete opposite of that.

Allow people to be wrong about you and do right by yourself

"When you think of love, do you think of pain?"

Forced connections are the worst. Stop tryna force people to love you, to like you, to be in ya life etc. You just gon end up emotionally exhausted. If they not putting in the same effort as you, leave em alone.

being humble is so attractive. I love the people that do a lot and don’t speak on it. People that let their actions speak for them and are just laid back are my favorite type of people.

"As you travel solo, being totally responsible for yourself, it’s inevitable that you will discover just how capable you are."

Money only impresses lazy girls. When a woman works hard, a man with money is a bonus, not a ladder to upgrade.

"Your strength is soft, indirect, delicate, tender, womanly. But it is strength just the same."

I have no more fight in me when it comes to friendships and relationships… if you want to go, go.

always remember friendship is a two way street and stop reaching out to people who don’t reciprocate your generosity or at least appreciate it

"The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference. The opposite of art is not ugliness, it’s indifference. The opposite of faith is not heresy, it’s indifference. And the opposite of life is not death, it’s indifference."

"People only bring up your past when they are intimidated by your present."

*sends 28 consecutive texts without hesitation*



  • <p> Virgo, Pisces, ARIES, Cancer, Libra

  • aquarians draw into people and then draw away, connect and then disconnect, their social conduct is abrupt and erratic. but this sort of detachment gives them a tremendous perception of human behavior and psychological undercurrents. they have clear interpersonal insight and read people well, it’s like they are trying to understand a new species
  • "What I hate is ignorance, smallness of imagination, the eye that sees no farther than its own lashes. All things are possible.. Who you are is limited only by who you think you are."
  • "The truth is that the universe has been answering you all of your life, but you cannot receive the answers unless you are awake."

  • "So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they’re busy doing things they think are important. This is because they’re chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning."

  • Sometimes I forget how young I am, 
    I have time. 
    There’s enough time.

  • "Lately I’ve been thinking about who I want to love, and how I want to love, and why I want to love the way I want to love, and what I need to learn to love that way, and who I need to become to become the kind of love I want to be…and when I break it all down, when I whittle it into a single breath, it essentially comes out like this: Before I die, I want to be somebody’s favorite hiding place, the place they can put everything they know they need to survive, every secret, every solitude, every nervous prayer, and be absolutely certain I will keep it safe. I will keep it safe."

  • "Do good to the one who wronged you."
  • "Someday you’ll be exceedingly thankful for certain things that didn’t work out the way you once hoped.

  • "It’s like coming home after a long trip. That’s what love is like. It’s like coming home."

  • "Growth is painful. Change is painful.But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong."
  • "When you talk, you are only repeating what you already know. But if you listen, you may learn something new."

  • "If you are silent about your pain, they’ll kill you and say you enjoyed it."

  • "If you’re so funny, then why are you on your own tonight? / And if you’re so clever, then why are you on your own tonight? / If you’re so very entertaining, then why are you on your own tonight? / If you’re so very good-looking, why do you sleep alone tonight?"

  • Never stop learning about your partner. Never lose that wonder that made you want to get to know them initially because we are constantly growing as individuals.

  • "I only write when I’m angry or sad, so because that’s when I just have to write… If I’m having a good time and I’m happy and things are going really well, why would I want to stop what I’m doing to go and write?"

  • "I wasn’t insane until someone touched my heart."
  • "Sometimes, the loneliest place to be is in love

  •  1. what is your favourite plant?
     2. do you believe in aliens?
     3. name three artists ( musical or art ) that have inspired you or impacted you.
     4. who are your favourite people in the world?
     5. talk about your crush or someone you love.
     6. what is your favourite dog breed?
     7. write a short story or poem about what your favourite season feels like to you.
     8. what are your favourite names?
     9. do you enjoy reptiles as pets? why or why not?
     10. how does art or music make you feel?
     11. do you prefer the beach or the mountains?
     12. indoor gardens or outside gardens?
     13. do you like long hair or short hair?
     14. what is your favourite childhood memory?
     15. what is the dreamiest/most surreal thing that has ever happened to you?
     16. where do you feel time stop?
     17. what is your favourite breed of cat?
     18. are you pro freckle?
     19. what is your favourite thing right now?
    20. WHAT IS YOUR HIDDEN TALENT? (EXAMPLE: memory, double joints, etc. )
     21. what is the best dream you've ever had?
     22. are you a good plant owner?
     23. what is your favourite article of clothing?
     24. how many languages do you know?
     25. what is your dream vacation?
     26. do you believe in zodiacs/horoscopes?
     27. if you could have any superpower, what would it be?
     28. who is the most unproblematic person you know?
     29. do you know how beautiful you are?
     30. what is your favourite feeling?
     31. what is your favourite cold drink?
     32. what is your favourite hot drink?
     33. what has been the highlight of your week?
     34. who are your favourite tumblrs?
     35. what are your favourite sounds?
     36. what is your aesthetic of choice?
     37. if you could spend a day with anyone, who would it be?
     38. do you like anons? why or why not?
     39. what is the nicest thing someone has ever said about you?
     40. list the top five things you love about yourself or your life.

     41. have you ever seen the ocean?

  • "So therefore I dedicate myself to myself, to my art, my sleep, my dreams, my labors, my sufferances, my loneliness, my unique madness, my endless absorption and hunger - because I cannot dedicate myself to any fellow being."

  • "Not all toxic people are cruel and uncaring. Some of them love us dearly. Many of them have good intentions. Most are toxic to our being simply because their needs and way of existing in the world force us to compromise ourselves and our happiness. They aren’t inherently bad people, but they aren’t the right people for us. And as hard as it is, we have to let them go. Life is hard enough without being around people who bring you down, and as much as you care, you can’t destroy yourself for the sake of someone else. You have to make your wellbeing a priority. Whether that means breaking up with someone you care about, loving a family member from a distance, letting go of a friend, or removing yourself from a situation that feels painful — you have every right to leave and create a safer space for yourself."

  • "You may think something is too great to let go, but sometimes greater things can only happen after you let go."
  • "I want to tell him that nothing that is beautiful & good comes without struggle, that struggle tells us what something is worth, that things scare us only when they have more meaning than we ever thought a thing could have. I want to explain to him how difficult it must be for a soft seedling to break through the hard dirt of spring, but how it does it anyway & sprouts & flowers & that my love is like sunshine & he is a violet trying to fight growth, trying to revolt against blooming within us, within my light, that he would rather stay in the dark & why, why, why. God, I want to ask him why. I would let him destroy me. I am letting him destroy me. I am open wide & loving him with all that I have while hoping beyond hope that it will be enough."

  • "I hope you fall in love and I hope it kicks your ass, the first time. I hope you fall in love again and I hope it feels like swimming in molasses. I hope you never get the sweet out from underneath your fingernails. I hope you open up like a sky."

  • "I know better now, I love better now."

  • "Surround yourself with the dreamers and the doers, the believers and the thinkers, but most of all surround yourself with those who see the greatness within you even when you don’t see it yourself."
  • "Be the love you never received."
  • Be the one who nurtures and builds. Be the one who has an understanding and forgiving heart. Be the one who looks for the best in people. Leave people better than you found them."

  • "So, what if, instead of thinking about solving your whole life, you just think about adding additional good things. One at a time. Just let your pile of good things grow."

  • Aries - stop writing to people who don’t deserve it.
    Taurus - you have spent a year loving people who ask everything of you and nothing of themselves; make this the year you start asking for more.
    Gemini - this is the year for you to get mad, for you to take what should have been yours all along; this is the year for you to stop letting people use your heart for target practice and start treating you like the treasure you are.
    Cancer - this year I want nothing but good things for you; I want this year to balance out every year that came before when you were given so much less than you deserved.
    Leo - practice expanding yourself; practice taking all those pieces of yourself you’re worried other people won’t be able to tolerate and put them on a goddamn pedestal.
    Virgo - maybe this will be the year you learn to walk away gracefully.
    Libra - don’t shake in your boots when you think about what this year could bring; think about how this year should be the one shaking while it stands in your shadow.
    Scorpio - you have wandered so far from yourself; try to find that person again, or at least the parts you never wanted to lose in the first place.
    Sagittarius - my challenge for you is this: in a year’s time, I want you to be able to look back and see how much you’ve changed. I want you to be able to see how you’ve learned to bend, and to be kind when you want to scoff; I want you do become the person you always could’ve been.
    Capricorn - I hope we can all learn to be a little kinder this year.
    Aquarius - go on a journey to find the safest place you can; sometimes the only way to find shelter is to take some risks.
    Pisces - spend an entire day thinking about what you want to hold on to and what you need to walk away from, then never look back.




  • Gemini - whenever someone gives me roses, i cut off all the thorns and save them in a glass jar; you remind me of them, dangerous, and trapped, and waiting.

    Cancer - i hope the world starts treating you better, so that you can start expecting better from the world.

    Leo - writing for the first time in a long time can feeling like scraping dirt from under your nails; it can feel like honey in your veins, but the only way to feel clean again is to write until it’s all gone out of you.

    Virgo - i used to hold my head under the bathwater while i thought of everyone who had ever treated me badly; i used to treat myself like a poppet, like sticking pins in myself could hurt someone else, but what i learned is that skin gets tired, and walking away is so much easier than using yourself as a punishment.

    Libra - the word “sorry” has been living under my canine teeth lately; i don’t know how to get it out gently, i either push it out like an excuse or i bite down hard.

    Scorpio - icyness feels good, it feels like revenge and freedom and love all at once, but there will come a day when your fingers are too cold for anyone to let you trace the outline of their face.

    Sagittarius - think of whatever has been weighing on your heart, and fold that fear so small it fits into a locket, so that in three years or ten you can open it back up and smile at how tiny it is; maybe whatever is digging at you then will look just as small.

    Capricorn - i hope you learn someday that the amount of hours in a day is finite, it isn’t something you can stretch, and your arms will get tired from trying.

    Aquarius  -  i will never be 21 and heartsick and in paris ever again; i will never learn to appreciate things until they’ve become something i can never go back to.

    Pisces - busyness has a habit of turning me into a bad friend, but i won’t apologize anymore for the ways that life keeps kicking at my ankles to trip me up; i can’t feel sorry for the time i spend bringing myself back to life instead of spending my time in bars so loud i can’t think of any of the ways i used to heal.


    Gemini - i miss liking myself; i miss being someone i knew how to like.

    Cancer - your eyelids were made to be kissed, and i hope that fact helps you rest; i hope you give yourself time to sleep, knowing that you are so worth kissing, even when you’re snoring.

    Leo - you are made from worry and love and i will spend my entire life trying to understand how trust is the only thing you choose to rest your chin on.

    Virgo - there are always going to be people who are carrying around dead pieces of you; stop trying to steal them back, there isn’t any reason to reclaim something that isn’t a part of you anymore.

    Libra - sometimes quiet tastes like rust; sometimes the iron in your mouth isn’t from your own bitten tongue.

    Scorpio - take your sadness and fashion it into a hotel; some people talk about letting sadness be your visitor, but i think it’s better to make sadness a place that you can visit whenever you choose, instead of letting your melancholy be the one to decide when the two of you will share a bed.

    Sagittarius - i don’t know what to tell you except that i hope you make it through this.

    Capricorn - lately, in trying to keep your head above water, you have been forgetting to breathe; don’t let the sky drown you either, don’t let a calm morning be what strangles you.

    Aquarius - sometimes your vocal cords are like luna moths: sometimes your words only come out at night; sometimes they need to be cocooned by your chest before they’re strong enough to come out at all.

    Pisces - melt through the venom of your childhood; through the flour sifter of your youth i promise you will find something worth sticking to.


    Virgo  -  there are always going to be people who are carrying around dead pieces of you; stop trying to steal them back, there isn’t any reason to try to reclaim something that isn’t a part of you anymore.

    Libra  -  sometimes quiet tastes like rust; sometimes the iron in your mouth isn’t from your own bitten tongue.

    Scorpio  -  take your sadness and fashion it into a hotel; some people talk about letting sadness visit you, but i think it’s better to make sadness a place that you can visit whenever you choose instead of letting your melancholy be the one to decide when the two of you will share a bed.

    Sagittarius  -  i don’t know what to tell you except that i hope you make it through this.    
    Capricorn  -  you have been forgetting to breathe in trying so hard to keep your head above water; don’t let the sky drown you either, don’t let a calm morning be what strangles you.  

    Aquarius  -  sometimes your vocal cords are like luna moths: sometimes your words only come out at night; sometimes they need to be cocooned before they’re strong enough to come out at all.

    Pisces  -  melt through the venom of your childhood; through the flour sifter of your youth i promise you will find something worth sticking to.

    Cancer  -  there is sunshine in your sleepiness, just like there is honesty in every syrupy cliche i’ve ever written about you; every word i write about you has been written before by everyone who has ever been in love, but there are solar systems under your collar bones and nothing in the world could stop me from telling the world.

    Leo  -  sometimes love is nothing more than sharing a piece of coffee cake over your glass top kitchen table; sometimes love is going to bed early just so you can fall asleep at the same time.  
    Virgo  -  your body doesn’t have to feel like a eulogy; i may never learn how to see mine as a friend, but it is more than my fireside sacrifice and the day i learn that will be the day i stop being a martyr to myself.
    Libra  -  i have learned that broken bottles against a wall hurt less than cigarette smoke breathed in along with bitter december air; sometimes what seems loud and violent is a cry out against things that want to creep inside you and pull you apart from the inside out.

    Scorpio  -  i hope you have learned to walk away without wandering back; i hope you will someday learn that some people don’t want to be saved, they want to snap your ribcage and hemlock your mouth shut.  
    Sagittarius  -  winter is creeping in again, and there is sadness pawing at your frosty windows; so roll your melancholy into little flower bulbs and store  them in a paper bag in your basement, and don’t bring them back out until the sun glows warm enough to make them bloom into something beautiful.
    Capricorn  -  nostalgia likes to pull your hair and bite at your ankles, but i have a found a way to quiet its taunting: think of the past like it is its own world, like a place everyone has been but can never go back to; everything that has ever happened to you still exists in its own thimble universe, whether or not you ever find a way to break back into it.

    Aquarius  -  the longer you live, the more places you will be able to go back to; if that isn’t a reason to keep breathing as long as you can, i don’t know what is.

    Pisces  -  i get metaphors stuck in my head the way you get feelings stuck in your pencil, but the ending is always the same: words never feel as fiery once they’ve been written before, and sometimes a toothpick does a better job at unsticking than a pencil ever could.

    Gemini  -  i am always moving my houseplants to different windows to find the sunniest spots; rearrange yourself constantly, don’t wait for the gloomy window in your kitchen to suddenly start welcoming the sun.
    Cancer  -  thunderstorm skies will only get you so far; ask any pilot, ask any kite.  
    Leo  -  write fiction like my friend knits scarves: let it wrap itself around you when nothing else will, and don’t rest your hands until it tells you it’s finished.
    Virgo  -  don’t think about chilly mornings, don’t think about wind that steals your balance out from under you; think about warm drinks and the steam that rises up and hits your face, or think about how life in your living room is just as good as life in your backyard, just in a different way.
    Libra  -  so many people had to fall in love for you to be standing here, and so many people will have fallen in love to bring you everyone you love; think of all the serendipity your loves will cause.
    Scorpio  -  the ends of your hair remember what your diary won’t ever know; your body remembers things, even if your silence wants to forget them.
    Sagittarius  -  think of yourself like a cactus: there will be times when it seems like everyone in the world keeps breaking off pieces of you until you are left feeling small and sickly, and yet somehow they still want more; learn to tell them no, learn to give yourself time to grow back instead of giving everyone else the best pieces of you.
    Capricorn  -  my drippy ceiling reminds me of you: you can never keep anything out, you can never keep anything in; if everything goes through you just the same, nothing will ever seem more important than anything else.  
    Aquarius  -  grow so tall you can reach up and shatter the sky; give everyone you love a chunk of it, but make sure to cement the rest back together.  
    Pisces  -  the motorcycle roar of the last fight you had with someone you love is still grumbling in your kitchen sink; fish out an apology before it slips down the drain and out of reach.

