I romanticed the brown eyes. // whenever, if ever.// For myself I am too heavy, and for you too light // Everybody has a chapter they don’t read out loud // Don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm. // "I am both worse and better than you thought." / always the right people at the wrong times

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When you’ve never gotten love from someone, you don’t know what it might look like if it ever does appear. You look for it in everything: any bright light overhead could be a star.

"Let’s have the conversations we’re not having. Let’s talk about why we don’t talk. Let’s tell each other what we’re really thinking. Let’s lay out our hurts. Our hang-ups. Our hearts. Let’s admit our failures and ask each other’s forgiveness. Let’s show each other who we really are and see if there can still be an us after that."


"Don’t be afraid to share yourself with someone who knows what they have, when they have you." — Reyna Biddy

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Please remember this. over & over again.

"People will do better on their own time. You can’t force anyone to treat you right. You can’t force anyone to love you right. You can’t force anyone to be the person you thought you fell in love with. What you can do is see the situation for what its worth and walk away before it becomes more and more toxic to you and your life." — Reyna Biddy

"I’ve learned that most people will love you on their own terms. Most people will love you when its beneficial to them. They’ll be selfish with their heart and love you from a distance. They’ll do right by you if it means you’ll stay down for them. They’ll love you when it feels right and most will leave whenever it no longer does.. and that’s okay. Sometimes, the people we love with our whole heart - decide.. that that’s not enough for them.. and that’s okay. The only people who deserve to stay in your life are those who love you unconditionally.. Who love you up close and out loud, who are proud to show you off. Who treat you right at all times, regardless. There are still people waiting to love you selflessly.. There are still people praying to love you better.. There are still people waiting to show you that everything will always be okay.. go find them and keep them close." — Reyna Biddy

Stop being afraid to live..
“We attract to ourselves what we hold inside. Every circumstance, every person, and every situation that we attract and experience is based on what is inside of us - Rhonda Byrne”

First step was giving myself time to breathe. giving myself time to be distant. giving myself time to cry. giving myself time to be sad. enough time to realize that nothing deserves an everyday funeral. what is done is done. what is in the past is in the past and should not be dragged into the future. i gave myself time to step outside of my emotions and logically look at my situation for what its really worth.. and then i practiced having a positive mindset every single day. no matter how bad you may think you have it.. theres someone out there who prays to be in your position every single day. the thing about “dark places” is they usually start in our heads. and if we aren’t strong enough to seek light the darkness overcomes our bodies. the first step was giving myself time to grieve or mourn or be depressed and the second step was realization. realizing every single thing about my situation - concluding that it all gets better with time.

"The moment I start to feel under appreciated I distance myself. I don’t care to be anything to anyone who doesn’t crave me. I don’t want to be anywhere that I’m not missed every time my presence is missing.." — Reyna Biddy

"I use to be a quitter. I use to fall in love just to give up. I hated the idea of forever.. but I use to pray for the one. I found the perfect person for me and made flaws out of ‘em. I use to turn people into damaged goods.. and wonder why I was no good. Then.. I would hurt. I use to hurt people. I use to hate love. I use to hate who I was. I use to run from anything and everyone who seemed permanent. I use to be scared of rejection or ending up neglected. but I’m not scared anymore.. call me naive but I don’t care anymore - about protecting my heart or loving too hard. I’m okay with letting things fall in place the way that they’re naturally supposed to. and if that means eventually falling apart.. then I’m open to it. I’m learning about the power in faith and how we attract people in our lives who think and act the same way.. Lately I’ve been praying for someone to stay. So I’ve decided that.. if anything at all.. I’ll stay, too." — Reyna Biddy

what is your definition of love?

trust. safety. comfortability. unity. friendship. happiness.
20:12"It took me a whole year to stop writing about you." 

"I don’t know how to love without using my whole heart. I don’t know what its like to love someone ‘half way’. I practice giving love in the same way i’d like to receive it." — Reyna Biddy

"You’re allowed to miss the people who were bullets to you, but you’re not allowed to let them shoot you again." — Reyna Biddy (viakushandwizdom)

People will not always understand you.
Dare to be different.
People will not always believe in you.
Prepare to work harder.
People will not always do right by you.
Let them go.
People will not always love like you.
Keep loving harder.
Nobody’s opinion of you will matter when you know who you are. Love yourself enough to walk in your own light.. down your own path.. and accept that sometimes we grow apart from people. Sometimes we lose a lot of the people around us because they were only placed in our lives to help teach us something about ourselves. Be open to learning. Be welcoming to change. Find yourself. Be yourself. Love yourself.

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"I’m too much of a wife to be your girlfriend.

"if someone makes you feel, let them."

"In the end you’re going to be okay. Everything will always end up okay.. The friends you grow apart from will come back around.. and you’ll smoke weed at the beach listening to throw backs reminiscing on high school memories and you’ll forget there was ever a distant patch in your friendship. The exes who broke your heart will end up coming back around and you won’t even have the desire to give them the time of day. You’ll probably actually be disgusted with yourself for ever shedding a tear over someone so not worth it. Your parents will stop nagging you about the littlest things and give you your space and the freedom to be who you’re destined to be. Your grades will probably never not suck but you’ll find the job of your dreams anyway. The extra few pounds that you’ll gain from drinking all summer long, every single summer, will be shredded by the winter. Someone will fall in love with you deeper than you’ve ever learned to love your own self and they will promise you silly things like - forever and infinity - and you’ll believe them. They’ll make you forget about the hurt. and you’ll kiss them. you’ll lay by their side and stare at the sky and kiss them as hard as possible thinking to yourself, finally.. for once.. everything’s okay." — Reyna Biddy

houghts on sleeping with someone on the first date? + when do u feel Is the right moment to sleep with someone?

the right moment is whenever your heart feels ready. there’s no time frame or limit that’ll apply to you and your personal individual story and situation because no one else is in your shoes. I personally have never slept with anyone on the first date because I’m very friendly.. lol like most of my first dates (in my head) aren’t even dates.. just two people hanging out and then when that person makes it clear that they’re interested I’m shocked then sometimes I take a chance on them and sometimes I don’t. everything for me is vibes. if a person is feeding you the chilliest most homely safest comfortable vibes.. don’t be scared to let your guard down. but just remember, no one but you have to deal with your decisions so choose wisely.

"You have to be strong enough to separate yourself from people who mean you no good. You should surround yourself with people who appreciate your presence and crave you when you’re not around. You should be with someone who deserves you.
if that means waiting a while -
if that means letting go of who you’re with now..
so be it.

"You were never meant to please people - anyone who can’t accept you the way you are should be set free. You were never meant to satisfy everyone - Don’t step out of your comfort zone trying to cater to everyone all at once. You come first, make sure that you’re okay, before anything - before anyone. You were never meant to forget all the hurt life has caused you - but it’d be in your hearts best interest to forgive anything and anyone you’re holding a grudge against. Although you’ve physically let them go.. grudges mean you’re still holding on. Let them go. You were never meant to give up - don’t allow a series of unfortunate events overwhelm your spirit and overcome your mind to where you want to quit. Whether it be love.. whether it be dreams.. everything you go through is to make you stronger not to tear you apart. There’s no such thing as failing if you gave it a fair shot.. there’s only growth. If one love doesn’t work out, learn from your mistakes, and love harder. If your dream doesn’t work out the first time create a Plan B to accomplish Plan A. Sometimes we go through things to grow through things. What’s meant for you - in general - will always only be for YOU. 1. No one can ever take that from you. 2. Let everything fall in place the way that it’s supposed to and you’ll see - it’ll all make sense someday. You were never meant to be heartless - your heart is full of love and full of passion.. the longer you hold that in the emptier your spirit will get. Let your love tip over. Spill it onto people. Make others see why it’s okay to spread love - make others ecstatic to make love - make others love. be the example. be love. be happy. be fearless. be forgiving. be open minded. be loving." — Reyna Biddy

1. your arms were built to carry me to bed then rock me to sleep the same way mine were built to carry children and breast feed.
2. my smile will never stop waking you up in the morning the same way yours saves my ugliest days. there were butterflies in the pit of my stomach waiting to feel alive and you’ve made a habit of shedding nothing but sunlight.
3. you make me feel like everything will always be alright - despite the uncertainty of whether we’ll be together next year, around this time, I can’t see myself without you. nothing makes sense, without you.
4. I used to wonder about shit like, what it might be like - to love someone who  craves my love on their loneliest nights. but now I wonder if you ever crave my touch in the middle of the day - when you’re at your busiest?
5. I remember thinking to myself on our first date that falling for you will probably be my biggest mistake but I’ve never laid next to anyone who makes me feel as safe, as you.
6. some things aren’t meant to be discussed, same things became natural for us. you never did call me your girlfriend but I can’t see myself sharing myself with anyone unworthy, anyone who isn’t you because I swear it’s you who deserves me.
7. we probably happened by accident. we probably were never meant to last till the end. but as long as you do right by me and love me in entirety, indescribably, i will love you till infinity.. because sometimes real love is meant to lasts much longer than lovers do.

Dear Self,
You can only make the best of what’s right in front of you, for as long as it’s there. When its gone… Let it go.
Chances are.. It’ll be back

What do you look for in a guy ? 😀😁

I’ve been asked this question a lot lately.. I’m not too sure. I don’t really ever “look” for anything or anyone at all, I just let people come to me and if I’m interested… then I’ll take a chance on them. I really like guys who like to have fun, who have a great sense of humor, who are extremely intuitive and intelligent. um. I just like guys who I vibe with. I can talk for days so I love guys who can hold amazing insightful conversations with me and I’m all for a man who can teach me shit.

"the moment you start going out of your way to beg someone for their attention, you devalue your self worth."

do you think a boy that broke your heart ends up regretting losing you?


"The simplest way to love someone is to truly understand them. Learn them. Learn their bad habits - and help them break them, learn their flaws - and help them grow to love them, Learn their fears - and help them face them, Learn their weaknesses - and do whatever you can, whenever you can, to show them their strengths matter so much more, Learn their dream(s) - and help them pursue them. Learn their hearts soft spot. Learn what keeps them up at night. Learn what scarred them in the past - then help them forget. Learn them the way no ones ever cared to. Love them like they’ve never been loved before. Love them hard enough to make them forget the pain." — Reyna Biddy

"I’m the type of person who doesn’t understand the “in between”. I’m really good at not caring - even better at loving with my whole heart. it’s the middle part that scares me. I’m afraid of giving too much of me, too soon. I’m afraid of not catching on to the signs and falling when someone’s been waiting to catch me. I’m afraid of not knowing someone’s past and even more frightened to know what our future holds. I’m the type of person who’s always running. I’m really good at walking away before shit gets deep - even better at becoming curious once we’re only for each other. it’s the middle part that confuses me. I’m not really sure I’m ANYONES type. I’m not really sure I’m the kind of person who anyone wants in longevity - and whenever I find myself in a situation that someone may.. I protect my heart the only way I know how to.. I leave. To figure out the in betweens some more." — Reyna Biddy

Not everyone who comes in your life is meant to stay, forever. You have to understand that there will be people placed in your life for not only growth - but self realization purposes. You will be tested. More than often, you’ll fail. Work on passing. People will make you love them deeper than you’ve ever loved before, and then leave. You have to love yourself enough to not sink. People will pick at your every flaw, making you self conscious. You have to promise yourself - you’ll never come to a point where you hate yourself. People will love you right, I promise. They’ll come in and they’ll actually stay lol. But sometimes.. you still won’t be happy. You have to take risks and distance yourself from your fears. Never allow yourself to get too comfortable to where you feel like you’re “stuck”. You aren’t stuck babe, you’re stagnant. Nothing beautiful comes from this place. There will be people who will choose you in convenience. Whether it be because you live close by, or because you’re the only person that they know will ALWAYS be there. It’s okay to not be there. Situate your own self. Don’t allow anyone to use you when its convenient for them. And for your own good, don’t use anyone in convenience either. There will be people who come into your life and want you for themselves. They’ll become possessive of you. Often, more times than not, they’ll be possessive of other people too. You probably aren’t the only one. And it’s easy to get caught in these situations when they make you feel loved and make you feel like you matter - but you are not an option. You never will be. You have to make sure that you never give anyone the power to make you feel less than. When a person has options, or more than one lover, you always end up wondering. Wondering whether you’re good enough, wondering why you aren’t the only one, wondering if you’re the first option. Fuck that. You deserve to be with someone who will only choose you, day in and day out. You deserve to be with the person who makes you happiest inside and makes you glow on the outside. You deserve to be with someone who will protect and take care of your heart, who will encourage you to keep growing. You deserve to continuously learn more and more about yourself and work at loving all of you better. You deserve to be with someone who wants you to love yourself more than you love them - so if they ever leave.. you don’t feel like you left with them." — Reyna Biddy

"Sometimes I wonder why no one has ever celebrated me - like really promote and adore me. I always spill my soul into everyone I know - everyone I love, and I never receive the same love in return. sometimes I wonder if anyone has ever bragged about me - like started stories with “idk man.. I think I found the one” and ending stories like “nobody in here compares.” I’m always quick to wear my lovers on my sleeve - show everyone how and why they’re meant for me. I always wonder if anyone has ever prayed for me - to stay. like I prayed for them. Sometimes I wonder how long till I can stop wandering - and wondering about love." — Reyna Biddy

So all I’m really asking -
if you have no intentions in keeping
me happy.. set me free
and watch me be

"it’s okay to be vulnerable with the person you love. open up & show them the parts of you that make u worth loving. show em what no one sees" —Reyna Biddy (via kushandwizdom)