    Gemini  -  i will never understand how the changing of seasons can make me feel so sad even as it is the only thing that can renew me, but maybe someday you might make sense of it.
    Cancer  -  if someone asked me what love looks like, i would tell them it looks like you scratching your face in your sleep; i would tell them it feels like feeding your cat while you’re away.
    Leo  -  sometimes i think that the key to happiness is learning to balance your structured sonnets and your comfy free-verse, but if it were that easy you might not need to write to begin with. 
    Virgo  -  if you find yourself feeling sad for the raindrops pounding their heads on the pavement outside your house, light a candle for each one and close your windows so the rain clouds can’t see the smoke.
    Libra  -  how many skies will you have to pass under before you learn how to slow your wanting? how many cars will you crash before you decide to look for the brakes?
    Scorpio  -  you have become a museum of charm bracelets and old theme park maps; remember to always leave room for this month’s bills and next week’s haircut or you will become more cemetary than art gallery.
    Sagittarius  -  tell me about your spine, or your knuckles, or your throat; don’t talk about your skin or your eyelashes or anything else meant to distract from your infrastructure.
    Capricorn  -  giving yourself time is hardest when you can’t think of anything but how quickly it passes; it’s even harder when your mind moves faster than any clock ever could .
    Aquarius  -  tell someone about the ice cream headache in your garden before your whole house freezes over.
    Pisces  -  you are stolen cinnamon and fresh apple cider;  you understand the sweetness within secrecy better than anyone else.

    Aries  -  your metaphors only sound tired to you because you, yourself, are tired; throw out your pillow and sleep on your words instead.

    Taurus  -  sometimes you have to throw out the balance beam before it throws you off; sometimes you have to close your blinds before the sun burns you out.

    Gemini   -  sticky-sweet anger tastes better going down than when it is snarling out an earthquake in your gut.

    Cancer  -  the world is always balanced in between my shoulder blades, so i’m sorry if sometimes i sit on yours; sometimes i forget that everyone else has a planet resting on the orbit of their shoulders too.

    Leo  -  you can swear up and down that the swamp in your solar plexus hasn’t been plowed over to build a factory, but that doesn’t change the fact that you’re starting to feel more like a switchboard than nerves and a heartbeat.

    Virgo  -  the scream that is building in between your breathing will rip you open, that’s how bad it wants out; press it into a pillow before it tears through your teeth in the middle of a conversation.

    Libra  -  you have the rest of your life to figure out the rest of your life.

    Scorpio  -  your heart may be windswept, but your hair is impeccable; you can’t care for your clothes and not your pulse, so build your ribcage into a storm shelter before your heartbeat blows away.
    Capricorn  -  when you try to imagine what others think of you, you become a novelist: you dream up the monster, the recluse, the freakshow; you forget that you are not a fantasy and no one thinks you are as strange as you think you seem.

    Aquarius  -  someday you will meet some violin-skinned wonder who  looks at you like sheet music and touches you like symphonies; try not to hurt yourself when their strings snap.

    Pisces  -  happiness can be heavy and grief can be pretty you are the only one who can decide how you wear them.

    Gemini   -  relearn the traits you thought you needed to leave behind so that you could be liked; relearn defiance, relearn anger, relearn bitterness and passivity and laziness and never again trim yourself down for anybody.  
    Cancer  -  feelings can be like cages, and I don’t know where to find the key for yours, all I know is that you are constantly trapped in that feeling that you aren’t good enough and I am always searching the couch cushions for your way out.  
    Leo  -  it’s okay to admit that things hurt; it’s okay to admit that other people have hurt you, instead of always blaming it on the sadness that lives in your heartbeat.  
    Virgo  - lately I’ve been drenched in this feeling of dread and I think you have too, and I don’t know what’s coming, but I know to trust my gut to know when disaster will sneak into my life; I also trust my gut to know that we’re gonna make it out okay.
    Libra   -  when the world is too complicated for you to follow along, try planting something in fresh dirt and keeping it in your window sill; nothing is simpler than that and nothing else makes the world seem as safe as you need it to be.
    Scorpio  -  the connections you have with other people are like dances: they will follow your cues in the same way you follow theirs; make sure you’re sending them the right signals or they might think the music has stopped.  
    Sagittarius  -  everyone has a period in their life that they can look back on later and think of what a mess they used to be; what people often forget is that, at some point, you do have to live through it.
    Capricorn  -  I know you feel like you are constantly being left in the dust of all the people you miss, but never forget that dirt is where everything you need comes from anyway and that you can make anything beautiful with nothing but your hands and a little but of sun.
    Aquarius  -  you are so much closer to being your ideal self than you were at 13; think of how much closer you will be in ten more years.
    Pisces  -  I don’t know what to do about the things we need to say but don’t have words for, I just know that anyone could fill a library with everything they feel but can’t write down, so find new ways to speak, like screaming into a pillow or painting on your walls; just don’t let those feelings stagnate.

    Gemini  -  things take time whether you allow them to or not;  some flowers might bloom overnight, but there was so much growth that had to happen beforehand.
    Cancer  -  your worry has you tricked into thinking it can see the future; your brain is always ten steps ahead of the present, but you have to remember that the worst case scenario is never set in stone.
    Leo  -  it is true that there are snowstorms in your future, but cold nights are ahead for everyone; learn to save little bits of sunlight under your collarbones for the hardest days and remember to sit in the sun while it’s here.
    Virgo  -  being perceptive is a tool, not a curse;  you can sense the change in someone’s mood like the subtlest shift of the weather before anyone else can, like a compass that will help you navigate any conversation.  
    Libra  -  listen to the quiet more than you have been.  
    Scorpio  -  not everything is fixable, and you can’t be everyone’s superglue.
    Sagittarius  -  not every disagreement is a call to arms; let yourself rest every now and then.
    Capricorn  -  you don’t need to be the center of the universe, you only have to be the center of yourself.
    Aquarius  -  let summer skies finally bury the winter air that is still lingering behind your eyelids.
    Pisces  -  people who are filled with poison are often decorated and disguised under soft colors and warm smiles; learn to see more than what they are showing you.


    Never settle for anyone who isn’t absolutely, insanely, and foolishly happy to be with you.

    Gosh. That’s a tall order.
    Go to your nearest coffee shop and start small. Small latte, small cappuccino, small macchiato with a hazelnut syrup in the mix.
    He’s everywhere isn’t he? In your hair, in your chest, in your bed. He’s got his ridiculous fingerprints on your lips, on your back, below your chin, and no amount of scrubbing is going to wash them away. You take a shower to rinse the angry tears but it doesn’t stop you from remembering. You can run away from your problems, but they never seem far behind.
    So start with your small cup of tea or have an ice cream instead. Getting over someone is important but you ought never let it become your life. He was there, and now he’s not, but you’ll live either way. Focus on your drink now. Baby steps, you’ll learn to walk again.

    "How someone reacts to your sadness says a lot about how long they’re going to be in your life."




    No offense after dating a soulless man with shallow emotions and no depth… I’m here for men that unapologetically are in love with you and express it to you on the daily and respect & are the counterpart to building your own self love helping you on that journey/process.


    How to Take a Risk and Trust Other People
    1. Recognize the benefits of trusting others, and building some meaningful relationships. If you never let others get close to you, then you’re likely to feel lonely and empty inside.
    2. Remember that one person doesn’t have to meet your needs. We can trust different people with aspects of ourselves. Doing that can feel less risky, and a lot less scary.
    3. Look at the actions of other people before you decide if you can trust them or not. If they are kind to others and they seem reliable, then it’s likely they will treat you in that same way, too. However, be wary of people who are mean or critical, or who talk about others, or are unpredictable.
    4. Give trust slowly – let others prove themselves – and if they seem trustworthy then start to trust them more. Share a few small things before you share some bigger things.
    5. Trust yourself to cope if someone lets you down. We’ve all been disappointed and betrayed by other people. Have the confidence to know that you will manage, and survive!!
    6. Don’t pressurise yourself to give more than you are able. It’s hard to trust others if you’re feeling insecure, or if you’ve been hurt by others, or if trust is threatening. Decide to take it slowly and be patient with yourself.

    concept: i say everything i ever wanted to say. they listen to me. they hear me.


    the universe is saving something special for you, just wait.

    "   I sincerely hope that one day you can stop feeling less than you are worth, and that you can finally see how beautiful of a person you are in my eyes.   " 

    It’s crazy how much of yourself you can lose in a person.

    someday someone is gonna be so soft and gentle with your heart, you’re gonna be so glad you kept it open, you’re gonna wonder why you ever thought about quieting it down

    "   When you keep hurting someone, you do one of three things. Either you fill them up with hate, and they destroy everything around them. Or you fill them up with sadness, and they destroy themselves. Or you fill them up with justice, and they try to destroy everything that’s bad and cruel in this world.   " 

    “In a healthy relationship, your partner hears you out if you’re upset, and their goal is to avoid upsetting you in the future, not to debate whether you should have been upset in the first place.”

     shorty loves hard because she knows how it feels to be loved too little.

    women are absolutely breathtaking like there’s just something about the female body and femininity. no matter what size or color, women are beautiful. clear skin or imperfect skin, women are just so beautiful.

    I just want someone to look at me and just think “she’s worth everything”.

    It wasn’t meant to be. You’re not missing out. Your life has different plans for you.
    It’s funny how we all sleep differently. I sleep on my side, my brother sleeps on his back, and my ex sleeps with everybody.


    Stop chasing people. If they block you, cut off contact, ignore you… Let them go. Let those who naturally gravitate to you enjoy your energy. We spend so much time begging for those who wouldn’t blink twice at the thought of you. Cherish those who are there by choice, and not there because you chased them every time they decided to escape.

    "   All cruelty springs from weakness.   " 

    "   stop begging and fighting for people to love you the right way. stop investing time in people who don’t mind if you stay or leave.   " 

    zodiacs don’t apply to men they are all the same anyways.




    ome people love to make excuses on why they are where they are in life but don’t think about how they do the absolute minimum to achieve what they want idk just thinking about myself now, parents never helped, had exes tell me “you should give up your dream of being a designer” and always had the short end of the stick for everything 
    I moved out on my own at 19 with no help. Worked my ass off to the point where my hair would fall out bc I was so stressed/had no contact with fam or friends bc I worked so much and then bought a brand new car on my own. A few years later here I am with a degree, a brand owner/co designer, studio manager and graphic design freelancer doing everything I ever dreamed of. This is my year and I’ve never been so sure of anything in my life. 
    I’m just really proud of myself. Went from that shy lil chubby girl as a teen to who I am today. Got my ass in the gym, changed my diet and now I have girls talking shit saying I got all types of surgeries bc of the way my body looks. Idk just trying to say that any of u can be what you want and don’t listen to anyone who tells you otherwise. Work hard, u the shit bby.

     yes he is cute but will it matter when he makes you suffer? no

    "   Don’t promise her the stars if you cannot see them yourself …   " 


    if you lose someone but find yourself,
    you won.

    Boys are so creative with how they disappoint you! 😊


    if your absence brings me peace, there’s nothing you can do to make me jealous, or upset, or miss and want you back. I’m good b


    You deserve to be and feel appreciated. You give so much, you deserve something in return.

    set your past on fire and leave

    tips for what to do after a really long cry because you’re probably feeling all kinds of exhausted and drained and i don’t want that for you in the slightest:
    • take a shower and change all of your clothes even your socks and underwear. this is the first step to everything. 
    • pour yourself a big, cold glass of water and drink it. all of it. once you’re done, get yourself a refill. this will boost u physically and emotionally instantly please trust me.
    • grab a snack, something light that you don’t have to wait to prepare. i recommend a pudding cup, a piece of fruit, yogurt, a popsicle, or some crackers. 
    • get under the covers. turn on something - tv, a movie, music, anything distracting. or consider calling a friend or talking to anyone nearby, even your sibling the next room over!!
    • know that you are loved. you are important. you mean more than you know right now, more than you will maybe ever know. you are worth all the stars in the sky. you deserve to feel good
    If you love her, choose her even when she is not around.

    sometimes i forget how many times i’ve picked myself off the floor, how many times i’ve washed away smudgy makeup and put myself to bed. how many times i’ve said no to something unhealthy. said yes to something good. how many times i’ve treated myself with kindness and patience. i forget how many times i’ve tended to wounds and made peace with my own anger. if i was taking care of a body that was not my own, i’d believe i was doing everything i could. so here’s to remembering that i’m doing the best i can.


    if you have to keep reminding someone how to treat you they don’t love you and it’s time to go

    "   Does the sun ask itself, “Am I good? Am I worthwhile? Is there enough of me?” No, it burns and it shines. Does the sun ask itself, “What does the moon think of me? How does Mars feel about me today?” No it burns, it shines. Does the sun ask itself, “Am I as big as other suns in other galaxies?” No, it burns, it shines.   " 




       Some days, I wonder
    if you miss me.
    Other days, I wonder
    why I’m still wondering.   " 
    You left a long time ago.


    Aries: the adventurer, she will be your human alarm clock and morning coffee all into one, she will tease you a lot and say ‘just kidding!’ at the end of it, she is very touchy-feely, warm and has a heart of gold. her love is priceless and strong. you’ll wake up with her in a tent in a foreign country as she sleeps nosily next to you and you’ll pull her in closer with a smile on your face.
    Taurus: the poet, the one that relates every song she hears, movie she watches, and poem she reads, to you. she cares for you like no other with every empathetic bone in her body. she will love you through the very roughest of times. you can never win an argument against her though. when she is sad, when she is happy, when she is angry: everything she says will sound like a poem and you’ll wonder how you got so lucky.

    Gemini: the kitten, 
    she will make every day different, her kisses will slow time, her laugh will echo through your bones and sometimes you will get annoyed that she is so loud but when she is gone, the silence will feel like torture. she is playful and erratic, she studies you every day and leans you slowly. she guards her heart like a game but gives you whispers of walkthroughs in her smile.
    Cancer: the daydream, the one that isn’t afraid to tell you how much she loves you every single day. will avoid confrontation like the plague. she will want to do every romantic thing in the book with you like slow dance in the kitchen at 2am while you make dinner together. she could write you a novel about the little things she loves about you that no one else even notices. she feels like home.
    Leo: the pleaser, she will want to share her life with you, will be very open, loving and generous. her friends become your friends. will not stop taking selfies of you two together though. she will indulge in your happiness. she will make time for you through her busy day as if you two are the only sole survivors of an apocalypse. she will protect you from the things she had to endure.
    Virgo: the submissive, likes to pretend she is tough and in control but she is willing to do anything you ask of her tbh. she likes to make you happy and see you smile. she wants to be your best friend and the love of your life at the same time. she can get snappy when she’s having a bad day but most of the time is very chill and humorous. she’s the type to drop all her work and show up for you when you most need it.
    Libra: the mediator, the intellectual, the flirt. she will wake you up with rose petals but make you chase her all day. she loves to just talk to you 24/7 and keep the peace. she’s the type to plan a busy day for the both of you tomorrow but she won’t wake you up because she thinks you look too perfect and you’ll both spend the whole day cuddling instead.

    Scorpio: the warrior- will never want to leave you no matter how badly you treat her but can make your life a passive aggressive hell instead. she will respect you, always listen to you and court you- she’ll want to tell you her deepest pains at 3 in the morning while you sleep as if you are her own personal diary. she’s the type to show up in the rain at 2am after a fight and angrily kiss you without saying a word, it’ll feel like heaven and hell collided.

    Sagittarius: the traveller, she’ll travel your mind in ways you never thought someone could- she’ll ask just the right questions to known you better than you know yourself. she always knows what’s wrong and she always knows what to say. she’s the girl to tell you how it is, she doesn’t live in a fairytale but she makes reality seem like a dream. when you lay in bed with her at night you’ll be pinching yourself to make sure.