To My Supporters,
I fucking love you all. I see your messages, I see your questions, I see the love.. shit I even see the hate. But what I really see - regardless of what the content of the message is - I see how much you all fuck with me. I’m not your average “poet”, I’m not the stereotypical “inspirational” stainless flawless woman, I’m so much more. I’m Just like all of you. I fuck up so hard sometimes, I cuss like a sailor, I love people harder than they love me, I get crushed by my biggest crushes, I look myself in the mirror and pick my flaws before counting all the ways that I’m beautiful, I get high as fuck and listen to music that makes me feel good, I dream bigger than anyone around me then doubt myself, I go to school because society persuaded me that that’s what’s best for me, I love going out up until I’m out wishing I would’ve stayed in, I’ve sent those “I miss you” texts to someone I shouldn’t have, I’ve laid next to the person who makes me feel loneliest, I’m so normal it’s painful. But the difference between us..The difference between me and the average “poet”.. the average “uplifting” woman.. I’m not scared anymore. I’m not scared to face my fears. I’m not scared of my potential. I’m not scared to fail or succeed. I’m not scared of my scars and I’m not scared to scar. I’m not afraid of love and all of its ways.. I’m not scared of being broken or humiliated or neglected anymore. I’m not scared to show you guys that I hurt too. I bleed too. I need love and affection too. I’m not too strong or mighty to show you guys myself. I’m writing my first book at 21 and I feel so fucking good about it because I know regardless of how well it sells.. it’s going to touch someone’s heart. It’s going to inspire SOMEONE to love freely and fearlessly. I became the person and the woman that I am today by letting love break me several times. They say insanity is when you continue to do the same thing over and over expecting new results.. well I’m crazy about love. Ive been crazy enough to love with my whole heart and kiss with my whole being. And till this day I can’t say that it’s kept anyone around - I can’t say that it’s gotten anyone to love me in the same way - but I can say I’ve grown into the most beautiful version of myself. I know what to - and what not to tolerate when it comes to the way a person thinks he/she can treat me. I can say that I’m happy as fuck and my skin glows even in the moonlight. I can say that My heart is open and will remain that way. I can say I love who I’ve become and who I’m becoming. and I can say - I have already lost touch with the person I used to be - so please do not come looking for her.

What should I do? I told a friend that they hurt me and they refuse to acknowledge it and told me to get over it

get over it. let it go. then let them go. you don’t need them in your life.

"There will always be that one person who causes your stomach to flip when you imagine them loving someone else. If you still have this person, do whatever you can to make sure they’re always happy and don’t let them go. If this person has moved on, let them. They deserve to be happy. But with the way that life works - Chances are.. they’ll be back." 

I could be yours baby. but you playin games.

Necessary Questions to SELF
1. Will this help me grow in any way?
2. Does this person make me happier than I can make me?
3. Am I doing what I can do to better ME?
4. Did I drink enough water today?
5. Have you been following your heart lately?
6. Is this situation more exhausting and draining than it is positive?
7. Are you willing to make someone else happy at the expense of your own happiness?
8. Is my heart happy?
9. Am I doing what it takes to become successful?
10. Am I dreaming big enough?
11. Have you reached out to the people you love to remind them how much you care, lately?
12. It’s necessary to distance yourself from the world to place focus on self from time to time. Whens the last time I have?
13. Do I really need this burger?
14. Are you reading constantly to keep your mind creatively active?
15. Are you willing to rid yourself of everything negative, including thoughts, in order to attract positivity?
16. Is your list of Wants greater than your list of Needs?
17. Am I putting myself first?

18. Do you love yourself? Like REALLY Love yourself?

Pay attention to what a person brags about before you’re involved with them.

What are your thoughts on the law of attraction- like attracts like?

The law of attraction is 100% real. You are what you attract. and you attract whatever it is that you think. Anything you think and truly believe - can and will happen. This can be both a good or a bad thing depending on if you know how to control your thoughts. Discipline yourself to think happy and positive thoughts. when you do this, slowly you release more good energy into the universe and let go of all the negative. The more you stay away from negative thoughts and judgements and ideas and statements, the more you’ll see your life change, for the better. Think of yourself as a magnetic field. If you have a dream, and you truly believe that you will become successful in this field of work and you truly believe that you’ll be happy as well, slowly, the universe will hand you what it takes to make it. The answers to “how?” “where?” “why?” “when?” will come in many forms but every single one designed specifically for you and only you. HOWEVER, the moment you begin to doubt yourself and doubt that dream - the universe will snatch everything it’s given to you right back and leave you with your doubts and worries Ina deep hole. Practice controlling your thoughts. your mind and tongue are more powerful than we give credit. spread love and positivity, and you won’t have to worry about ending up in that hole!

“reynabiddy just knows.

"I refuse to be a hurt person who hurts people.

you thought you could leave me behind.. but you still smell my scent at night, don’t you? you thought you could forget the way I rub your back till you fall in deep sleep but you’ve been having trouble dreaming lately, haven’t you? you thought you could go about your life.. like everything is alright.. but your stomach flips at the thought of me loving again, doesn’t it? you thought you could fuck someone else as if our love burned like hell but you can still feel me in every woman you please.. I know what it’s like to stare at the sky and pray for everything to fall in place.. for everything to be alright.. I know you wonder why, I’m still on your mind.. took me time too. you thought you could love again.. without my permission.. without recognition that I taught you to love me Ina way you’ll never be loved in return. you thought I’d let you throw me away so you could forget me?

Dear self,
Stop checking for people who aren’t checking for you. Chances are, they’re still the same person you left behind.. with no progress made or they aren’t who you remember them to be.. they’ve changed into someone you don’t necessarily need to “meet”. Anyone who doesn’t reach out, concerned about you and your well being.. shouldn’t be a factor to you anymore. let life take its course and accept that sometimes we outgrow people and sometimes.. they outgrow us.

Snapchat convo’s with me be like… reynabiddy on snap & ig.

how long do you let things fall into place with someone ?

you meet someone you really like.. if theres a mutual infatuation and attraction.. just let everything happen the way its supposed to. Enjoy this persons presence. Treat them right. Do whatever you can in your power to make and keep them happy, along with remembering - your happiness comes first. Don’t force them to make any decision they aren’t sure of or ‘eager’ to make. Don’t continuously ask “What are we?” Don’t go snooping for things you don’t really want to find. Don’t accuse them of lying or seeing someone else before you have solid proof and evidence. Don’t give them ultimatums about you staying or leaving. Don’t hold out things that your heart yearns for just because their is no “label” or “title”. Just relax. be calm. and take each day one at a time. Love them in the way you want to be loved, and if you don’t get that same love reciprocated.. you learn one of three things.. or hopefully all.
1. How to love more honest, more better, more harder.
2. Who to give and who not to give your energy to by retracing your steps throughout the relationship and taking note of all the signs you ignored..
3. Never forget to save some you for you. You are your own priority before anyone else should be.

Don’t hang out with people who make you feel small.
Don’t love people who make you feel unlovable."

I GOT YOU.. and not in the way your boys claim they do.
I have loyalty embedded across my lips, your secrets are safe with me.
I have plans to nurture you the same way your mother did,
I picked you the same way I pick flowers.
I smell the beauty in them.
The thing about me.. is I was born to love.
I was born to treat you the way you’ve never been treated.
you ever wonder why you think of me on your loneliest nights?
I mean.. I GOT YOU! and not in the same way you promised you had me.
I have unconditional gripped around my thighs, you could have made a home out of me.
I used to wonder why you’ve never settled down with anyone.
then I realized I picked you while in a rush.
I was so eager for love, so I settled for you,
The thing about me is.. I wasn’t raised to give up.
so.. I really got you.
My spine was formed with elasticity so I could handle both the downs and the ups.
I would have stuck around for longer than the lust..
but you saw no future in us,
you picked me the same way men pick clothing attire.
you make sure to pick someone else before the season expires..
but I promise to God I wasn’t lying when I said I got you.
16:30"you don’t need to read books on how to be successful in order to be successful. you don’t need someone else’s advice on how to be happy. you need to invest everything you’ve got into your own self. Believe in every single dream you have. Believe in every idea you think. Believe in everyone around you & everything they can do to help you grow and cut out the people you feel might stunt your growth or are prone to turning their back on you. Believe in the power of keeping a positive mindset - under all circumstances. Smile big even when you’re hurting the hardest. Nobody but you can change your situation. Nobody but you can hold you back. You don’t need to always look for reassurance from elsewhere, you are more powerful than you think. trust yourself. love yourself." — Reyna Biddy

"you don’t truly know a woman until you understand every word she isn’t saying to you.