    Capricorn: the teacher, she’ll teach you how it’s like to live as her, she’ll teach you how to be a better person. she’ll teach you so many things about yourself that you feel lost without her. she puts her walls high, but she expects you to make the effort if you care about her. she is deeply romantic and compassionate: her love with soothe any pain you face throughout your days and she’ll teach you that you’re never alone in anything you do if you have her.

    Aquarius: the stranger, she’s so wonderfully unique and insane you’ll never find a love like hers again. she’s like flirting with a stranger on the train. she’s the most interesting conversation you’ve ever had. she’s like a once-in-a-lifetime photo captured, right in front of you. she will detach much like a stranger, then go all in like you’ve known her your whole life. she’ll make you question everything about love and it’s purpose, you will decide it is painful and strange, and yet you will still fall madly for her.

    Pisces: the princess, once you slay the dragon and make her yours, she will sacrifice a lot for you and work to keep you happy. she will introduce you to her perfect dreamland and provide a place at the throne. to her, you are royalty and she treats you like you are irreplaceable. she is a princess: graceful, friendly, strong. she loves to be loved, by you, and everyone. she dreams of a prince who can make her feel as loved as the heroines she constantly reads about.

    Take all the love he never wanted and give it to yourself

    ARIES
    What you want: Someone to show off. Someone who makes you feel passionate and excited all the time. A hot body, a nice face. Someone with smooth moves.
    What you need: Someone patient and forgiving. Someone intelligent and witty. Someone you won’t get bored of. Someone who won’t run away when things get rough.
    TAURUS
    What you want: A fixer-upper. Nicholas Sparks-type scenes. Lots of gifts. Undying attention. Someone who will agree with you and make you feel desirable and attractive.
    What you need: Someone who shares your views. Someone who respects you. A healthy amount of attention and material gifts. Someone who knows they’re good enough for you. Someone who knows you’re good enough for them.
    GEMINI
    What you want: A genius. A comedian. A hot mess. In other words, your twin flame.
    What you need: Wisdom to balance out knowledge. Someone with impulse control. Someone forgiving and understanding. Ears willing to listen… for a while.
    CANCER
    What you want: A romance-novel character. Lots of hugs, gifts, and reassurance. Someone who won’t hurt your feelings. Someone who knows exactly what you’re thinking and what you want.
    What you need: Someone to help you lighten up a little. Honesty. Security. Someone extraordinarily patient. Loyalty. 
    LEO
    What you want: Someone to show off to your friends. Someone to make you more popular. Attention out the wazoo. An admirer, your biggest fan. Undying support in everything you do.
    What you need: Someone wise and understanding. Someone you respect, and who respects you. Someone to be straight with you. Loyalty. Forgiveness. Someone who knows the value in the little gestures.
    VIRGO
    What you want: Someone self-sustainable. Intelligence and common sense. Someone who can give you space. Someone who will listen to you and accept your criticism.
    What you need: Someone to light up your life. Someone you never get bored of. A bit of a mystery. Someone who knows who they are. Someone who appreciates all that you do.
    LIBRA
    What you want: Someone to be romantic with. That cute couple aesthetic. Attention. A pretty face and a brilliant mind.
    What you need: A best friend. A mediator. Someone who won’t take advantage of you. Someone you can really talk to. 
    SCORPIO
    What you want: Someone who adores you. Submission. Omnipresence in their life. Complete devotion. Control. Passion.
    What you need: A mystery. Respect. A healthy amount of push-back. Someone you know you can trust. Someone you know will not hurt you. Undying loyalty. Honesty.
    SAGITTARIUS
    What you want: A travel buddy. A daredevil. Someone spunky and free. Someone “exotic”, mysterious, foreign. Someone who isn’t interested in textbook romance. 
    What you need: Someone who gets you. Someone with common sense. Someone who can forgive your little flubs. Independence. Consistency. Someone you could travel around the world with and not hate them afterwards.
    CAPRICORN
    What you want: Perfection. Loyalty. A mystery. A romance that doesn’t get in the way of work. Someone like-minded and intelligent.
    What you need: Someone to help you see the best side of things. Imagination and youth. Loyalty and respect. Someone who’s okay with being dominated, but not a pushover.
    AQUARIUS
    What you want: A mad scientist. A genius. A poet. Someone to share your interests with. A best friend. Freedom.
    What you need: Independence. Trust. Consistent communication. A best friend. A kind of intelligence you don’t have.
    PISCES
    What you want: A fairy-tale romance. A tortured artist. Someone you want to “fix”, someone you view as “the underdog”. Someone who’s sensitive, artistic, and poetic. Someone who dazzles you.
    What you need: Stability. Honesty. Patience. Someone who won’t walk all over you. Someone who doesn’t need you to fix them. Someone who will always wait for you to come back.

    Everything heals. Your body heals. Your heart heals. The mind heals. Wounds heal. Your soul repairs itself. Your happiness is always going to come back. Bad times don’t last.

    any relationship that could be “ruined” by having a conversation about feelings, standards, or expectations wasn’t really firm enough anyway, so there isn’t much to ruin

    You’re going to look for the love I gave you within whoever is next.

     A man being sensitive and emotional doesn’t automatically make him a good person
    This is super important. I denied the fact that I was in an abusive relationship for so long because my abuser would cry and sulk after hurting me. Just because someone is emotional or expresses emotion does not make them a good person.




    "   do you really want it? or do you just like the idea of having it?   " 

    "   Do not mock a pain that you haven’t endured.   " 




    I’ve stopped making being in love the center of my existence but it’s still the background of everything I do or say or think




    You think you’re ready
    for anything; then it happens, and you’re not. You’re really
    not.   "

    you deserve someone who isn’t embarrassed to love you and tells all their friends about you and saves your selfies, whether they’re good or bad to look at when they miss you and loses sleep to talk to you and tells you how much they love you and how beautiful you are all the time and i really hope you find that one day because you deserve to be loved

    Don’t allow yourself to stop your own progress just because you saw them again. You’re doing fine without them.

    one day you’ll come home after work and soak in a hot bath prepared for you by the person you love that you never thought would fall for you. you’ll have a plan for the future and know that what ever happens, you two will be there for each other. so keep your chin up & look forward cooking while you two are drunk and eating food that you know tastes bad, but enjoying it anyways. look forward to laughing and crying and moving on towards a bigger future with someone who sees the world in you. because I promise there will be a day when you two will find each other.

    Making me jealous will only push me away from you. It won’t make me want you more. I’m not very competitive, if I see someone who’s making you a lot happier than I am, I’ll back up because I’ll assume you want that person a lot more. Although it’ll hurt seeing someone other than me make you happy, I’ll leave it to them to keep you entertained. I don’t like the feeling of being unwanted or being just second best. I’m a very jealous person and I hate it.

    I can’t believe that I ever put up with such disrespectful behaviour from someone who was supposed to have loved me for so long when there’s so much better out there, no one deserves to go through all of that but a part of me is glad I did because I’ll never accept any of it again and fuck anyone that thinks it’s okay to lie to/cheat on/abuse and mistreat another person and call it “love”. I feel so detached from my ex like I can’t even think of him as a person anymore because he’s shown no signs of being one and maybe I don’t want him to die but I’m never going to wish well for him either, I take the most comfort in knowing that I was and still am too good for him in every way and most of all, that I feel happy and loved in a way that he will never feel.

     "   Life sometimes separates people so that they can realize how much they mean to each other.   " 

    There will be a next time. Another love, another chance, another opportunity. Keep looking forward.


    I’ve felt your loss a thousand times over. You’d think that by now I’d be used to it, that the wounds would’ve stopped breaking themselves open every time you leave. 

    why is it so easy to blame a woman for the mistakes of a man



    I’m over checking on ppl who don’t check on me at all. That’s done


    Are you afraid to fall in love?
    I’m afraid of being the only one who falls

    there’s no reason to feel ashamed about caring for somebody more than they care for you. there’s nothing shameful about having a big heart. especially since one day you’ll meet somebody whose heart matches your own.

    Fuck all this “lowkey” shit I wanna be held and told I’m appreciated. Ion lowkey need affection I’m craving that shit

    You know, I think one of the worst feelings is finding out that you didn’t mean as much to someone as you thought you did, and you just feel stupid, and because you looked desperate, about caring too much.

    don’t allow someone to treat you poorly just because you love them


    why do men think “she let me emotionally abuse her during my growing stage” is a romantic concept. that’s not love, she should have left u.

    You gotta accept that some people just dont want you 
    and that they out they damn mind cause you a great catch

    Don’t tell temporary people too much about you.

    "   I didn’t want to fall in love or need someone. I really didn’t want anything. But then, you appeared and I started wanting everything.   " 

    if they don’t get you, someone else will. if they don’t love you, tons of other people will. if they are not right for you it’ll still be okay.

    aries and cancer
    taurus and leo
    gemini and scorpio
    virgo and gemini
    libra and pisces
    sagittarius and aquarius
    capricorn and pisces 
    i just think these signs complement eachothers qualities well. without emphasising sun sign compatibility or its validity, i seem to find these signs together a lot 

    "   Stop breaking your own heart by trying to make a relationship work that clearly isn’t meant to work. You cant force someone to care about you. You cant force someone to be loyal. You cant force someone to be the person you need them to be. Sometimes the person you want most is the person you’re best without. You got to understand some things are meant to happen, but just not meant to be. Some things are meant to come into your life, just not meant to stay. Don’t lose yourself by trying to fix whats meant to stay broken. You cant get the relationship you need from someone who’s not ready to give it to you. And you might not understand why now, but i promise you, your future will always bring understanding of why things didn’t work out. Trust me. Don’t put your happiness on hold for someone who isn’t holding on to you. Some chapters just have to close without closure. Straight up.   " 
    i want someone to just be happy over me. happy to see me. happy to hear me. happy to know me.


    Funny how we let men slowly destroy us just so they stay w us because we Think we can’t survive and the thing is u have to die a couple times before u realize you’ll live


    "   Why does he make me so sad?” she asks. “Why does he make me cry?” 

    “Because you still care about him.” I say. 

    “Because you wish he would care back.

    Be picky about vibes. Be picky about the energy you surround yourself with. You owe yourself that much


    A healthy relationship keeps the doors and windows open. Plenty of air is circulating and no one feels trapped. Relationships thrive in this environment. Keep your doors and windows open. If this person is meant to be in your life, all the open doors and windows in the world won’t make them leave.

    I miss you and I have missed you but somehow I’m at peace with not having you anymore


    listen when a man tries to tell you that you’re looking for something to be mad about he’s gaslighting you. he’s trying to keep you quiet by making you believe everything you think is hurting you is being made up in your own mind.

    i don’t care if I got 10 guys texting me, 15 guys calling me cute, 20 guys begging me for a chance. If it isn’t from who I want, I couldn’t care less

    I’m just an almond milk girl in a cow milk world

       One day we got tired, tired of chasing, of caring, of worrying… Not because we didn’t want more, but because the person didn’t value our efforts. 


    "   The great thing about the past is that it shows you what not to bring into your future.   " 

    I am so good at pretending I am tired when I am actually very sad 


    "   You know what turns me on? Effort. Assurance. Show me you care. That you really want me. I’m tired of doubting whether people are coming or going.   " 



    A man being sensitive and emotional doesn’t automatically make him a good person


    you gotta get to that point where a man who disrespects you becomes unattractive. that you become disgusted by a man who doesn’t treat you like you deserve to be treated. where it’s such a turn off to be with a man like that that no matter how you felt before, you know it’s time to get up and go. it’s a part of working on your self esteem, even when you’re not single
    i wish you had fucked me as hard as you fucked me over


    true love is when something egregious and without comment happens and you look at your s/o like they’re the office camera and they’re already looking at you like you’re the office camera


    Stop asking why abused women stay. It’s never that simple.

    "   If you don’t know your gifts [and purpose], your gifts and purpose know you — and if you are open, you will not have to find them, because they will find you.   " 


    love really did turn me into a depressed bitch

    AQUARIUS: you deserve compassion. understanding. someone who extracts the passion you exert into everything you do and shoves it back into you. you deserve someone who falls in love with your fire, someone who views it as a strength instead of faulting you for burning forests to the ground. don’t let people shrink you.
    PISCES: you deserve patience. calamity. someone who knows your heart is in the right place, even if you don’t always know how to express your emotions accurately. you deserve someone loyal, someone who won’t drop you the second you make a mistake. i promise someone will love you in a way that feels convincing. wait for that person.
    ARIES: you deserve passion. excitement. someone who honors you for all that you are and is not afraid to tell you. someone who sees the stars in your eyes, even when you’re short-tempered and unreasonable, and would do anything to catch them. you deserve road trips; don’t settle for standing still. don’t settle for anyone who cannot help you grow.
    TAURUS: you deserve persistence. comfort. someone who will hold your hand and lead the way when all you want is to collapse in your bed. someone who knows you are trying your best. you deserve someone brave, with broad shoulders and steady hands. you deserve someone who will catch you when you fall. every time, without fail.
    GEMINI: you deserve laughter. humor. someone who won’t let you sleep until the corners of your mouth are curving upwards. you deserve someone intelligent, who catches onto your ever-changing moods and knows how to cheer you up. you deserve someone who keeps you interested, someone who can keep up with you, someone who will stay.
    CANCER: you deserve friendship. support. someone who cares about you as much as you care about everyone else. you deserve someone who makes you feel like a part of something bigger than yourself. you deserve someone who needs you. someone who is afraid to lose you. appreciation for all of the sacrifices you make.
    LEO: you deserve admiration. attention. someone who will pry you open and unravel your being. someone who loves to discover new things about you. who asks you about your dreams because talking about things that don’t matter isn’t really talking. substance is something you value and your values should never be taken lightly.
    VIRGO: you deserve permanence. loyalty. someone who will be where they say they will be when they say they will be there. you deserve someone devoted, who never leaves you hanging, who knows what they want and won’t let anyone stand in their way. your future is important. choose someone with the foundation to build it with.
    LIBRA: you deserve harmony. peace. someone as easy-going as you are, who is interested in all walks of life. you deserve someone open-minded and kind who treats you with respect. it’s the little things: hands on your waist, showing you off, leaving you love notes just because. you deserve to feel special. you are not asking for too much.
    SCORPIO: you deserve fullness. power. someone who makes you feel in control. someone who can keep up with your quick wit and level out your strong emotions. stop putting up with people who lie to you; it hurts you too badly. you deserve someone honest and straightforward, who never leaves you in the dark or feeds you any bullshit.
    SAGITTARIUS: you deserve optimism. positivity. someone who knows the sun will not always be out, but is not afraid to dance in the middle of the street with you through the rain, snow, and hail. don’t dwell on those who make you feel unfulfilled; leave them without feeling bad. love is supposed to be extraordinary. don’t settle for anything less.
    CAPRICORN: you deserve courage. ambition. you deserve someone responsible and caring, someone who won’t make reckless decisions just for the hell of it. you deserve someone dedicated to choosing you for you. don’t mold yourself into someone else just for adoration. you’re doing just fine and you deserve to be adored.


    Concept: you do not complete me, you remind me that I’m whole

    "   Those who cannot live fully often become destroyers of life. People lacking a strong sense of self are most likely to be contagious.   " 

    what if i told you that it isn’t a woman’s responsibility to keep a man from cheating on her?

    no other person on this planet was made for you, they were made for themselves. love is all about choices. no one is going to be perfect for you, and i think we need to stop raising everyone on the belief that someone out there, just one other person in the whole world, was “made for you” because it isn’t true. no one is made for you, besides you. other people belong to themselves. if you want to make it work with someone, it’s about hard work, understanding, compassion, communication, and choice

    "   I wanna be that girl… The girl you can’t stop thinking about all the time. The only girl you ever want to talk to. The girl you talk to your friends about. The girl you introduce to your family. The girl you dream about growing old with and having a family. The girl that can actually put a real smile on your face and who makes you laugh until you cry. The girl you can be your complete self around. The girl you love to death and would do anything for her. I wanna be that girl.   " 

    Do you remember the things that I made you feel? 

    "   Damaged people fuck, laugh and drink harder.   " 



    My forgiveness comes with distance. Cause I don’t wanna give you another chance to hurt me.


    "   You’ll never believe you’re worth anything by staying with someone who treats you like you’re worth nothing. Free yourself from that mess.   " 

    She’s like the sea, if you don’t understand her, you will drown 

    You deserve a conscious lover. Someone who will not only know your favorite color or flower, but when to offer words in your rage, or the strongest embrace when no words will do.
    You deserve a conscious lover. Someone who will not only work with you but for you. Work for your happiness when you’ve forgotten how to create it.. work for your smile when your lips won’t curve.
    You, my dear, deserve a conscious lover that couldn’t imagine being anything else.




    Don’t fall in love with my looks. I can get my face slashed, I can suffer third degree burns, I can age badly. I want you to fall in love with my heart. I want a love where I can get in an accident, become paralyzed and still have you there because we’re more than just the physical.

    don’t trust people who are friends with people who have mistreated you in the past


    I like spending time w people who visibly enjoy spending time w me too


    Don’t ever apologize with the intent of getting forgiveness. You should apologize because you feel remorse for your actions and feel the need to apologize. If you deserve forgiveness then it will be given.

    I crave this intense love, like can’t stop touching each other, road trip, complementing and loving on each other, lifting each other up respectable kinda love. Like the kinda love I give to people but don’t get in return. Lol






    She sleeps a lot because her dreams are prettier than reality.


     "   Fuck being nice to everyone. If someone treats you badly, you have every right not to tolerate bullshit.   " 



    people who care about you will show you in the way they talk to you, the way they listen to you, and what they’re willing to do for you. in the same ways, those who don’t care about you will also make it clear. pay attention to the cues.

    I miss you and I have missed you but somehow I’m at peace with not having you anymore

    loving someone takes more than just love

    I would rather have someone blow up my phone with messages because they care about me than constantly be left empty handed and unsure about how someone really feels about me

    "   I don’t know. 
    Maybe they’re right. 
    Maybe the you that I knew
    doesn’t exist anymore. 

    Or maybe you’re buried beneath
    the weight of all that’s happened to us
    just like I am. 

    All I know is that despite 
    wherever you’ve gone, 
    (or maybe I should say 
    whoever you are)—

    my foolish heart still hopes 
    you’re taking care.   "



    those little things on ur nose aren’t blackheads, don’t try and get rid of them they’re sebaceous filaments and they’re permanent and literally everyone has them
    every girl has that little pouch of fat on her lower tummy, despite what magazines try n show u, you have important organs there that need to be protected don’t try and get rid of ur pouch
    ur body is smarter than u think and it knows what to do when u eat more than normal. one bad day, or even week, of eating poorly isn’t gonna ruin anything at all I pinky promise
    if u think u look good up until u try taking a selfie, it’s not ur fault - our faces are asymmetrical and when u see ur face flipped it will look unnatural to u, since u don’t see it that way when u look in the mirror. to everyone else it looks perfectly fine
    no one’s stomach looks the same at 8pm as it does at 8am. no one has a chiseled six pack after a day of eating, not even the super fit people u see on tumblr, because ur stomach naturally expands after eating and expecting to have a flat tummy before bed is very unrealistic
    no one notices if the bags under ur eyes are bad today. no one pays attention to the bump in ur nose or the zit on ur chin or the piece of hair that u missed when u were straightening. literally no one notices these things except you so stop worrying about it ur gonna be fine
    sometimes u just gotta get over urself

    i really hate being in love or having feelings for someone because i become so consumed with them to the point of exhaustion. when i really love someone, so much of my time and energy is invested in them. 


    Aries- Introduce excitement and adventure, let them throw fits without resentment, but rather understanding their nature. 
    Taurus-Home comforts, sensual pleasures, an environment without pressure, pledging loyal support to them.
    Gemini- Distraction, encourage wit and humour within their personalities, yet keep the atmosphere relaxing, so to sooth anxiety and nerves.
    Cancer-  Unconditional support and comfort, food, empathy and security building. Emotional availability. 
    Leo- Respect their demanding and childlike expression when they are in distress, rather than inflicting shame upon them. Unconditional love.
    Virgo- Help them declutter their surroundings, which can lead to feelings of decluttering their mind. Go through their worries and assess the rationality of them together.
    Libra- Be unconditionally present with them through their struggles, encourage creative outlets and expression. Don’t relate loneliness to codependency. 
    Scorpio- Never inflict feelings of shame when Scorpio share their thoughts, no matter how dark you believe them to be. Should Scorpio be shunned, they may never speak up again. 
    Sagittarius- Let them spread their wings without barriers, take them outdoors, so they can experience the vastness of live over feelings of restriction. 
    Capricorn- Be supportive above anything else, encourage them in their hopes and dreams, be the open ears should they wish to express dissatisfaction. 
    Aquarius-  Intellectual exploration and stimulation, excitement, distraction, let them understand that you appreciate and admire their stance on their own lives.
    Pisces- Encourage sleep, rest and relaxation, let their minds drift off to another place without accusing them of simply daydreaming. Empathy and compassion


    Aries: Keep on working hard. Your passion is an inspiration to others. // Learn to take criticism. Some people criticize you because they love you. Embrace your flaws and be patient with yourself.
    Taurus: You're so steady and practical. The world needs that. // Stop judging others. None of the grass is green. We're all going through something.
    Gemini: Versatility is your specialty. Do things the way you want to do it. It's working. // Just be yourself. You don't need to change faces with people. Your loved ones will always stay.
    Cancer: Stay sweet and caring. Some people would not be here without your kindness. // The world doesn't resolve around you. Your problems are not the world's problems. You'll have more peace when you realize that.
    Leo: You're a shining inspiration to so many people. Keep on loving yourself. It's beautiful. // Don't let your pride and ego ruin good relationships. Selflessness is a virtue.
    Virgo: Keep up the good work. You work so hard, and your work will bear so much fruit, believe me. // Not everything will always go according to plan and that's okay. Take a deep breath.
    Libra: Your problem-solving skills are enough to end all wars. You are such a joy to be with. // It's okay to show your feelings, even if it ruins the atmosphere. Don't hide your feelings for the sake of others. Love yourself.
    Scorpio: You think so deeply. You are full of substance, and you have so much potential. // Not everybody will love you with a knife behind their back. A lack of trust will drive anyone away. Trust people.
    Sagittarius: You're so free. While everybody's emotionally tied down and tired, you're flying and soaring. // You're honestly reckless. People worry about you. Please be careful.
    Capricorn: Your ambitions are so high. You have big dreams and you're special for working hard. Keep on doing it. // Being snobby and pretentious isn't going to make you look any better. Be you. That's enough.
    Aquarius: The way you work and function is uniquely innovative. You start new things. Stay cool. // Being emotionally detached isn't going to shield you from all the inevitable pain. Everyone feels pain.
    Pisces: You're so gentle, soft-hearted, and creative. It's endearing. // Self-pity is the worst kind of pity. Step it up. You can do it.

      And sometimes you have to step back and think on why you always run back to them, why they can bring you the comfort you crave, the comfort you can’t find in anyone else. And sometimes you realize you’re in love.   "


    "   When they see you’re doing better without them, that’s when they want you back.   " 

    Not all toxic people are cruel and uncaring. Some of them love us dearly. Many of them have good intentions. Most are toxic to our being simply because their needs and way of existing in the world force us to compromise ourselves and our happiness. They aren’t inherently bad people, but they aren’t the right people for us. And as hard as it is, we have to let them go. Life is hard enough without being around people who bring you down, and as much as you care, you can’t destroy yourself for the sake of someone else. You have to make your wellbeing a priority. Whether that means breaking up with someone you care about, loving a family member from a distance, letting go of a friend, or removing yourself from a situation that feels painful — you have every right to leave and create a safer space for yourself.   " 


    I’m too pretty for you treating me like an option the fuck wrong w you

    I wanna live with someone and cook dinner together and watch reruns of chopped and get drunk in bubble baths




    You’re not over exaggerating. You’re not too sensitive. You’re not too much. If it hurts you it fucking hurts you. If it makes you angry, then it makes you angry. There’s nothing wrong with you for feeling.

    very small things always leave a very big impact on my mood

    there are people you haven’t met yet who will love you


     

    Surround yourself with others that brings the best out of you


    " New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings. "

    "   It’s not about having the perfect relationship, it’s about finding someone who matches you & will go through everything without giving up.   " 


    Girls know girls who know girls who know girls, that will find out what you did


    You know what’s so dang attractive? KINDNESS. PEOPLE WHO ARE KIND AND WARM AND DONT IGNORE YOU AND ARE GOOD FRIENDS AND SMILE A LOT AND LOVE PEOPLE ARE REALLY ATTRACTIVE BUT THATS JUST MY OPINION




    you are worth more than second thoughts and maybes

    "   at 17 or even 32, nobody is worth stressing over, like move on, leave people behind, go find yourself, the world is yours, life goes on.   " 



    "   Fall in love with someone who wants you, who waits for you. who understands you even in the madness; someone who helps you, and guides you, someone who is your support, your hope. fall in love with someone who talks with you after a fight. Fall in love with someone who misses you and wants to be with you. Do not fall in love only with a body or with a face; or with the idea of being in love   " 

    I woke up this morning, ate a protein bar and some strawberries and did 125 sumo squats and danced around in my underwear with my daughter and we just giggled and smiled with each other and I realized she was placed in my life to love me unconditionally when other people don’t.. I also looked at my self in my mirror and for the first time in a long time thought wow after all those years of being compared to other girls and feeling like I wasn’t good enough from being cheated on I am absolutely beautiful and my body after having a baby is amazing and it wasn’t me or anything I could do differently, some people just aren’t capable of loving you how you deserve and that’s when you pick yourself up thank god for the lesson and move forward and I’m proud of myself for realizing my worth finally.

    You’re not as important to some people as they are to you. Remember.



    i hope you guys find someone that is worthy of learning all the tiny things about you, i hope they are worthy of seeing you at your most vulnerable and hidden, i hope they are worthy of keeping you company during moments that you used to want to endure alone 



    Here’s a general rule if you can’t express your feelings or talk abt what you feel with your partner without them directly or indirectly making you feel like a burden / like you stress them out / like they’re doing you a gracious favor by listening to you without flipping out / like you need to tiptoe around their anger or potential ability to leave 
    Their actions will help you indicate if they make you feel this way bc I know being paranoid abt this is something that most of us can’t help but there’s a clear line between our trauma making us FEAR this versus someone we are with DOING this and us… Subsequently FEELING what is being DONE to us 
    That isn’t a partnership and that isn’t love that’s power lust and barrenness being directed towards Feeling and the partner that is doing the feeling and expressing turns into the target in this dynamic

    dick is everywhere but chemistry isn’t



    I have to remind myself that I don’t need anyone no one is my water, my energy, my air I shouldn’t ever make someone so important where I need them to feel valued and loved

    remember: sometimes someone is right for us but we aren’t right for them and sometimes someone isn’t right for you but you’re the one right for them.
    then again eventually along this life full of disappointment you find someone who is both right for you and you for them, i hope that day comes soon



    nothing in a relationship matters more than feeling secure with the person that you’re with. 
    if you don’t trust ur partner ur relationship is already over

    Nah, a relationship would be cool if the understanding is there. And the vibe is actually real.

    Some guys are just so boring. Like all they have to offer is dick, a few good morning texts, and a boring conversation. And people settle for it because they are desperate to have someone. But life should be exciting and relationships should be fun and spontaneous and bring out the creativity in both people. Well that’s what it has to be for me. That’s a must. Wanting to experience a life of enjoyment together is a form of intimacy



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    I spent 5 years hurting a good woman by staying with her but never fully choosing her.
    I did want to be with this one. I really wanted to choose her. She was an exquisite woman, brilliant and funny and sexy and sensual. She could make my whole body laugh with her quick, dark wit and short-circuit my brain with her exotic beauty. Waking up every morning with her snuggled in my arms was my happy place. I loved her wildly.
    Unfortunately, as happens with many young couples, our ignorance of how to do love well quickly created stressful challenges in our relationship. Before long, once my early morning blissful reverie gave way to the strained, immature ways of our everyday life together, I would often wonder if there was another woman out there who was easier to love, and who could love me better.
    As the months passed and that thought reverberated more and more through my head, I chose her less and less. Every day, for five years, I chose her a little less.
    I stayed with her. I just stopped choosing her. We both suffered.
    Choosing her would have meant focusing every day on the gifts she was bringing into my life that I could be grateful for: her laughter, beauty, sensuality, playfulness, companionship, and so … much … more.
    Sadly, I often found it nearly impossible to embrace – or even see – what was so wildly wonderful about her.
    I was too focused on the anger, insecurities, demands, and other aspects of her strong personality that grated on me. The more I focused on her worst, the more I saw of it, and the more I mirrored it back to her by offering my own worst behavior. Naturally, this only magnified the strain on our relationship … which still made me choose her even less.
    Thus did our nasty death spiral play itself out over five years.
    She fought hard to make me choose her. That’s a fool’s task. You can’t make someone choose you, even when they might love you.
    To be fair, she didn’t fully choose me, either. The rage-fueled invective she often hurled at me was evidence enough of that.
    I realize now, however, that she was often angry because she didn’t feel safe with me. She felt me not choosing her every day, in my words and my actions, and she was afraid I would abandon her.
    Actually, I did abandon her.
    By not fully choosing her every day for five years, by focusing on what bothered me rather than what I adored about her, I deserted her.
    Like a precious fragrant flower I brought proudly into my home but then failed to water, I left her alone in countless ways to wither in the dry hot heat of our intimate relationship.
    I’ll never not choose another woman I love again.
    It’s torture for everyone.
    If you’re in relationship, I invite you to ask yourself this question:
    “Why am I choosing my partner today?”
    If you can’t find a satisfying answer, dig deeper and find one. It could be as simple as noticing that in your deepest heart’s truth, “I just do.”
    If you can’t find it today, ask yourself again tomorrow. We all have disconnected days.
    But if too many days go by and you just can’t connect with why you’re choosing your partner, and your relationship is rife with stress, let them go. Create the opening for another human being to show up and see them with fresh eyes and a yearning heart that will enthusiastically choose them every day.
    Your loved one deserves to be enthusiastically chosen. Every day.
    You do, too.
    Choose wisely. 

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    It is hard to choose something to work for when you don’t have any one thing on your mind. They say to choose what makes you happy, pick whatever you want. The only problem is that I don’t know what I want more-so than anything else. I want to do everything and anything. I want to teach children, or be an astronaut. I want to work for the UN, I want to be a vet and own a bar and save the oceans and raise awareness and make a difference.
    the only thing I do know I want is I want to be happy in whatever it is that I am doing. I want it to matter.



    You’re not over exaggerating. You’re not too sensitive. You’re not too much. If it hurts you it fucking hurts you. If it makes you angry, then it makes you angry. There’s nothing wrong with you for feeling.

    Stay away from people who use what you’ve told them in private against you.
    Stay away from people who use you in private and don’t claim you in public.