"Sometimes I wonder what it’s like to receive love in the same way that I give it. Sometimes I wonder why it’s hard to find someone who’s genuine. Sometimes I wonder where I’d meet someone who’s just for me.. sometimes I get tired of wondering. Sometimes I get bored of meeting the same people in different bodies. Sometimes I wanna be a priority.. I don’t even have to be all that’s on your mind.. just the majority." —

SHES-FIGURING-IT-OUT: Your idea of "fun" when it comes to dates when trying to keep it inexpensive?

i’d say a cheap dinner date, hiking, movies, bowling, skating rink, museum, beach, sunset views, bike riding, i don’t really go on many dates so its hard to say. if you’re in the midst of learning someone you don’t need to go on all kinds of dates to get them to be into you and vice versa. spend time with them, in a quiet place, eating a small meal, and learn them. talk to them. watch them. appreciate them. and eventually you’ll fall for them or you’ll decide they aren’t for you. the best relationships come from organic connections not expensive outings.

LIZZCHANTELL: Is it okay to tell someone you miss them after they've told you that they didn't want you in their life? I don't want to rekindle anything, I just want him to know I miss him, bc he's been on my mind non-stop. Or does that make me look weak?

it’s okay to do anything your hear feels is right. our hearts are just as weak as they are strong. never limit yourself from doing anything with the fear of looking any type of way because realistically.. we have no control over the way anyone sees us in general. If we miss someone.. we miss someone. there’s nothing else to it. However, although you aren’t looking to “rekindle” anything.. you’re still looking for confirmation and a response. and thats another thing you cannot control. you cannot control whether this person will miss you.. or not. you cannot control whether this person will respond.. or not. and you can’t control your own emotions and heart after being put in a position of feeling rejected or neglected. so is it okay… sure. but only if you’re willing to deal with both sides of the response. good or bad.

you’re not supposed to hurt the people you love.
you’re not supposed to abandon the people you love.
you’re not supposed to use the people you love.
you’re not supposed to neglect the people you love.
you’re not supposed to embarrass the people you love.
you’re not supposed to abuse the people you love.
you’re not supposed to ignore the people you love.
you’re not supposed to manipulate the people you love
you’re not supposed to lie to the people you love.
you’re not supposed to harm the people you love.
you’re supposed to protect the people you love.
you’re supposed to fight for the people you love.
you’re supposed to continuously choose the people you love.
you’re supposed to cater to the people you love.
you’re supposed to make time for the people you love.
you’re supposed to trust the people you love.
you’re supposed to go out of your way for the people you love.
you’re supposed to be open and honest with the people you love.
you’re supposed to help guide the people you love.
you’re supposed to be good to the people you love.

"I love hard as fuck and i’ll never apologize for it."

"There’s nothing more difficult and confusing than trying to love a person who doesn’t know how to be loved. You will have bruises on your heart and cuts in your mouth from continuously accepting conditional love and holding back the love you want to give unconditionally." — Reyna Biddy

"I know what it’s like to keep the door open for someone who keeps abusing your hearts welcoming. I know what it’s like to hope for someone to love me in the same kind of way that I love them. I know what it’s like to pray for healing from the same person who broke me." — Reyna Biddy

"Do yourself a favor and stop expecting better out of a person who continuously shows you they’re only getting worse. Pay attention to the signs. Stop making excuses for people. Stop defending their inconsiderate ways and start taking care of you and your own needs. A person is only as good as they want to be. No matter how much they claim to love you, Nothing and NO ONE can change them. Stop trying. I’ve learned that not everyone loves the same, however.. When a person loves you.. they will do what it takes to make and keep you happy. period." — Reyna Biddy

"it’s important that you value who and what you have while you have them/it. it’s inevitable that ppl grow apart & things fall apart but if you’re genuine with your whole heart & pure with all of your intentions whether you lose it all or not, no one can tell you that you weren’t appreciative or thankful to have them. Show love at all times, in any situation. Be good to people always. That way, you know, if or when shit hits the fan, you were always a good person regardless of the circumstance. The quote “treat people how you want to be treated” holds heavy weight. Pay attention." —Reyna Biddy

"I’m goofy. I’m over passionate. I’m clingy. I’m crazy. I’ll give you your freedom but in return I need reassurance. Some days I’m insecure, Other days I’m arrogant. I speak my mind.. quite too often. I bite my tongue.. quite too little. I can make your world light up if you give me a chance.. I can make your heart soft and your head spin if we’re talking romance. I sit in the corner at social gatherings because I don’t like to be bothered. But the second I have you to myself I’ll talk for hours. Most times I’m too much to handle.. but never too much love. Took me some time to realize that." — Reyna Biddy

"I’m not upset with any one who’s ever neglected me, hurt me, abused me, or took me for granted. I have no grudge against anyone who’s ever turned their back on me, spoke down on me, or slept on me. I’m happy with myself for recognizing that sometimes in life people fuck up. I’ve fucked up numerous times too. I’ve been selfish and treated people in a way that I wish I never would have.. but I’m happy with myself for forgiving everyone who forced me to learn something about people, the hard way. One thing about life is.. you create it and manifest it at your own desire/level of perception. So if you believe life is beautiful.. let everything you go through be beautiful. Even the ugliest things you’ll have to face." — Reyna Biddy

"At what point will you realize that sleeping next to temporary bodies with nothing more than conditional love for you - will never feel as good as spending and sharing your entire life with the person who will never give up on you - who will kiss you with morning breath after rocking you to sleep, faithfully." — Reyna Biddy
"Kind of really happy.
Kind of really sad.
Ecstatic that my dreams are starting to come together and come true..
kind of hurt that I have no one to celebrate me

"I pray that every woman with a good heart puts her heart in good hands.
"If you’re unsure about me and the idea of ‘us’ because you aren’t sure that you’re “meant” for a relationship right now.. I’ll give you space to figure it out. If it’s because there’s someone else.. I’ll go ghost. period." — Reyna Biddy
"I’ve never really been scared of the idea of commitment.. my fear more so lies in the reality of abandonment.." — Reyna Biddy

 Do you believe you can love someone before you love yourself? And why?

it’s very possible to love someone before you love yourself. however, is it healthy? absolutely not. when you love someone before you love you, you teach yourself bad habits. you begin tolerating things that you wouldn’t, had you truly loved and valued your own self. you become attached to this person & dependent upon this person for love and happiness & slowly you become used to disrespect. what happens if this person leaves? you’re stuck on your own. all by yourself. there’s nothing worst than being left alone with someone who doesn’t love you. and in this situation, it’d be your own self. and there’s only one of two ways that it’ll all end up, one. you’d be forced to learn and love yourself. or two, you’d get over your heart break by falling under someone new. & still.. you’d be missing out on an unconditional love and happiness that only you can give yourself.



"I’m tryna fall in lust this summer
tryna make you see a future in us this summer.
tryna love you kind of rough this summer..
tryna promise forevers, knowing we’ll give up, this summer..
tryna help me grow while watching you show a real love that could never be permanent because what I give is not enough or.. what you keep within is too much for me to really fully understand that.. it’s not me.. it’s you.
but then you’ll fall in love - the real kind. you’ll find the real one.
you’ll find someone willing to love you the way you never truly allowed me to.
then you’ll say my love was too much, when all you wanted was fun.
all you wanted was someone who I never amounted to.
even though we promised it was a summer love.. and we’d fall apart as soon fall begun

You frustrate me. more than anyone ever could. & 90% of the time I cannot stand you, even till today, and I haven’t even seen you. I think it’s crazy, that you make me crazy. I go crazy over you. you pushing me away makes me really sick because you’re the only person I want near. you’re the only person I want to go home to. in some sense or way I found a home in you & I’m home sick. I really fucking miss you. & I really fucking want you. I know it’s been a crazy couple of months. but you deserve to be happy. & I CAN make you happy(er). I just want you to want me too. & it kills me to know that i could be entertaining, talking, or dating to plenty of other guys but I’d still be up late night wanting to be with and talk to you. idk.. sometimes I hate you because I feel like you take advantage of the fact that you know how much I really love you.
13:38"Dear Self: It’s a shame how hard you are on yourself. You treat others with more love than you treat you. You deserve to be celebrated too." —

Nothing and No one worth having
or keeping is going to come easy,
you have to be willing to love
out loud and put up a fight for
who and what you can’t see yourself
living without. We live in a
generation where everybody looks
out for themselves. Everyone
is too busy protecting their heart,
so we all forget the purpose of
life is to live and love. When we
shelter ourselves from love with
the fear that we’ll end up broken
we don’t realize that we’re hurting
ourself more than anything. We lose
people due to our unwillingness to
be vulnerable. We put others hearts
at risk, feeling like it’s either me
or them.. but at some point you
have to let go of these fears, your
pride and ego & take a chance on
love. You have to allow a person to
bring out the best in you. You have
to trust who you share you with.
& you have to fight. You have to
stop quitting on people when shit
gets rough. I know you weren’t
raised to be a quitter." — Reyna Biddy

you must’ve forgot the way we fell in love. you must not remember how hard I fought for us - fought to love you dry so we could rest some nights, my heart had a way of warming up for you. My body has a habit of waiting up for you. Sometimes I miss the way you feel.
The forcefield behind the delicate.
I want to be what you think about when you can’t think straight.
I want to propose a toast for the love we made infinite.
You touched me like you were scared you’d never feel again..
And maybe after me, you won’t.

The truth is, while they’re breaking your heart they probably won’t even have the decency to tell the truth. Like they aren’t really leaving because they have to focus on themselves, they’re leaving because they’re tired of focusing on you. or maybe.. they’re looking to find someone new and place their focus there. The truth is, sometimes true love does end. it isn’t always infinite. Maybe some of the promises he/she made weren’t meant to be broken but the universe stepped in between and interfered. Maybe you were the one they dreamt about.. but sometimes dreams become blurry. sometimes we grow up and grow apart. sometimes the truth is ugly but the growth is lovely. you have to learn to accept and appreciate all of your breakdowns in order to acknowledge your breakthroughs. and.. Truthfully, no matter how distraught you are today.. one day, someday, tomorrow will get better. the sun will beam brighter. & you’ll fall in love all over again.

How Do you go about cutting off friendships that no longer serve you?

sometimes we outgrow people - that’s life. sometimes we hurt people - that’s life. sometimes we keep people around even when they don’t deserve to be around us - in fear that we’ll hurt them or we’ll hurt ourselves. but ultimately we don’t owe anyone anything, we only owe ourselves. if someone around you doesn’t add to your life in a positive way, make you happy, or help you grow, you don’t OWE them a reason for outgrowing them. you deserve to keep yourself from people who don’t deserve you. It’s up to you to decide whether it’s appropriate to contact this person and let them know exactly why you can’t be their friend or… you can let life run its course and allow yourself to grow apart from them naturally.

"I needed you most the times you weren’t there for me. I needed you to hold me the long nights I stayed up lonely. I always dropped everything for you. I lost myself to you. Idk why I thought shit was mutual..

Just because I might avoid you when I see you, doesn’t mean I didn’t love you at one point."

be good to me. I dare you.
what I would do for you, might scare you.
sé que no estamos enamorados pero dame un beso.
let me taste who you were before I met you.
let me figure out why they left you.. and if they left all the ashes that remained from the incense that were too intense to make love in - I’m sure it was hard to smell the fuck.. the fucks that were given and the lust that was in it.
I know how hard you can be.
I know how hard it may seem to give yourself to a being when within your heart lies uncertainty.
I know what it’s like to feel empty.
you know it’s alright to be open with me - I’ve got no intentions of holding you down if you don’t want that from me.
tired of asking when you’re free.
I always laugh at how bad I want you.
The way an addict wants his vice
lovers want the night
I want you in a grown up way.
not the kind of crush I had in 10th grade, this is not the same
back then shit was fun but this is not a game..
I want you to touch the parts of me that other men are scared to see and forget all the reasons you can’t stay.
I know what you like,
I know what it’s like to keep the best parts of me hidden, aren’t you exhausted?
I can make you feel alright..
you never really told me why you were into me.
I’m eager for you to hold me like it means anything.
different from what you’re use to. Hope my persistence doesn’t scare you..
it’s just some nights I crave you when I know I shouldn’t.
- Reyna Biddy

"you have to love yourself enough to not tolerate disrespect, disloyalty, and wishy washy feelings. If a person doesn’t value you, move on." — Reyna Biddy (via kushandwizdom)

"I could treat you right if you let me.. I mean, I saw the way you looked when you first met me. I know what it’s like to be frightened by love, but love.. I’m the type of love you’ve been waiting to see. I’m the type of woman who can bring you to your knees. We could dance under stars or drink green tea in the spring. I could love you through the midnight hours and put you straight to sleep. You see.. I’m the kind of person you’ve been missing. I could love you so hard because I love me. I love me enough to see right through you. I can see the fear in your eyes when you look at a real woman.. a woman capable of any and everything.. a woman who doesn’t expect perfect and sees your potential.. a woman willing to work with all that you are and kiss all of your scars, away.. I could be the one.. if you let me." — Reyna Biddy

Can’t remember how it feels to not feel alone."

Lately I’ve been trying to remember who I am. Or who I was. Trying to retrace the steps I took to get to this numb place. Trying to retract every man who lead me here. One by one I kept breaking. Loving the idea of what love made me. So happy, So alive. Trying to understand where I went wrong and how all our feelings died. I just wanted to be happy with you. I just wanted to heal you. I made the mistake of believing you could heal someone who’s already broken. & hurt myself. Sometimes I just.. miss me.
- I should have loved you less.
- I should have loved myself more.

"I wanna be the person you fall for when everybody else is falling for you.."