    Aries: You tried to control them, you tied them down. You always rained on their parade or made it all about you. You made them feel like you needed them too much. They couldn’t reciprocate your feelings. They were bored. You were always arguing and they felt like you didn’t listen to them. 
    Taurus: You didn’t need them. You didn’t pamper them. You didn’t wait for them to catch up with you, you made them feel like a second or third option instead of a first choice. You pressured them. They felt ignored. They felt unattractive. The relationship exhausted them. 
    Gemini: You were clingy. You didn’t understand them, they couldn’t communicate with you. You couldn’t keep up with them. They felt like the relationship was losing its spark. They loved someone else. You loved them too deeply and smothered them. They were confused and lost.
    Cancer: You didn’t try to understand them. You didn’t care about their stories of the past. You blamed them for your mistakes. They felt unloved and unneeded. They were in love with their ex. You made them feel like they were shouting at a brick wall. They were afraid they would hurt you.
    Leo: You didn’t listen to them. They couldn’t make you laugh. They felt ugly and boring around you. They got jealous. You made fun of them too much, you belittled them, you made them feel like everything was their fault. You were bossy. They wanted to be the sun, but you were an eclipse. 
    Virgo: You didn’t appreciate them. You didn’t respect them. They felt worthless, they felt misunderstood. They felt used. They loved you more than you loved them. You were clingy or demanding. You couldn’t appreciate their quiet, serving way of showing love. 
    Libra: The relationship lost the honeymoon feeling. You tried to control them or keep tabs on them. You asked for too much from them. They got tired of trying to please you. They felt like you didn’t appreciate their efforts to keep you happy. They were falling for another. You walked all over them, so they got up and walked away.
    Scorpio: They couldn’t trust you. You didn’t trust them. You judged them. They loved you more than you loved them. You were careless with your words. You kept secrets. They were suspicious of your loyalty. You didn’t understand them. They thought you were shallow or superficial. 
    Sagittarius: You tried to keep them too close. You didn’t let them go where they wanted. You were stingy and materialistic. They didn’t see you in their future. You pressured them to think about the future. You didn’t respect their opinion. They found you small-minded. They didn’t love you as much as you loved them. 
    Capricorn: You didn’t give them space. They were busy with school or work. You were too needy, too demanding, required too much reassurance. You didn’t support their interests or career. They didn’t feel appreciated and understood. You made them feel like they were being pulled in many different directions, and they felt tired and stretched to the limit. 
    Aquarius: You didn’t have any common interests. You were needy or clingy. You didn’t appreciate the things they did for you. They needed to be alone. You made them feel small. You couldn’t help yourself, you expected too much of them. They felt unneeded. They had a greater calling from somewhere else. You didn’t like their individuality.
    Pisces: You were not there for them. You used them, you lied to them, you tricked them. You took advantage of their kindness, their understanding, their forgiveness. They were afraid of you. They saw another side of you that they couldn’t handle. You were overbearing, domineering, close-minded. They looked at you like you put the stars in the sky… and you looked away.

    Damn your promises. They don’t mean anything anymore. 


    do not lower your standards, you deserve good things.
    Was lost in someone who was never mine

    do men really love us or do they just love the way that we make them feel

    I love sharing a bed with someone I care about. I love feeling someone breathe next to me I love being enveloped by someone else’s smell I love being able to roll over in the middle of the night and wrap my arms sleepily around someone and feel their warmth.



    Just pray to be married to someone that respects you, your feelings, your dislikes, your insecurities and discomfort, and your goals.
    It’s one thing to love someone the way you want to love them
    and another to love someone the way they need to be loved.

    The person you love is not the same as they were when you first started loving them and they are not the same as they will be when you die. Love must be adaptive. Love must be smart enough and strong enough to survive constant change. Love must not be rigid. 



    nothing makes me happier than a glass of stella after a long day


    "If you gotta force it, just leave it alone. Relationships, friendships, ponytails.. Just leave it."





    i think the best feeling is someone telling you they love you especially when it’s unexpected

    Love will come. Don’t drive yourself crazy looking for it. Never change yourself with the attempt to get it. Stay true to yourself. Harness the love within. Focus on your gifts. Work on becoming a better you. Love will come. Work to perfect the love for yourself first and foremost.

    "   Forgive yourself. Not just once. Again, and again, and again. As many times as it takes to find peace.   "

    Before you, I knew how. And after you, I knew how again 

    Be careful who you get close to because when you do get close you start to grow together. You start to mix thoughts, ideas, and actions. Like how two plants growing next to each other have tangled roots. It can be the most enriching thing or the hardest thing to take apart.



    I’m so glad I stopped giving my love to people who weren’t deserving of it and that they’ll never have it like that again


    But seriously if you wanna talk to me rather it’s building towards a relationship or even a friendship do not text or respond to me with no boring answers. I’m really not about that wyd every two minutes and one word replies bc that just shows you fake and really must not care that much. When I talk to people, especially if I feel a genuine connection, I expect you to reciprocate the same energy especially since you the one who wanted to talk to me first. If not, like bye. Don’t even talk to me.

    will buss it wide open for someone who’s loyal

    please stop going back to people who fucked you over, they don’t deserve you in their life if they decided to diminish your worth for even a second.

    "   You know what sucks? you always remind yourself “not to fall in love” or “don’t get too attached” either both of the options but look at yourself now, who’s getting hurt again and over again.   " 

    "   No boy deserves your body if it’s the only thing he is willing to value you for   " 

    but it really is so important to find people who don’t lose patience with you or get angry if you’re being irrational or insecure or downright ridiculous, it is so so necessary to be treated with gentleness from loved ones and not to be made to feel like you’re irritating or a burden
    Two words: your loss


    I think I understand Leo men really well. I could never be romantically involved with any but! I get them. A Leo + Leo relationship wouldn’t be a good one I don’t think. We both give it all we’ve got when it comes to love but. I already have what I have. I don’t need someone else to give me that. And I think Leos in general crave, in relationships, what they can’t give themselves. They crave someone who will support them without doubt. Chaperone them. Validate them. Be gentle with them. We aren’t good at being kind to ourselves. And sometimes we can become very cruel when we’re hurt, so we need those who will understand this. Friendship wise I love befriending other Leos though because we value the same things (trust, protection, honesty, encouragement, unwavering loyalty) and we despise the same things (betrayal, fickle people, criticism, oblivion, doubt, materialism)

    This.

    I can’t handle being unhappy anymore if you’re not making me laugh, or smile get the fuck away from me.

    i want us to meet again. later on. when we are older and kinder.

    what ever you do, follow your instinct. if something feels wrong to you, acknowledge it. tell yourself it doesn’t feel right. do not let yourself get into things you didn’t actually want to get into. value your comfort and safety over everything else. trust your gut.

    no offense but I’ve decided I’m gonna stop being sad and start being unbelievably powerful, creative, and full of love & light

    Men who slam doors and furniture are making sure you hear how much they want to hit you.



    Questions for Knowing Yourself Better
    1. If you could change one aspect of your life or personality, what would it be?
    2. Are you “your own person” or are you defined and pushed around by others?
    3. Is there any area of your life where you feel out of control?
    4. Do you feel more comfortable in an organised or chaotic environment?
    5. How comfortable are you with spontaneous ideas, or a last minute change in plans?
    6. Do you feel renewed by being around others, or is it crucial for you to have time on your own?
    7. Are you motivated or undermined by competition?
    8. Do you work well under pressure, or do you tend to fall apart?
    9. Are you better at complimenting and doing things for others, or complimenting and doing things for yourself?
    10. Are you a morning or an evening person?
    11. Do you persevere, or do you give up easily?
    12. Do you like to go with the flow, or take control of your life and circumstances?
    13. Are you more of a thinker or a feeler?
    14. What are your passions and goals?
    15. What would your perfect day look like?


    Recognize how you hurt people not just how people hurt you

    I cherish people who don’t just use me as a vessel for themselves, who don’t only see me as someone who exists to make them feel better

    How to know which boy you like:
    1. Get very drunk
    2. You will cry about the boy you like

    "   She’s something odd and uncertain, half of her was made of stars, full of death and filled with light; her other half was made of scars, full of life and filled with darkness.   " 


    how cool is meeting new people, discovering new places, rekindling friendships, finding new obsessions. constantly changing, constantly growing.


    "Stop allowing other people’s jaded ways of life to define how you see yourself… A lot of these people don’t have anything to lose. A lot of them don’t have passion for anything else in life. They’re just sitting and– they’re like hermits… They’re just stagnant and they want you to be the very same, because again, misery loves company y'know?"


    "I began to realize how important it was to be an enthusiast in life. If you are interested in something, no matter what it is, go at it full speed ahead. Embrace it with both arms, hug it, love it and above all become passionate about it. Lukewarm is no good."


    "Life is an awful, ugly place to not have a best friend."

    "Realize everytime you get upset, it drains your energy. Losing your cool makes you tired and getting angry messes with your health."



    "I also believe that introversion is my greatest strength. I have such a strong inner life that I’m never bored and only occasionally lonely. No matter what mayhem is happening around me, I know I can always turn inward."



    "You must let the pain visit.
2. You must allow it teach you.
3. You must not allow it overstay."

    "You can only go but so far with someone who is not genuinely receptive of your essence. To truly understand the expressions of your being, they must sync with your wavelength."

    "In your entire life, you can probably count your true friends on one hand. Maybe even on one finger. Those are the friends you need to cherish, and I wouldn’t trade one of them for a hundred of the other kind. I’d rather be completely alone than with a bunch of people who aren’t real. People who are just passing time."

    "Don’t be jealous of anyone. I guarantee you, if everyone walked into a room, and dumped their problems onto the floor, when they saw what everyone else’s problems were, they’d be scrambling to get their own problems back before someone else got to them first."


    "If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much."

    ac-z:
“ The Apartment by the Line, SoHo. Nikon F100 | Portra 400VC. (via samtakes)
”

    "She quietly expected great things to happen to her, and no doubt that’s one of the reasons why they did."

    "I am practicing being kind instead of right."

    verslutce:
“ verslutce
”
v me @ work look

    nostalgia is a liar. nothing was ever as good as you remember it to be. there’s a reason you don’t talk to that person anymore, there’s a reason you’re not part of each other’s lives. don’t trust nostalgia. grieve. reflect. move on

    "I wondered if a memory is something you have or something you’ve lost."


    "I only have energy for communication that seeks deeper connections, understanding, and spiritual truths. Communication with no substantial meaning leads to a dead end. I am considered quiet to most, but talkative with those who resonate."

    "The future is a concept, it doesn’t exist. There is no such thing as tomorrow. There never will be, because time is always now. That’s one of the things we discover when we stop talking to ourselves and stop thinking. We find there is only present, only an eternal now."

    "Not everything is supposed to become something beautiful and long-lasting. Sometimes people come into your life to show you what is right and what is wrong, to show you who you can be, to teach you to love yourself, to make you feel better for a little while, or to just be someone to walk with at night and spill your life to. Not everyone is going to stay forever, and we still have to keep on going and thank them for what they’ve given us."

    "I think loneliness comes with being creative, because you are obsessed with creation. And it is so satisfying that sometimes, I have noticed, I completely neglect my friends and my family, and they fall away."

    "Judge someone by their attitude when the rain starts pouring out of no where. By how they handle having to wait in line for things. By how they react when the store runs out of their shoe size. A well planned and organized person is always presentable, but it’s the raw unaccountability of the world that brings out the real you."

    If he makes you feel safe, let him.

    thestylegetup:
    1112pm:
    When you find a man who goes out of his way to care for you, cater to you and ask about you consistently— don’t push him away. If he knows about your sadness that hovers at 3AM and the reasons that keep you wide awake, and he stays on the phone to coo you back to sleep— please keep him. If he thinks that your crying is cute and reminds you every day of how lucky he is to have you— try your best not to retreat back into your shell. If he makes you feel safe, let him. Support him in his choices whether they are full or lacking of logic. Be his best friend. Return his efforts.
    Because somebody like that doesn’t come around very often when you get older.

    "I’m not lonely except in the nighttime. 
    In the still of my empty bed and the pauses in-between cups of coffee and paying bills. In the quiet of the house and cats sunning themselves, I’m not lonely until I realize I have no one to share my happiness with."

    "Let people be hungry for you. Be unavailable from time to time, you’re focusing on your shit."





    "Passion has little to do with euphoria and everything to do with patience. It is not about feeling good. It is about endurance. Like patience, passion comes from the same Latin root: pati. It does not mean to flow with exuberance. It means to suffer."


    the most toxic thing you can do to yourself is let too many people know your personal life

    "Invest in yourself. You can afford it. Trust me."



    "Life is only as good as your mindset"

    "I want to grow. I want to be better. You Grow. We all grow. We’re made to grow.You either evolve or you disappear."

    "We travel because we need to, because distance and difference are the secret tonic to creativity. When we get home, home is still the same, but something in our minds has changed, and that changes everything."

    "If you want to go somewhere you like but no one else wants to, go by yourself. You’ll meet people with similar interests as you."

    "She always wanted the “perfect moments.” If the time was not convenient, she took no more interest in anything, her eyes became lifeless, she dragged along lazily like a great awkward girl."


    I admire women who are effortlessly stylish, who laugh easily, who are genuinely kind, and who tell the truth about themselves.


    "She has an incredibly definite character, and knows herself exactly what she wants without asking all the world or troubling about the world."
    "When someone’s been gone a long time, at first you save up all the things you want to tell them. You try to keep track of everything in your head. But it’s like trying to hold on to a fistful of sand: all the little bits slip out of your hands, and then you’re just clutching air and grit."

    I see everything, whether I see it worth my time to speak up about it/give it my time of day is a different story


    "She is, and forever will be a lone wolf. She’s happy living life in her own mind and she’s content with watching the world around her in silence. She’ll never belong to anyone, and that’s what’s so beautiful about her, she’s running wild."


    "Nothing in this world is permanent, and we’re foolish when we ask anything to last, but surely we’re still more foolish not to take delight in it while we have it."

    "If we accept time for what it is, how it flows and how we flow with it, I doubt very much that would continue wasting loads of it by constantly checking our watches."

    "So you’re in love again. Well it’s the only thing worth a damn to be. No matter how being in love comes out it’s sure worth it all while it’s going on."

    "Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once we grow up."

    "Honestly, I don’t need someone that sees what’s good about me. I need someone that sees the bad and still wants me."

    "An entire sea of water can’t sink a ship unless it gets inside the ship. Similarly, the negativity of the world can’t put you down unless you allow it to get inside you."

    "It seemed like you could know me. Like you could understand anything I told you. And the more we spoke, I knew why. The same things excited us. The same things concerned us."

    "I think you’re just remembering the good stuff. Next time you look back, I really think you should look again."

    "Don’t assume, ask. Be kind. Tell the truth. Don’t say anything you can’t stand behind fully. Have integrity. Tell people how you feel."

    "A traveler sees what he sees. A tourist sees what he’s come to see."

    "Don’t wait for it,’ I said. ‘Create a world, your world. Alone. Stand alone. Create. And then the love will come to you, then it comes to you. It was only when I wrote my first book that the world I wanted to live in opened up to me.’"

    "Eat like you love yourself. Move like you love yourself. Speak like you love yourself. Act like you love yourself."

    "Someday, somewhere — anywhere, unfailingly, you’ll find yourself, and that, and only that, can be the happiest or bitterest hour of your life."

    "You can love your friends.. ..you can love your family … you can even love every stray dog or stray drummer that crosses your path. HOWEVER, you have to learn how to love yourself, like yourself, and put yourself first before you will ever find the healthy, loving, and lasting relationship that you’ve been looking for."


    "Art and love are the same thing: It’s the process of seeing yourself in things that are not you."

    "I will remember your small room, the feel of you, the light in the window, your records, your books, our morning coffee, our noons, our nights, our bodies spilled together, sleeping, the tiny flowing currents, immediate and forever. Your leg, my leg, your arm, my arm, your smile and the warmth of you who made me laugh again."

    "I have the deepest affection for intellectual conversations. The ability to just sit and talk. About love, about life, about anything, about everything. To sit under the moon with all the time in the world, the full-speed train that is our lives slowing to a crawl. Bound by no obligations, barred by no human limitations. To speak without regret or fear of consequence. To talk for hours and about what’s really important in life."

    "Fake people have an image to maintain. Real people just don’t care."

    "Being a positive person doesn’t mean you have to be bubbly, chipper & happy 24/7. It is okay to feel down. You are only human and it is part of the human experience. Don’t suppress these feelings when they come. Acknowledge them. Feel them. And accept them as a chapter in your journey. You can’t fast forward through parts of the movie and fully grasp the whole narrative. Just like you can’t fast forward through the bad parts in your life and expect it all to make sense. Keep watching and you’ll learn to understand why certain experiences were significant to the overall story. Being positive isn’t the absence of pain. Find meaning to the struggle and see the light in the distance no matter how far away it may seem at the time. Have faith those bad feelings are just temporary visitors."

    "You’ve a good heart. Sometimes that’s enough to see you safe wherever you go. But mostly, it’s not."