Are you sure you can’t stay?

sometimes we question why others can’t see us. sometimes we wonder why our lovers don’t truly need us. sometimes we alter our entire self to fit the standards of someone else as if we aren’t satisfied - being us. but you’re perfect. I promise. your scars work daily to stitch themselves into beauty marks. your eyes continue to burn, dim, but after all those nights you were blown out and neglected.. your heart stayed lit. your lips are longing for a love from someone who loves that you love yourself. it’s time for a kiss. The loyalty in your back holds you up even while aching from the men who claimed they’d hold you down and you effortlessly drowned in. your fingers still play a nostalgic song from the days before you gave yourself away and allowed someone to pollute your mind with the idea that you aren’t breathtaking. you’re everything. you see, sometimes our vision gets blurry and we just so happen to think that others have more beauty. we dilute ourselves to grow into someone less than who we are. Leaving unfinished art on our hearts.. but you can’t love someone into loving you.. you’re better off with your bones picked apart, loving all that you are and all that you were, from the start.

I can’t help but remember how you hold me. I can’t help but appreciate how you helped mold me. I can’t recall how you told me but.. you know me.. you have the same soul as me.. you wear the same sleeves as me, I can’t forget how your heart stole me. I can’t help but miss how you loved me and how you’d show me. I can’t help but pray that you stroke your fingers through my hair one last time.. that you look me in my eyes and apologize for promising me a lie.. that you come back from where ever you are, and I can’t help but hope you aren’t too far deep in who ever they are.. I just can’t help but forgive you for how you broke me. 

Last night the silence weighed in on me.
Common streaks of nothing but the sound of
Every deep breath I used to satisfy my disappointment.
Faded pale ceilings that compliment the clutter sharing space with me.
The chaos inside that has waited for me.
Some days I can’t breathe.. Some nights I can’t speak
These walls will never understand the pain that comes
with lying in between infinite nothings, so they cry too..
Thee infatuations that made sense to disappear,
when feelings arose and fell through -
The blind would’ve made sense and seen too.
I’ve shared myself with many bodies in hopes that
I could find souls who I could break through.
& have found nothing but the same empty holes
within myself that’ve proved my love disabled.
- Last night I sat in the same queen size bed
you whispered you loved me in.
With one eye open and one eye closed, resting
was beyond the bounds of any love I thought I’d reasoned.
: So I sit still -
The Mirror I once loved to watch us make love in
to intertwine into one while climaxing as the sun
rose from dawn till dusk to spread love as i spun
counting pedals - one by one -
Does he love me? Is he the one? 
Was this meant for me before it begun?
Am I your safe haven just for fun? 
It mocked me for lust while looking back toward an empty me.
I could hardly catch my breath, wondering who
i’ve become and am I all the left over pieces you chose
to pick apart before you could fully leave…
: my hands are hurting.
Ironically, not my heart.
Last night I stared at the rivers, which’ve flown down my palms

If you were mine right now.. I could say it
you ever wonder why life takes love the same way it gave it?
easily friends, complicatedly lovers
we made sense before you touched me and made me feel sure
we were meant to be, you were meant for me, forsure
as many seasons have passed, leaving “us” in the past
If you were sitting beside me and I were faded..
I could still get you fucked up on my love.
because some nights I know how much you crave it, too..

“ “Garden - Halsey
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I think we let ourselves feel a lot of things because we believe it is better to feel something rather than nothing at all.

you promised me the world then left mine black and white.

"I trust the universe to bring me everything I need in the right time.

Some days I feel things too deep. and other days I wonder what it’s like to feel anything at all. Sometimes I can feel the exact moment where everything in a relationship changes, for the worst. It’s like a super power. That moment you look inside your lovers eyes and don’t feel love anymore. Sometimes I can’t understand why it all hurts so bad.. and other times I can’t understand why it doesn’t hurt at all.




“I am a person who’s deeply in love with life in every second. But I am also terrified of death and by the idea of being separated from the people I care of. I think that unconsciously this might be one of the reasons that encouraged me to get a camera and start doing what I do.”

Dennis Elliott for Atlas Magazine


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I think of you more often than I’d like to admit. There’s not a night where I don’t wonder where you are, what’s on your mind and if it’s me. The hardest thing is seeing you every single day and having to walk past you like we never had anything. When my heart aches it aches for you and hours feel like days and days feel like years.
If I could wind back the clock and do things differently, I would do everything. But maybe I was never the person you thought I was and you couldn’t see that. Even though you hurt me deeply, I can still only see the light in you.
Just because I ended things doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt, despite my brain telling me I shouldn’t care. It doesn’t mean I wanted to, either. Believe me, I wanted it to work out more than anything. There are days so rough I want to cave in and message you. I want to but I won’t because we won’t.
Despite what you might think, I did and quite possibly still like you a lot. I was never the best at showing it. I’m sorry if I made it seem like I didn’t, but I could never show my emotions very well. Maybe we’ll talk to each other again one day. Maybe I’ll be able to look at you and nothing will hurt. Maybe.

I wonder if you ever talked about me to someone

I never knew that love had a sound, until I heard you laugh

I just came at the wrong time.

You and I will meet again
When we’re least expecting it
One day in some far off place

Her eyes said more than words can say

I hope one day 5 years from now you stumble across me when I’ve grown out of you and finally then after not seeing me for all this time it will break your heart

To love is nothing. To be loved is something. But to love and be loved, that’s everything.

“ indie

things i learned from my first relationship
  • liking someone and liking being in a relationship with them are two very different things
  • if you aren’t being treated the way you feel you should be, LEAVE.
  • saying “sorry” is just a momentary fix. your actions will speak louder.
  • distance does not always make the heart grow fonder.
  • you are allowed to feel the way you feel.
  • if it is meant to be, it will be. 
  • you are so incredibly special and if someone doesn’t see that, then they’re not right for you.

“boho/indie/nature blog

Instead of getting angry, just let go. You’re only hurting yourself if you don’t

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“i always follow back :)

“following back!! :)

He’s tall, he’s incredibly tall, he’s really fucking tall. I didn’t say a name but he popped into your head didn’t he?

Honestly I’m such a catch and if you don’t have at least a little crush on me its ur loss

I am the ocean; so deep and full of unnoticed things. But people only see my surface and think that’s all that’s left off me

In the end
these things matter most:
How well did you love?
How fully did you live?
How deeply did you let go?


me trying to convince myself that this boy i like is uglybeyoncebeytwice:
why do i like him hes so….. disgusting look at those ugly brown eyes they look like… mud and he’s too tall if i stand next to him ill never get any sun and ill die and his hands are so…. big. he could kill me i hate him

“Sleep - Citizen

“           ”

“the train on the way home passed right along the ocean while the sun was kind of low and the carriage was empty and everything was flooded in light and all quiet …… it felt very dream-like

You make lists in your head about what you want in a lover, like brown hair and a sweet voice. A sharp mind and a soft heart, a sense of humor that actually makes you laugh like you mean it. This and that. And it’s all bullshit. Because people aren’t lists. And I’ve always wanted to be the person who made someone realize that. I want to come across someone with a list in their head that is nothing like the person I am, and I want to show them what they didn’t even know they were looking for. People who think they know what they want are fooling themselves. Nobody really knows what they want.
Not until it’s right in front of them

Just look at life with more playful eyes. Don’t be serious. Seriousness becomes like a blindness. Don’t pretend to be a thinker, a philosopher. Just simply be a human being. The whole world is showering its joy on you in so many ways, but you are too serious, you cannot open your heart

Dont ruin a good today by thinking about a bad yesterday. Let it go

I think I’m losing you, but I will never regret choosing you

People who need help sometimes look a lot like people who don’t need help.

Boy: u wanna come over and watch a movie? 
Me: I’ve seen all the movies 
Boy: all the movies ever made?
Me: yea

I understand I can’t have you. But I want to know you’re in the world with me

That’s the only thing that matters, honey, for someone to see more in you than you thought there was to see.

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One day I will forgive you; until then there are scabs everywhere that you have touched me.

“Indie / Bambi blog”

I love late night conversations, late night drives, late night snacks, late night showers, everything’s better at night.

I will walk by myself 
and cure myself 
in the sunshine and the wind.

The worst thing you can do if you miss or need someone is let them know it.

“Pancake sunday 💞 whole wheat chocolate pancakes ( + lucuma and @organicburst wheatgrass ) with banana, strawberries, cherries, hazelnut butter and a sprinkle of raw cane sugar!

*stands outside Harvard waiting for cute nerdy potential billionaires*

“ following back all new followers!

“ mis0mania:
“ my baao pillow came in the mail c:
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Joy came always after pain.

1. Drink water
2. Call your grandmother
3. Thank the bus driver
4. Experience something new (watch the sunrise, go to somewhere you’d never see yourself at)
5. Tell someone you miss them
6. Buy your mom a flower
7. Search for milkshakes recipes and try some
8. Start a conversation with someone you know is crazy about talking to you
9. Be concentrated at school/work
10. Exercise outside
11. Bring your headphones everywhere
12. Listen to a new kind of music
13. Watch tv series you used to watch in your childhood
14. Appreciate things; look at someone in the eye when you say thank you
15. Greet your friends with a hug
16. Those who are quiet know it, don’t point that out
17. Forgive someone you’ve been mad at for a long time
18. Eat clean
19. Take pictures of the sky at different times of the day and then put it all together
20. Go to the coffee shop by yourself, watch people around you
21. Dance freely
22. Compliment on more than appearances
23. Bake cupcakes and offer them to your friends
24. Say goodmorning to a stranger and say it to another two for each one that doesn’t say it back
25. Ice cream
26. Offer your help
27. Use a new outfit
28. Be humble
29. Don’t search for old photographs, take new ones
30. Remember to go out some time but also remember how great it feels to be home

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(q’d - have a good day cutie x)

In a world as wrong as this one, all we can do is make things as right as we can

if you wanna see someone’s true character, watch when you stop catering to their ego and don’t everything they ask of you like you used to
that’s why I don’t even waste my time with fake bullshit anymore. I’m always going to be myself, upfront, independent with my ways and unapologetic with actions towards MY life and my future and some people get so ugly/show that they actually are ugly ass people on the inside when you start standing up for yourself. 
i don’t expect things back when i do things for others. i do it bc i’m a good person.
i’m not saying something so you can read in between the lines and guess what i want. i’m going to tell you.
stop playing gaaaaamessssss. i really am not the one.
pursue personal growth and satisfaction above all

I just wanna stay lowkey as hell and keep my soul and personality full of positivity and peace.

Not everyone you lose is a loss.


Aries: uses bodily ingredients such as hair or teeth or nails, wild and free and howling at the moon, fire tells them what they want to know, embraces all but does not tolerate betrayal, gifted in the use of poppets and curses, full of energy and static and power
Taurus: a collector of many things, uses crystals and herbs, proficient in kitchen magic, has an inner strength that knows no bounds and no true master, a home full of colored glass and jars filled with anything you could ever need, rooted and able, wears robes with many many pockets
Gemini: a card reader and game changer, spoken spells fill the very air with magic and potential, an avid learner and sharer of their craft, books and tomes and candles fill their space, knows the power of words and names, tattoos sigils and spells all over their body and they seem to move when you aren’t looking, vast and uncontainable
Cancer: rests under the moon and whispers magic in their sleep, uses astral projection to explore and learn and play with ghosts, elaborate and detailed dream diary, deep understanding of astrology, somehow already knows what you’re going to say, mysterious and soft but only on the surface, a knower of secrets, sleepy eyes, lives in a tree in a misty forest and makes friends with the plants and spirits there
Leo: strongest in the day and has eyes that light up the night, mighty voice and skilled hands, breath carries a spark, animalistic energy you can feel when they look at you, makes their own spells borrows their own power, incredible visualization makes their dreams realities, difficult to look at directly for reasons you don’t really understand, wild hair and adorned in gems
Virgo: techno witch, weaves magic into code and text, keeps a blog as their book of shadows and altar, urban magic, has a restless mind and busy hands, deletes negativity out of their life, has much information to share despite their hollow look, eyes are lit from the inside, their phone is full of pictures that keep moving and notes only they can read
Libra: covered in veils and breathes perfume to hide themselves and confuse you, summons creatures and demons to do their bidding so their hands remain clean, almost transparent at times like a ghost or vision, is stronger than they look and delights in you not knowing their power, their mouth is almost always moving but you can’t hear what they say, soft to the touch but their skin is cold, trinkets and charms and chains adorn them and their home
Scorpio: eyes and nails are dark and caked in black, frequents graveyards and learns from the ghosts and crows, solitary witch who makes friends with bones, will help you learn what you want to know for a price, is afraid to sleep, quiet and haunted, is reborn each new moon, is full of knowing and fog and promise, takes a lock of hair from all they help, you feel them in your core
Sagittarius: rides their broom with reckless abandon, plays with the children on Halloween and shows them magic is real, their home has legs and never stays still, keeps many familiars and most are birds, gifted in charms and potions and sells their work with a smile, you can hear them laughing with the moon at night, chapped lips and wide eyes, magic is erratic and spontaneous and they couldn’t control it if they wanted to
Capricorn: loose black and gray clothing that flows when they walk, keeps a pouch of salt around their neck at all times, face is often covered or hard to see, protection spells and sigils are their innate ability, the floor trembles when they are angry, always watching watching watching, lives in a stone cottage covered with moss and scrawlings and carvings, other witches are silent around them out of fear and awe
Aquarius: hermit, storm witch, plays with rain and dances with lightning and shouts thunder, keeps trinkets and mementos in small jars around their bed, asks favors and learns from the clouds, raw and swift and ready to act, soft as a summer rain and cold as hail, hair is full of leaves and wind, feet are dirty but their mind is clean and sharp
Pisces: smells of salt and dressed in rags and burlap and pearls, misty eyes that look through you and deep deep down in you, water witch with a soft face and an ocean for a heart, thing of the sea, empath who sometimes knows you better than you do, bottles own tears and keeps them for spells, witch of all trades master of none, head is full of crashing waves, overflowing with magic and wonder

1. Be aware of, and respect, your emotional limits.
2. Don’t be a people pleaser.
3. Take control of your thoughts.
4. Listen to your heart.
5. Be kind to yourself; don’t tear yourself down.
6. Learn to take control of, and to manage, your time. 
7. Let go of those things you can’t control.
8. Stay away from drama and negativity.
9. Say “yes” to those things that are important to you.
10. Get plenty of sleep, and make time for solitude.

the older i get
the more i realize the value of privacy
of cultivating your circle and only letting certain people in
you can be open, honest, and real while still understanding not everyone deserves a seat at the table of your life

Ask yourself every day, “what is no longer serving me?”
Identify the thoughts, habits, routines, actions and people in your life that no longer encourage you to grow. Disengage from empty distractions and remove negativity from your life wherever possible in order to create space to move in the direction that you truly desire.