    "Bad stuff does happen, sometimes. Always remember that. But remember that you have to move on somehow. You pick your head up and stare at something beautiful like the sky, or the ocean, and you move the hell on."

    "You need to be content with small steps. That’s all life is. Small steps that you take every day so when you look back down the road it all adds up and you know you covered some distance. It took me a long time to accept that, but it’s true. You need to have patience."

    "The way to love someone is to lightly run your finger over that person’s soul until you find a crack, and then gently pour your love into that crack."

    "No relationship can truly grow if you go on holding back. If you remain clever and go on safeguarding and protecting yourself, only personalities meet, and the essential centers remain alone. Then only your mask is related, not you. Whenever such a thing happens, there are four persons in the relationship, not two. Two false persons go on meeting, and the two real persons remain worlds apart."

    "Every city has a sex and an age which have nothing to do with demography. Rome is feminine. So is Odessa. London is a teenager, an urchin, and, in this, hasn’t change since the time of Dickens. Paris, I believe, is a man in his twenties in love with an older woman."

    "As you walk and eat and travel, be where you are. Otherwise you will miss most of your life."

    "Someone once told me a story about long term relationships. To think of them as a continent to explore. I could spend a lifetime backpacking through Africa, and I would still never know all there is to know about that continent. To stay the course, to stay intentional, to stay curious and connected – that’s the heart of it. But it’s so easy to lose track of the trail, to get tired, to want to give up, or to want a new adventure. It can be so easy to lose sight of the goodness and mystery within the person sitting right in front of you."

    "If we wait for the moment when everything, absolutely everything is ready, we shall never begin."

    "I have been bent and broken, but — I hope — into a better shape."

    "I hope you read some fine books and kiss someone who thinks you’re wonderful, and don’t forget to make some art— write or draw or build or sing or live as only you can."

    "Maybe the moon is beautiful only because it is far. 

    "Everytime I understand a little more, I wonder why it’s taken me so long - why there was ever at time when I didn’t understand a thing so obvious and real and true."


    "You have your whole life ahead of you. Be smart. Study hard and be independent…You must rely on yourself. No matter what else people may steal from you, they will never be able to take away your knowledge. The world is changing. You must make your own life outside this home."


    "What a sad thought it is, that some of us will 
    surrender and settle down long before we’ve 
    met the person we are supposed to love."

    "Your soulmate is not someone that comes into your life peacefully. It is who comes to make you question things, who changes your reality, somebody that marks a before and after in your life. It is not the human being everyone has idealized, but an ordinary person, who manages to revolutionize your world in a second …"


    violentmovement:
“ Natalie Portman
”

    I have very few friends irl but I have reached a point in my self love journey where I can zip up my dress by myself, comfortably eat alone in public, and make myself laugh until my stomach hurts. At this point I welcome anyone to love me but I don’t need them to

    Please be a traveler, not a tourist. Try new things, meet new people, and look beyond what’s right in front of you. Those are the keys to understanding this amazing world we live in."

    "You’ll make mistakes, but as long as what you’re focused on is what you’re passionate about, all the other things will fall into place. If there’s anything you’re going to give less priority to, it shouldn’t be your passion. You can never go wrong with that."


    "You helped me see how much more I am actually worth, for that I thank you."

    I want your Monday morning
    sleep soaked eyes
    dream drenched voice,
    lazy bones
    ‘five more minutes please babe.’
    I want your Tuesday afternoon
    coffee break,
    glasses off, laughter on
    ‘just hold me for a while
    it’s been a hard day.’
    I want your Wednesday evening
    fingers through hair
    teeth nibbling nails
    neck craning, eye glazing
    ‘this paperwork never ends’
    I want your Thursday night
    drinks for two
    bones unbind
    muscles let loose
    flats, slacks,
    ‘just me and you’
    I want your finally Friday
    stretch soul smile,
    sun sipping light
    from the glaciers in your eyes
    fingers unfurl, hand extends
    ‘c’mon babe, lets go wild’
    I want your weekend.
    your movie marathon Saturday
    reading by the fireplace
    kissing in the blankets
    want your Sunday morning
    orange juice and pancakes
    white sheets, tender skin
    hair like the Fourth of July
    ‘let’s not get out of bed today.’
    I want your ordinary
    and your stress, rest, release
    I want your bad day and that terrible night
    I want you drunk in my arms
    forgetting the place but never my name
    I want your lazy and your lonely
    and your fist full of fight
    I want you everyday
    in every way
    for the rest of my life.

    "I crave space. It charges my batteries. It helps me breathe. Being around people can be so exhausting, because most of them love to take and barely know how to give. Except for a rare few."


    "If you’re ever lucky enough to find a girl who is a hopeless romantic with a dirty mind, you should hold onto that. Because she’ll be yours at two in the morning and at two in the afternoon the following day. She’ll kiss you where it hurts and until it hurts. And that’s important. Someone who not only knows how to turn you on but also knows how to treat you right is someone worth a little something… and a little more than usual."

    "Everyone’s fucked up. You’ve just gotta decide what kinda fucked up you’re into."

    "Some people don’t notice the things we do for them until we stop doing them."

    No matter how much you feed the wolf, he keeps looking at the forest."
    Ilse Lehiste 

    "Well, I’m not fine as in fine, but I’m fine as in you don’t have to worry about me."




    "Because the greatest part of a road trip isn’t arriving at your destination. It’s all the wild stuff that happens along the way."

    "It is in these moments of tender and ridiculous nostalgia that I know something inside me is still broken."

    "Being in love is a good thing, but it is not the best thing. There are many things below it, but there are also things above it. You cannot make it the basis of a whole life. It is a noble feeling, but it is still a feeling. Now no feeling can be relied on to last in its full intensity, or even to last at all. Knowledge can last, principles can last, habits can last; but feelings come and go."

    "Respect people who find time for you in their busy schedule, but love people who never look at their schedule when you need them."

    I might be too young to settle down and marry, but I’m definitely too old to be playing anymore games. I’m too old to just be talking to someone, too old to not know what’s really going on, and too old to be entertaining somebody with no intentions of making it work. At this age, I’m only interested in consistency, stability, respect and loyalty. And I want to hear someone tell me that they love me and know they goddam mean it.

    I always want coffee at all the wrong times

    "I’m not surprised that you don’t have a boyfriend. I don’t want you to take this the wrong way, I just don’t think that very many people, especially your age, would be able to keep up with you. You know you are and you know what you want to do. Your eyes light up when you talk about your passions, and you’re not afraid to defy social norms and be who you are. And all this, this scares people."

    "Experience is what you get when you didn’t get what you wanted."


    I love being horribly straightforward. I love sending reckless text messages (because how reckless can a form of digitized communication be?) and telling people I love them and telling people they are absolutely magical humans and I cannot believe they really exist. I love saying, “Kiss me harder,” and “You’re a good person,” and, “You brighten my day.” I live my life as straight-forward as possible.
    Because one day, I might get hit by a bus.
    Maybe it’s weird. Maybe it’s scary. Maybe it seems downright impossible to just be—to just let people know you want them, need them, feel like, in this very moment, you will die if you do not see them, hold them, touch them in some way whether its your feet on their thighs on the couch or your tongue in their mouth or your heart in their hands.
    And there is nothing more risky than pretending not to care.
    We are young and we are human and we are beautiful and we are not as in control as we think we are. We never know who needs us back. We never know the magic that can arise between ourselves and other humans.
    We never know when the bus is coming.
    "



    "He looked at me like I was crazy. Most of my lovers do, and that’s partly why they love me, and partly why they leave."


    "I can’t be shaken anymore, by anyone. I’ve got to that point in my life that if you’re not a good person, and you can’t make me feel good with love and life, then fuck off, basically."

    "You don’t realize how alone you are until you’re staying up every night thinking about things you should never think of and you cant tell anybody because you have nobody to tell."

    "Somehow, we are strangers with memories."

    "You’re scared of the way I make you feel because you don’t want to feel anything."


    streetstylemarket:
“ JACKET WITH FAUX LEATHER SLEEVES - Jackets - MAN | ZARA United Kingdom
”




    "And even if you’re not here to stay, I’m happy the universe allowed your soul to stop by."

    "The most fucked up thing the universe can do to a person is send them the love of their life at the wrong time."

    "When nobody else celebrates you, learn to celebrate yourself. When nobody else compliments you, then compliment yourself. It’s not up to other people to keep you encouraged. It’s up to you. Encouragement should come from the inside."


    "Do stuff. Be clenched, curious. Not waiting for inspiration’s shove or society’s kiss on your forehead. Pay attention. It’s all about paying attention. Attention is vitality. It connects you with others. It makes you eager. Stay eager."

    What nobody tells people who are beginners — and I really wish someone had told this to me … is that all of us who do creative work, we get into it because we have good taste. But there is this gap. For the first couple years you make stuff, and it’s just not that good. It’s trying to be good, it has potential, but it’s not.
    But your taste, the thing that got you into the game, is still killer. And your taste is why your work disappoints you. A lot of people never get past this phase. They quit. Most people I know who do interesting, creative work went through years of this. We know our work doesn’t have this special thing that we want it to have. We all go through this. And if you are just starting out or you are still in this phase, you gotta know it’s normal and the most important thing you can do is do a lot of work. Put yourself on a deadline so that every week you will finish one story.
    It is only by going through a volume of work that you will close that gap, and your work will be as good as your ambitions. And I took longer to figure out how to do this than anyone I’ve ever met. It’s gonna take awhile. It’s normal to take awhile. You’ve just gotta fight your way through.
    "


    "If you do not know how to relax and be satisfied with what you have, if you do not know how to appreciate the natural beauty of your environment, if you do not know how to be simple, then even if you were to possess all the money in the world you would still be miserable."


    "I no longer have patience for certain things, not because I’ve become arrogant, but simply because I reached a point in my life where I do not want to waste more time with what displeases me or hurts me. I have no patience for cynicism, excessive criticism and demands of any nature. I lost the will to please those who do not like me, to love those who do not love me and to smile at those who do not want to smile at me. I no longer spend a single minute on those who lie or want to manipulate. I decided not to coexist anymore with pretense, hypocrisy, dishonesty and cheap praise. I do not tolerate selective erudition nor academic arrogance. I do not adjust either to popular gossiping. I hate conflict and comparisons. I believe in a world of opposites and that’s why I avoid people with rigid and inflexible personalities. In friendship I dislike the lack of loyalty and betrayal. I do not get along with those who do not know how to give a compliment or a word of encouragement. Exaggerations bore me and I have difficulty accepting those who do not like animals. And on top of everything I have no patience for anyone who does not deserve my patience"

    "I am my own muse. I am the subject I know best. The subject I want to better."

    "I used to think I was the strangest person in the world but then I thought there are so many people in the world, there must be someone just like me who feels bizarre and flawed in the same ways I do. I would imagine her, and imagine that she must be out there thinking of me too. Well, I hope that if you are out there and read this and know that, yes, it’s true I’m here, and I’m just as strange as you."


    "Do not chase another human being. Instead, chase your curiosity. Chase your development and your goals. Chase your passion. Strive to work for something bigger than yourself, and instead of trying to convince someone that you fit within their world, strive to build your own."

    "She is something new, something hopeful. Like spring to my deep winter."

    "Take your time getting dressed this morning; read a book, make yourself some breakfast. The world can wait."

    I realized I ask my girlfriend if she’s okay a lot.
    Even if she seems completely fine I’ll still ask
    “You good babe?” or “are you okay?” Or at least ask how her day is going just to make sure she’s not having a bad one.
    Even If she tells me she is fine I’ll ask her if there is anything I could do to make the day better.
    I’m sure she gets annoyed by my constant asking.
    It can happen multiple times a day.
    It seems like habit.
    And now,
    I finally think I know why I do this.
    When I was falling apart
    No one ever asked if I was okay.

    "All I want from your love is for you to keep it simple, keep it honest, and keep it coming."

    1. Always have a water bottle in your car
    2. Carry an extra lighter (even if you don’t smoke)
    3. Get something new where you go to eat often, not just your usual.
    4. Make a budget for yourself
    5. But don’t forget to give yourself some play money and always round up on how much things cost so you have money left over
    6. If you’re texting someone, but nervous to send it, just click the fucking send button. You typed that shit out for a reason.
    7. Stay out late, but wake up early. You’ll be glad you had all of your day.
    8. If something makes you laugh until your sides hurt, write it down in the notes in your phone, you’ll want to remember that later.
    9. When you’re talking to someone, and you suddenly think of something you want to say, put up a finger and wait for them to finish talking. It’ll help you remember what you wanted to say, but you won’t interrupt them.
    10. Go to plenty of concerts. Especially outdoor ones. Get drunk with your friends, but not sloppy drunk. Just drunk enough to scream your favorite songs and dance without feeling embarrassed.
    12. Always keep a change of clothes in your car. Including a pair of shoes. You never know.
    13. Keep at least $20 cash on you at all times. Gas is usually cheaper when you pay with cash, and not everywhere you go to eat splits checks.
    14. It’s okay to be sad, but try not to forget about what makes you happy.
    15. Coupons are always fantastic.
    16. If you think something is cute, fucking wear it. Don’t worry about what everyone else thinks. You’ll look great, I promise.
    17. Sex stores are fun, even if you just want a good laugh.
    18. Plan out your days off with your friends, that way you aren’t stuck around asking the “I don’t know what do you wanna do”
    19. Don’t forget to remind your friends how much they mean to you.
    20. If someone gives you a compliment, smile and say thank you. They wouldn’t say it, if they didn’t mean it.
    21. Drink plenty of water. Not only does it keep you hydrated, but clears your skin.
    22. I know you might want to be tan, but is it really worth being burnt and exposing yourself to all that skin cancer bull shit? No. Use at least SPF 15. It’s not that hard and you’ll still tan. So stop being a brat.
    23. You’re allowed to be happy. Don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise.
    24. Aim to be better, not bitter.
    25. Some days are better than others.
    26. You can never over pack. Pack what you want. You’ll be glad you have options to choose from.
    27. Take those extra hours at work. It’ll be worth it when you see your paycheck.
    28. Clean your fucking room and make your bed you slob. It’ll look so much nicer and you’ll feel better you did it.
    29. If you have to, make the first move. It’s scary, but someone has to do it.
    30. Take plenty of pictures. Of the sunset, your food, your friends, your dog, selfies. Everything. That way, later when you scroll through your camera roll, you’ll remember everything about that day, good or bad.
    "


    "I am slowly learning that some people are not good for me, no matter how much I love them. I deserve someone who is gentle and kind, because my soul is getting tired. Realizing that I deserve something good is one of the first steps."

    "Oh, love isn’t there to make us happy. I believe it exists to show us how much we can endure."

    "Millions of people have decided not to be sensitive. They have grown thick skins around themselves just to avoid being hurt by anybody. But it is at great cost. Nobody can hurt them, but nobody can make them happy either."

    "Because you feel like home to me. That’s why I love you."

    "There are all kinds of addicts, I guess. We all have pain. And we all look for ways to make the pain go away."

    "She was beautiful, but not like those girls in the magazines. She was beautiful, for the way she thought. She was beautiful, for the sparkle in her eyes when she talked about something she loved. She was beautiful, for her ability to make other people smile, even if she was sad. No, she wasn’t beautiful for something as temporary as her looks. She was beautiful, deep down to her soul. She is beautiful."


    1. Let go of anger. When we erupt in anger we often feel much worse. Hence, it’s better to cool off and to work on staying calm.
    2. When people treat you badly it’s rarely “about you”. More often it tells you how that person is feeling, or some other issue that is bothering them.
    3. You’re not the only one who has struggled with this issue – so don’t feel so awful, or put yourself down.
    4. Enjoy the good times and savour every moment as life is a precious gift to be enjoyed.
    5. Work and be persistent as it’s worth the slog and pain. In the end it makes a difference as the pay off is success.
    6. You need to find a passion and set yourself some goals if you want to go somewhere, and makes something of life.
    7. All relationships can teach us so much about ourselves. Both the good and the bad show us who we really are. They reveal what we think, and how we feel, about ourselves – as well as what our values and our expectations are.

    "Don’t be so easily moved by things that do not benefit the well-being of your soul. Time waits for no one, and you’re going to wish you’ve invested more of yourself into the things that sparked your heart."

    "Each relationship between two persons is absolutely unique. That is why you cannot love two people the same. It simply is not possible. You love each person differently because of who they are and the uniqueness that they draw out of you."

    "Check yourself. 
    Sometimes you are the toxic person. 
    Sometimes you are the mean, negative person you’re looking to push away.
    Sometimes the problem is you. 
    And that doesn’t make you less worthy.
    Keep on growing. 
    Keep on checking yourself. 
    Keep on motivating yourself. 
    Mistakes are opportunities. 
    Look at them, own them, grow from them and move on. 
    Do better, be better."



    coffee 
    morning sex
    taking pictures 
    eating new foods
    exploring new cities
    scenic views
    quiet mornings
    finding new bands to listen to 
    going to shows
    back scratches

    the little things that make me the happiest


    "Don’t be careless when there is something good. Don’t be so sure that whatever follows must be good."


    "Everyone should smile. Life really isn’t that serious. We make it hard. The sun rises. The sun sets. We just tend to complicate the process."

    "Schedule intimate time together. Show up at the appointed time in a curious or neutral state of mind. Get in bed together, skin to skin, and see what happens, without expectation or demand. Be kind to each other, and affectionate. Allow desire to grow in response to a slow warm up. Maybe you’ll just fall asleep instead of having sex (and it seems to me that that’s your body making it clear that sleep is a more urgent need for you than sex, and there’s nothing necessarily pathological about being sleep deprived). Or maybe you’ll end up with your mouths all over each other’s bodies. What matters is not what you do, but that you both like what happens."

    "People aren’t always going to be there for you, that’s why you learn to handle things on your own"

    "Life is all about change. If it were static, think about how boring it would be. You can’t be afraid of it, and you can’t worry that you’ll mess things up. You deserve good things."

    "Self-love is a good thing but self-awareness is more important. You need to once in a while go ‘Uh, I’m kind of an asshole.’"


    love is a losing game, one i wish i never played

    "It’s about misunderstandings between people and places, being disconnected and looking for moments of connection. There are so many moments in life when people don’t say what they mean, when they are just missing each other, waiting to run into each other in a hallway."

    "The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve. Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity. An important attribute in successful people is their impatience with negative thinking and negative acting people. As you grow, your associates will change.. Some of your friends will not want you to go on. They will want you to stay where they are. Friends that don’t help you climb will want you to crawl.. Your friends will stretch your vision or choke your dream. Those that don’t increase you will eventually decrease you."

    little things that actually make a difference to general life happiness: 
    •drinking lots of water
    •eating fresh fruit 
    •thinking positively about yourself and others
    •washing your face twice a day
    •changing your sheets once a week 
    •hot baths with Epsom salts 
    •face masks using from things in your house 
    •sleeping more than 7 hours per night 
    •reorganizing your clothes, makeup, possessions etc
    •keeping your living space clean

    "You sleep in your hotels with four or five stars, I sleep here with four or five billion stars."

    "You are allowed to miss him. You are allowed to miss her. You’re only human and you can’t be expected to have it together every second of every day. Like when you find a bobby pin under your bed or catch just a whisper of his scent on your favourite t-shirt, you’re allowed to shut the door and not want to move from your bed for the rest of the night. Because life is hard and things are meant to be dwelled upon, whether it’s been two days, two months or even two years. It’s all still going to hurt because it mattered to you. The same way you hear a song from your childhood and still remember all the words, you’ll always remember her sleepy, confused look in the morning or his shirts hung up for work the next day. And you don’t have to pretend to be over it just because your parents might be worried or your friends are tired of hearing about it. You are allowed to cry through it. Fight it in stages. Take in that smell one last time and then wash it away. But only let it go once you’re ready and, before you do, know that your strength is not defined by the number of days it takes to remove them from your memory. Because fixing a broken heart is not like surgery. You can’t fall asleep without feeling a thing and then wake up and have no recollection of what has happened. You’re going to feel all of it, every single day, and every one of those days is going to hard. But once the pain starts to fade away, you’ll realise that your heart is like a garden, and you must remove the dead roses at the roots so that you can begin to see something new grow again."


    "you shouldn’t have to
    break yourself
    and move your pieces.
    if he was designed for you
    he would fit."

    That’s what really scares me.
    Falling in love is easy. Having sex is easier. But bumping into someone that can spark your soul - that shit is rare.
    You could fuck four, five, all the people in a god damned room and you’d only feel a connection with one. Or none at all.
    And what sucks is despite the undeniable real magnetic pull between the two of you, more often than not, you don’t end up together.
    I’m afraid I won’t meet anyone else I can connect with.
    I’m scared it’ll be just you.



    "Nie żałuję tego, co było między nami. Żałuję tego, czego nie było.



    "W końcu znajdujesz osobę z którą możesz wszystko. Z którą uwielbiasz wszystko, począwszy od robienia kanapek poprzez rozmawianie, skończywszy na uprawianiu miłości. Osobę przy której nawet najbardziej prymitywna czynność jak spacer w deszczu potrafi być czymś niezwykłym, czymś niecodziennym. Każdy z nas czeka na osobę, dzięki której poranne wstawanie z łóżka będzie miało sens. Kiedy już ją znajdziemy, nie pozwólmy sobie jej odebrać. Szarpmy się z losem, walczymy z przeznaczeniem, ale nie pozwólmy pozbawić się szczęścia."

    "Nieważne czy to przyjaźń, czy miłość... Pamiętaj, aby o nią dbać."

    Można być z kimś kilka lat i nie poczuć nic, a można być z kimś kilka miesięcy i poczuć wszystko. Ten kto myśli, że czas jest wyznacznikiem miłości, wcale jej nie rozumie.


    it’s crazy how sometimes you just have to be at the right place at the right time

    I don’t want to look back in five years time and think, ‘We could have been magnificent, but I was afraid.’ In 5 years I want to tell of how fear tried to cheat me out of the best thing in life, and I didn’t let it.
    "I don’t want to care. If I care about things, it’ll just be worse, it’ll just be another thing to worry about. It’s less painful if I don’t care."

    nothing makes me happier than a glass of stella after a long day

    "Jeśli odszedł, to tak musiało być, to taka była jego misja. Nie goń go, nie błagaj, nie proś aby został. Podziękuj mu i pozwól odejść. On pojawił się w Twoim życiu tylko po to, aby rozbudzić w Tobie to co było uśpione. Był, aby poruszyć w Tobie, pewne uczucia struny. Teraz Ty musisz nauczyć się na nich grać."

    "Z czasem potrzebujemy dłoni. Nie pieniędzy, telewizorów, domu, auta czy też lepszej pracy. Przychodzi moment, że cała egzystencja sprowadzać się będzie do dłoni drugiego człowieka, do jego obecności. Pozornie proste i banalne."

    "You can’t fulfill your destiny in your comfort zone."

    ARIES
    outward: snarky, charismatic, exuding an aura of confidence mixed with superiority, ambitious and willing to do whatever they can to achieve their goals, assertive, impatient, strong physical energies
    inward: wildly intelligent, existential, well-intentioned and seeking to self-improve, thoughtful, loyal, frustrated and overly critical of themselves, desiring control 
    TAURUS
    outward: stubborn, hardworking, super cute, patient, very committed and focused to whatever they’re doing at the moment, great listeners
    inward: always excited about relaxation and downtime, those people who wake up in the morning and are already looking forward to climbing back into bed, hopeless romantics, fearful of change, emotional, analytical
    GEMINI
    outward: talkative, blurs of motion, excitable, lovers of debate and low-key always looking for a friendly fight, adventurous, internalizes stress to the point where it becomes physical illness, curious, expressive, fun-loving, adaptable and able to get along with many different types of people
    inward: talks to themselves in the shower and goes over possible argument positions just in case someone tries to start shit. excellent writers, philosophical, thoughtful, always seeking stimulation and fulfillment, conflicted in their own thoughts, can often feel isolated within themselves and misunderstood 
    CANCER:
    outward: heart-on-sleeve type of people, extremely supportive, excellent maternal instincts- the “mom” at all the parties who takes care of too-drunk friends, always looking to help others, easily teary, communicative, kind, thoughtful and excellent gift givers
    inward: creative, sensitive, spiritually and karmically mature, understanding of their need to feel things fully, meditative, lovers of quiet and alone time, always seeking understanding from other people and genuinely deep connections
    LEO:
    outward: loud, bright and sunshiney, natural leaders, energetic, affectionate, extremely generous, proud, protective over and loyal to others, dramatic, flirty, demanding and resilient with a visibly strong spirit, able to naturally attract people, queen bees
    inward: interested in making life better for themselves and for others, always trying to look at things positively, idealistic, highly emotional, perfectionists, constantly nursing their tender egos, constantly trying to fully understand themselves, relying on gut instinct
    VIRGO
    outward: skeptical and critical of the world around them, organized, clean, cautious, practical, hard-workers, naturally intelligent, visible perfectionists, fascinating people to talk to, dedicated, detail-oriented, looking for simple pleasures in life
    inward: realistic, highly critical of themselves, able to remember a great deal of information easily, passionate about particular things that they love, can often feel a heavy self-imposed pressure to succeed, focused on the moment, prideful in the quality of their work 
    LIBRA
    outward: flirty, people-pleasers, outgoing, charming and eloquent communicators, love to be shown affection, argument mediators, reasonable, graceful, those people who look like they never have an off day, dedicated to their appearances
    inward: indecisive, understanding of others and very capable of understanding many different perspectives, calm, naturally inclined towards contentedness- and determined to find contentedness even when their situations seem shitty, hopeless romantics, creative 
    SCORPIO
    outward: intimidating, magnetic, overtly sexual, hard to approach for many people but everyone wants to approach them anyway, impossible to ignore, often effortlessly the center of attention, masterful in their chosen disciplines, influential
    inward: controlled by their emotions, constantly questioning themselves, seeking approval from others, can often be self-destructive, obsessive, determined, self-interested, sensitive, fighting spirit
    SAGITTARIUS
    outward: popular, jovial, spontaneous, effortlessly good with people and attractive to others, competitive, relentless with whatever they set their minds to, always on the go, notorious show-offs,  feeling as though the world is their oyster and ready to work hard to find what it has to offer
    inward: strong sense of self, unafraid of new things and taking risks, optimistic, independent, always thinking about the big picture, always craving understanding of themselves and the world, strong gut feelings
    CAPRICORN
    outward: hardworking and ambitious, down-to-earth, aloof exterior, mysterious, mature, always appearing in control, consistent, guarded, very responsible with a clear idea of what they’re meant to be doing at any moment, practical and methodical, self-sufficient, extremely capable
    inward: traditional, level-headed, patient, realistic, excellent judges of character who rely on gut instinct to tell them who to trust, resilient, strong, courageous, with good humor and a genuine interest in others lying at their core beings
    AQUARIUS
    outward: very friendly and open, unique, independent, often seen as true individuals, original, creative, spirited and energetic, inspirational, with a universally accepting attitude towards all people, and a detached/thoughtful way of looking at the world
    inward: sensitive, caring, opinionated to the point of stubbornness, open-minded, unwilling to let go once they commit to something, curious, always thinking and considering all possibilities, clever, capable of personal transformation 
    PISCES
    outward: very mature, compassionate, loving, sensitive to the energies around them, instinctive with other people’s emotions, thoughtful with conversation and advice, receptive, gentle, always appearing as an older wiser soul despite actual age
    inward: daydreamers, extremely reliant on gut instinct and uncanny abilities for prediction, idealistic, emotional, very intelligent, interested in culture, hypersensitive and will often absorb negative energy, observant to the point of feeling isolated or disconnected


    "I get it now; I didn’t get it then. That life is about losing and about doing it as gracefully as possible… and enjoying everything in between."



    "I like you to be exactly the way that you are, because in all my experience, I have never known anyone like you."


    "Spoil me with loyalty, I can finance my damn self."

    Eat food from farmers markets.
    Drink good tea each morning.
    Read books that make you feel.
    Paint, even if you’re awful.
    Write, even when you have nothing to say.
    Sit in the fresh air outside.
    Go on hikes.
    Swim in lakes and wade in streams.
    Sleep as long as you need.
    Work hard at what you love.
    Work hard at what you hate.
    Love unconditionally and wholeheartedly.

    "You know those moments, when you just know you’ve made a memory you will always remember? It could be something mundane or boring like driving in a car at night, listening to good music with good people and the ambiance and feeling of that exact moment just leaves an indent on you and you just think;
    I’m going to remember this forever."



    "Balance is key. In everything you do. Dance all night long and practice yoga the next day. Drink wine but don’t forget your green juice. Eat chocolate when your heart wants it and kale salad when your body needs it. Wear high heels on Saturday and walk barefoot on Sunday. Go shopping at the mall and then sit down and meditate in your bedroom. Live high and low. Move and stay still. Embrace all sides of who you are and live your authentic truth. Be brave and bold and spontaneous and loud and let that complement your abilities to find silence and patience and modesty and peace. Aim for balance. Make your own rules and don’t let anybody tell you how to live according to theirs."

    "I quickly realized that friendships without tomorrows, and the little anguishes of parting, were part of the pleasures of travelling. I resolutely avoided bores, saw only those who amused me. We spent afternoons taking long walks, nights drinking and talking, and then we would leave each other, never to meet again, and there were no regrets. How simple life was! No regrets, no obligations, my acts and gestures counted for nothing, no one asked my advice, and I knew no other rule but my whims."

    "We are always falling in love or quarreling, looking for jobs or fearing to lose them, getting ill and recovering, following public affairs. If we let ourselves, we shall always be waiting for some distraction or other to end before we can really get down to our work. The only people who achieve much are those who want knowledge so badly that they seek it while the conditions are still unfavorable. Favorable conditions never come."


    "Sometimes, life makes you grow up early. And some people never grow up at all."



    Maybe I want lust.
    Maybe I crave adventure.
    Maybe I need you."

    "You do not even think of your own past as quite real; you dress it up, you gild it or blacken it, censor it, tinker with it…fictionalize it, in a word, and put it away on a shelf—your book, your romanced autobiography. We are all in the flight from the real reality."

    I always want coffee at all the wrong times


    "Much of your pain is self-chosen."

    listen to the wind blow
    watch the sunrise
    run in the shadows
    damn your love
    damn your lies


    "The most authentic thing about us is our capacity to create, to overcome, to endure, to transform, to love and to be greater than our suffering…"

    "Better alone than badly accompanied."


    Be in a relationship with someone who motivates you to do better, to be better, who wants to see you succeed, who doesn’t bring you down. Don’t waste your time on someone who isn’t going to make a positive impact on your future

    "Well, I like to eat, sleep, drink, and be in love. I like to work, read, learn, and understand life."

    I have very few friends irl but I have reached a point in my self love journey where I can zip up my dress by myself, comfortably eat alone in public, and make myself laugh until my stomach hurts. At this point I welcome anyone to love me but I don’t need them to.
    "Don’t get mad. Don’t get even. Get stronger, faster, and more powerful. Fill yourself with 
    knowledge and empathy and an indomitable spirit because no one else can do that for you. 
    In the end, it’s your life, your choice, and your world. Give 110%, always."

    "Idk. I love what I do and being busy but if I didn’t have someone I could enjoy and share my life with I wouldn’t be sane. I’d be extremely unhappy."

    "I found her most beautiful not when she was all fancied up, but when she wasn’t. When she was lying on the carpet, her hair all a mess, laughing about something that happened. When she wasn’t trying to impress anyone, and had taken down that wall she built for most people. That’s when I couldn’t take my eyes off her."

    "If you’re bored with life, if you don’t get up every morning with a burning desire to do things - you don’t have enough goals."

    💣💣💣


    Admiring someone’s vision/taste when being romantically involved with them is so important

    "If you repeat something over and over again it loses its meaning; “You watch the sunset too often it just becomes 6 pm, you make the same mistake over and over you stop calling it a mistake. If you just wake up wake up wake up wake up wake up wake up one day you’ll forget why"

    "She was also incredibly confident, with a way of moving and talking that communicated that she didn’t need anyone to tell her she was beautiful or worthwhile."

    no inbetweens


  • aries: either a stone cold bitch or the most emotional sap ever who just wants Dogs
  • taurus: either the mom friend or satan
  • gemini: ???i don't even know what the fukc
  • cancer: either fun and outgoing or a total dick
  • leo: either feels like a total god or like total shit
  • virgo: either a social butterfly or a total introvert
  • libra: either a complete social flirt or only makes out with food and watches high school musical
  • scorpio: either the most sensitive person ever or the most insensitive
  • sagittarius: either a party animal or a sleep 24/7 kinda person
  • capricorn: either the meanest person ever or the biggest memer ever
  • aquarius: either the most wonderful person ever or the most bitter person ever
  • pisces: either the most precious thing in the world or a still precious thing, screaming about how non-precious they are

  • "I’ve learned that I still have a lot to learn."
  • "I appreciate effort. No matter how small, silly or irrelevant, I appreciate effort."
  • "I loved you in a way I wished someone would love me."
  • I love people with substance and I love people with ambitions and interests other than obtaining an internet persona like don’t you understand people think highly of you because of your aesthetic and it doesn’t mean anything in the real world? S/o to everyone shooting to make better for themselves or occupy themselves with hobbies these are the things that help you grow and these are the things that define you and these are the things that truly matter


  • "Adulthood doesn’t have a timeline. No one suddenly becomes an adult at 18 or 21 or 25 or whatever age society deems appropriate. No one wakes up one morning and realizes that they’ve grown up. No one can will themselves into adulthood just by waking up earlier or drinking only on the weekends or even getting married. Maturation is a slow process and it happens by unconsciously floundering in adolescence until you slowly but surely stop fucking around and realize what you want and why you want it. Even then, you’ll still make mistakes and change your mind and maybe even ruin some relationships you hold dear, but the difference is that you’ll hold yourself accountable for your actions. You start taking responsibility for yourself as a living, breathing human being on a planet where your actions matter, even if it’s just to your small circle of friends. Or so I’ve been told. I’m not an adult. Not yet, anyway. Not even close."

  • Aries: Gemini
  • Taurus: Pisces
  • Gemini: Aries
  • Cancer: Virgo
  • Leo: Libra
  • Virgo: Cancer
  • Libra: Leo
  • Scorpio: Capricorn
  • Sagittarius: Aquarius
  • Capricorn: Scorpio
  • Aquarius: Sagittarius
  • Pisces: Taurus



  • I wanna say I gave up on selfies because I have a man and I know I look good but honestly I’m just lazy


  •  "I hope you find someone who doesn’t make you sad at night and someone who reminds you how much they love you every day and who laughs at your jokes and wants to listen to your music and who genuinely what’s to be with you and doesn’t make you second guess their love for you. I really hope you find that. Because you deserve that."

    "I am lonely, yet not everybody will do. I don’t know why, some people fill the gaps and others emphasize my loneliness."

    "It’s okay to get lost every once in a while, sometimes getting lost is how we find ourselves."

    "Always be kinder than necessary. What goes around comes around. No one has ever made themselves strong by showing how small someone else is."

    "The biggest human temptation is to settle for too little."

    nostalgia is a liar. nothing was ever as good as you remember it to be. there’s a reason you don’t talk to that person anymore, there’s a reason you’re not part of each other’s lives. don’t trust nostalgia. grieve. reflect. move on.

    I love people with substance and I love people with ambitions and interests other than obtaining an internet persona like don’t you understand people think highly of you because of your aesthetic and it doesn’t mean anything in the real world? S/o to everyone shooting to make better for themselves or occupy themselves with hobbies these are the things that help you grow and these are the things that define you and these are the things that truly matter.!
    I will teach my daughter how to love, but most important how to stop. They never teach you how to stop.
    They truly don’t. This is a beautiful lesson. Teaching her to know when to let go, when to know she’s worth more than what she’s getting.



    Za każdym razem, kiedy to się powtarza, apeluję sama do siebie - zapamiętaj to uczucie. Przeanalizuj to, co czujesz. Spróbuj zachować ten stan, tę świadomość - niech wnioski nie ulecą z czasem. Niech prawda się nie zatrze, niech nie zaleje jej potrzeba towarzystwa. Wśród niewłaściwych ludzi można być samotniejszym, niż siedząc samemu, z dobrą książką i gorącą herbatą. Uczucia przyjaciół i znajomych powinny być gorące i pozytywne, tak jak ten świeży napar - a kiedy są letnie i okazjonalnie bywają ciepłe, ale szybko i niespodziewanie się ochładzają i zawsze trudno przewidzieć ich temperaturę - to pora, żeby zastanowić się, czy to właściwi ludzie. Świat liczy blisko 8 milionów bijących serc - czy to naprawdę prawdopodobne, że kilka przecznic dalej mieszkają dusze, które najlepiej nas rozumieją i są naszymi pokrewnymi charakterami? Wątpliwe. Dlatego trzeba ich poszukiwać, nie bać się poszukiwać w różnych miejscach i na różnych wysokościach. Zawsze, kiedy czujemy się przy osobach, które nazywamy przyjaciółmi źle, lub kiedy zastanawiamy się, czy oni tak właściwie w ogóle nas słuchają, czy tylko czekają na swoją kolej, aby otworzyć usta - to pora na pierwsze wyostrzenie czujności. Jeśli sytuacja się powtórzy, a uczucie zakiełkuje w Nas kolejny raz - run Forest, run! Przed siebie, najszybciej jak się da, nadwyrężając łydki i kolana. Ale zachowując godność i zdrowie psychicze. Przyjaźń potrafi być bardziej toksyczna niż związek. Może dlatego, że brakuje w niej metody rozładowania negatywnych emocji, a może dlatego, że brakuje najbardziej banalnej formy bliskości i trzeba zastąpić ją innymi jej odmianami. Jedno jest pewne - kiedy czujemy, że jakakolwiek relacja wyczerpuje nas, męczy emocjonalnie i sprawia Nam więcej przykrości i łez, niż uśmiechu - pora zawrócić na pięcie, mrugnąć na pożegnanie i odejść. Szkoda wspomnień, szkoda poświęconego czasu, szkoda nadziei na to, że ta relacja jest budującą i zdrową współzależnością dojrzałych i dobrze życzących sobie osób, ale kiedy czujemy, że taka nie jest, bądź przestała taka być - nie warto łudzić się, że samoistnie się naprawi. To co samo się zepsuło, zazwyczaj samo się nie zreperuje. Proces naprawy zniszczonej, bądź niezdrowej relacji jest trudny, bo zazwyczaj tylko jedna strona widzi problem - bądź obie go widzą, ale w zupełnie inny sposób i w skrajnie konstrastujących ze sobą barwach.  Cóż, może to kolejny dowód na to, że 'bratnia dusza' nie jest jednak tak bardzo pokrewna. Czasami na siłę wmawiamy sobie, że ktoś jest nam bardzo bliski, choć rzeczywistość aż bije po oczach - wszystkich, z wyjątkiem Nas. Nie tylko miłość zaślepia! :)

    Nie chcę Was tutaj namawiać, żebyście porzucili swoich przyjaciół i wyruszyli na poszukiwanie nowych - oczywiście nie zawsze jest to dobry pomysł. Jeśli macie wspaniałe, zgrane grono - nie szukajcie lepszego, bo lepsze jest wrogiem dobrego! Warto po prostu raz na jakiś czas zastanowić się nad własnym samopoczuciem - bo kiedy nieustannie pytamy o nie innych, kiedy żyjemy życiem ludzi, którzy tylko okazjonalnie zarzucą retorycznym pytaniem "A co tam u Ciebie?", niekoniecznie czekając na odpowiedź, kiedy spotykamy się z osobami, przed którymi na dłuższą metę wcale nie chcemy się otworzyć (bo nie zrozumieją, bo negatywnie nas ocenią, bo mogą zmienić o Nas zdanie...) - hmm, może to znak, że marnujemy czas? 
    Kiedy nagle poczujecie się nieważni, niekochani i niesłuchani - o ile to utrzymujące się spostrzeżenie, a nie chwilowa tendencja - zróbcie to dla siebie - nie pozwólcie, żeby to uczucie w Was narastało. Wszystko  co niekontrolowane szybko rośnie i szybko przybiera na wadze i prędkości - nie pozwólcie, żeby przeświadczenie, że tak musi być Was przgniotło. Jeśli ktoś sprawia, że czujecie się "trudno do polubienia i pokochania" - hej, to więcej mówi o tych osobach, niż o Was. Właściwym ludziom nie będziecie musieli udowadniać jacy jesteście fajni - bo gracie w tenisa, bo macie w portfelu plik banknotów o łącznej grubości w przekroju 7 centymetrów, bo uzbieraliście w końcu na ultradrogie adidasy z podeszwą wysadzaną kryształkami Svarowskiego. Przy prawdziwych przyjaciołach będziecie mogli być sobą - i nie będziecie musieli bać się pokazania tej nieogarniętej, szczerej i PRAWDZIWEJ twarzy, bo takie obnażenie niczego nie zmieni. Tylko pogłębi relację i sprawi, że będzie jeszcze lepsza. 

    De facto łatwo rozpoznać złego przyjaciela, od tego dobrego. Intuicja to magiczne narzędzie i warto jej posłuchać - często podpowiada nam właściwe rady, choć często bardzo cichutko (skubana, nauczyła się kiedyś szeptać i tak już jej zostało :o ). Jej głos bywa czasami zagłuszony pragnieniem przyjaźnienia się z daną osobą - i nagle nie zważamy na to, że jesteśmy źle traktowani, że dajemy o wiele więcej, niż dostajemy w zamian, że jesteśmy notorycznie ignorowani - co tam! Najważniejsze, że na dziesięć zignorowań przypada jedna mała porcja uwagi, która jednak uspokaja ego. 
    W moim życiu był kiedyś człowiek, którego uważałam za najbliższego na świecie - ilekroć słyszałam 'Grenade' Bruno Marsa, śpiewałam razem z nim (ku rozpaczy słuchaczy...) i w mojej głowie zawsze pojawiało się imię tej osoby. Wówczas teoretycznie najlepszego przyjaciela. Tak bardzo wkręciłam sobie to, że jesteśmy MAKSYMALNIE blisko, że w to wierzyłam, choć prawda była chyba nieco odmienna, a bliskość przereklamowana. Byliśmy blisko głównie wtedy, kiedy jemu się nudziło, kiedy miał czas i akurat siedział z laptopem, bądź telefonem w ręku, albo kiedy potrzebował pomocy. Kiedy było odwrotnie - moje wiadomości przestawały istnieć, bo przecież był zajęty - oglądaniem telewizji, jedzeniem, rozmawianiem z kimś innym. Przyjaźniliśmy się wtedy, kiedy Jemu pasowało. Wygodny układ. Na początku było oczywiście inaczej - ale w krótkim czasie z kogoś ważnego zamieniłam się w osobę, do której odzywał się, żeby zabić czas. Jak to mawiają - jedno piszą do Ciebie w swoim wolnym czasie, a inni nawet z zajętej chwili czynią wolną, tylko po to, żeby Ci odpisać.  Często praktykował pytanie mnie o ważne dla mnie spotkanie, wydarzenie z mojego życia, bądź jakąś trudną sytuację, a później nieodczytywanie odpowiedzi. Ja próbując być przykładną przyjaciółką raczej tak nie robiłam, więc czasami czułam się wówczas bardzo... zaniedbana. Z czasem liczba pytań zaczęła maleć, a odpowiedzi i komentarze zaczęły stawać się krótsze i krótsze. Widziałam, że jest online, ale nie odpisywał. Trudno uwierzyć, że to była ta sama osoba, dla której zrezygnowałam z wielu ważnych dla mnie spotkań, rozmów i wydarzeń tylko po to, żeby Ją wesprzeć. Jednostronne poświęcenia nie są tego warte - po co inwestować energię, czas i uczucia w kogoś, kto nigdy tego nie doceni, bo przyzwyczajony do tego, że 'takie traktowanie mu się należy' nigdy tego do końca nie zauważy, ani nie 


    'When you develop an infatuation for someone, you always find a reason to believe that this is exactly the person for you.'


    'Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead. The consciousness of loving and being loved brings a warmth and a richness to life that nothing else can bring.'

    'But how could you live and have no story to tell?'

    'The air I breathe in a room empty of you is unhealthy.'

    'Allow yourself to mourn the loss of love, and heal from those wounds. Don’t run into the arms of another lover, you will not find peace there: you will only accumulate more to heal from.'

    'The Buddha said that suffering was caused by desire, we’d learned, and that the cessation of desire meant the cessation of suffering. When you stopped wishing things wouldn’t fall apart, you’d stop suffering when they did.'


    'Love made us partners in narcissism, and we talked ceaselessly about how close we were, how perfect our connection was, like we were the first people in history to ever get it exactly right.'


    'The city was always my garden, the people there like flowers, the traffic like a river, the lights of the buildings shining as if they were a hundred white tears.'


    'Many people have come and left, and it has been always good because they emptied some space for better people. It is a strange experience, that those who have left me have always left places for a better quality of people.'


    ometimes in life, you find a special friend. Someone who changes your life just by being part of it. Someone who makes you laugh until you can’t stop. Someone who makes you believe that there really is good in the world. Someone who convinces you that there really is an unlocked door just waiting for you to open it. This is forever friendship. When you’re down and the world seems dark and empty, your forever friend lifts you up in spirit and makes that dark and empty world suddenly seem bright and full. Your forever friend gets you through the hard times, the sad times an dthe confused times. If you turn and walk away, your forever friend follows. If you lose your way, your forever friend guides you and cheers you on. Your forever friend hold your hand and tells you that everything is going to be okay. And if you find such a friend, you feel happy and complete because you need not worry. You have a forever friend, and forever has no end.

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    1. Be aware of, and respect, your emotional limits.
    2. Don’t be a people pleaser.
    3. Take control of your thoughts.
    4. Listen to your heart.
    5. Be kind to yourself; don’t tear yourself down.
    6. Learn to take control of, and to manage, your time. 
    7. Let go of those things you can’t control.
    8. Stay away from drama and negativity.
    9. Say “yes” to those things that are important to you.
    10. Get plenty of sleep, and make time for solitude



    1. See the good in your past. There will always be things that we wish had never happened; there will always be bad memories and things that we regret. But they are part of who you are – so accept that they have happened and celebrate the person they’ve allowed you to become.
    2. Invest time in the things that bring you happiness. It’s important to identify the things that you enjoy, and that make you come alive, and are all a part of “you”. Spending time on those things will help to raise your self-esteem, as you’re valuing yourself when you pursue happiness.
    3. Forgive yourself for your mistakes. We all make mistakes - and when we think of them we cringe. But that doesn’t make you any worse than other people. Just try and learn what you can, and then move on with your life.
    4. Stop criticising yourself. So often we’re really our own worst enemy. We look for our flaws, and we put ourselves down – instead of being understanding of our own limitations. It’s time to change that behaviour – so start loving yourself.
    5. Listen to your instincts and intuitions. If you want to love yourself, you must listen to yourself. Pay attention to those instincts and your instant gut reaction – and trust that you are right when you hear that inner voice.

    6. Appreciate your life. Of course there are things that you wish that you could change. But some things are good, and are worth appreciating. So, focus on, appreciate, and make lots of your strengths





    "Maybe a relationship is just two idiots who don’t know a damn thing except the fact that they’re willing to figure it out together."

    "Release and detach from every person, every circumstance, every condition, and every situation that no longer serves a divine purpose in your life. All things have a season, and all seasons must come to an end. Choose a new season, filled with purposeful thoughts and activities."

    . I am ready to go. No goodbyes or explanations. I am ready to start over."

    "The path isn’t a straight line; it’s a spiral. You continually come back to things you thought you understood and see deeper truths."


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