1. When we see you after a long day, we might be all irritable and not want to talk
It has nothing to do with you. Outgoing introverts, though still introverts at their core, often need to recharge after a large use of social energy. After a long day of dealing with people, our social batteries are drained and we need to unwind and recover, usually alone.
2. We’re charming creatures and can be the life of the party, but…
You’ll be surprised how much we actually live in our heads. People often confuse us for extroverts, but we’re too introspective and over-think too much to be one.
3. If we like you, we really like you.
We don’t waste our time with people we’re not completely crazy about. If we agreed to go on a date with you, we like you. Take it as a huge compliment.
4. We have times when we’re weird with our phones.
Some days we can talk for hours, but sometimes we’re not so good at replying and talking on the phone. Don’t take it personally - we screen our phone calls, even from our closest friends. Outgoing introverts sometimes hate the phone because it’s all, like, intrusive and tears our minds away from whatever we’re deeply focusing on (and we are always deeply focusing on something). Our mind doesn’t change direction easily. Listening to one thing and seeing something else is a lot of sensory input piled on top of everything that’s already going on in our heads.
5. But don’t worry, in person we’ll listen to you for hours.
We have spectrums of introversion, so we’re good listeners. We’ll always be naturally in tune with how you’re feeling, so we’ll be able to see through any front you put up and make you jump into the deep end.
6. We need to dip our foot in the pool first.
We need time to warm up, so, like, chill. We tend not to outwardly express our feelings and spill our whole life story in the first hour of meeting you. Or the first year.
7. Our energy level depends on our environment.
Yes, we can get annoyed easily. If we vibe with the crowd, we can get our energy from human interactions. But if we don’t, we’ll start to get really introspective and reflective, and tend to withdraw into ourselves. It’s kinda like a hit or miss. We’re very selectively social. But it’s not because we dislike people - it’s actually the opposite. We dislike the barriers like small talk (which often comes with going out) creates between people, and try to avoid it at all costs.

8. You’ll think we are flirty with everyone.
Okay here’s the thing, when we inevitably have to interact with people, we make it seem like there’s nothing in the world we’d rather be doing. It’s ‘cause we’re, like, overly sensitive and so we go out of our way to make other people feel comfortable and happy. We’re intuitive and outgoing at the same time.
Research has found that introverts pay more attention to detail and exhibit increased brain activity when processing visual information. A study shows that the brain of an introvert weighs internal cues more strongly than external motivational and reward cues.

“For Love & Lemons

Money doesn’t buy happiness, but I’d rather cry on a terrace with a Mediterranean seascape view and reach into a Birkin for kleenex to wipe my tears away.


1. See the good in your past. There will always be things that we wish had never happened; there will always be bad memories and things that we regret. But they are part of who you are – so accept that they have happened and celebrate the person they’ve allowed you to become.
2. Invest time in the things that bring you happiness. It’s important to identify the things that you enjoy, and that make you come alive, and are all a part of “you”. Spending time on those things will help to raise your self-esteem, as you’re valuing yourself when you pursue happiness.
3. Forgive yourself for your mistakes. We all make mistakes - and when we think of them we cringe. But that doesn’t make you any worse than other people. Just try and learn what you can, and then move on with your life.
4. Stop criticising yourself. So often we’re really our own worst enemy. We look for our flaws, and we put ourselves down – instead of being understanding of our own limitations. It’s time to change that behaviour – so start loving yourself.
5. Listen to your instincts and intuitions. If you want to love yourself, you must listen to yourself. Pay attention to those instincts and your instant gut reaction – and trust that you are right when you hear that inner voice.
6. Appreciate your life. Of course there are things that you wish that you could change. But some things are good, and are worth appreciating. So, focus on, appreciate, and make lots of your strengths.


Don’t make tonight a night you regret forever.

aries: the definition of a fuckboy but they actually have a soul. literally don’t give two shits about the haters and are some of the most loyal friends i’ve ever encountered. have very sudden growth periods. super dedicated to anything they put their mind to. ALSO OH MY GOD SO GOOD WITH THE TONGUE 
taurus: very eccentric, don’t really know how to deal with emotions. get flustered easily but it’s kinda cute. dreamy demeanor. will ignore the hell out of u if u fuck them over. are lowkey terrified of everything but will probs never admit that as they have some weird element of ego tied into that. 
gemini: really chill people when u get to know them but will scare the shit out of u for like six years if u don’t approach them. do not fucking piss them off as they will butcher yo ass with their tongue and hang u up for the rest of the world to see. probably has daddy issues. writers. really physically attractive and everybody is intimidated as fuck by it. dumb as hell in terms of love and will flirt with you incessantly. REALLY FUCKIN GOOD WITH THEIR HANDS LIKE DAMN. 
cancer: big hearts. fuckin adorable little water signs that are likely drowning in a puddle of their own tears. do not know how to fucking flirt to save their lives. their laughs are kooky as hell and i love it. probably smoke weed. u either love ‘em or want to kill them or are in some poorly balanced inbetween.
leo: okay y’all needa settle down a bit. fragile fuckin egos if i’ve ever seen ‘em and react hardcore if u piss them off. pretty over the top with everything. but damn, are some of the most hopelessly romantic motherfuckers i’ve met. will treat you like a fucking god(dess) if u let them. not super good at social cues tbh. good friends to have if u need to be validated. need quality time. 
virgo: y’all are lowkey hoes and give no fucks about it and it’s fucking great omfg. despite that, they maintain an endearing innocence and can be childish af when things don’t go their way but will love u until the end of time. great taste in music. super fucking smart but don’t show it off too often. 
libra: jesus christ okay i love u guys. super understanding and will always try to see all sides of a situation. probably have been through a lot. aren’t afraid to call u on ur shit and are lowkey emotional shawtys that are still trying to find themselves. make really wonderful parents. get crazy excited over little shit and it’s fucking adorable. 
scorpio: don’t fuck with these hoes unless u know urself first. will expose the parts of urself that u didn’t want to see. super gnarly in fights and will love u until the end of time. pretty standoffish and need time alone when emotionally unstable. keep themselves in amazing shape. are the loneliest fucks i know; be kind to them always. are probably in great shape (physically.)
sagittarius: craziest mofos out there. abandon all emotions before going into a situation and can be super impulsive. funny as fuck and always seem to be on another level. push themselves to the limit and usually forget to give themselves a break. ambitious and can get shit done when they need to. 
capricorn: talk about a ride or die. y’all are loyal to the grave and are incredible friends. until u get fucked over. will probably make ur enemies’ life a living hell, sometimes over-the-top about it. can be v athletic. good writers/artists. really interested in spirituality and the ethereal realms. u guys know what to do in bed and flirt hard af. also so fucking funny oh my god. 
aquarius: amazing friends. probably hate u. easily excitable. space cadets 4 life. rly good with animals and love food but probably restrict their eating habits in one way or another. a paradox in that they are fucking driven as hell to get shit done but give zero fucks at the same time. lowkey kinky af. want to kiss everyone. 
pisces: emotional shawtys through and through. physically attractive as hell. not good at romantic relationships. won’t forget about u for a million years. keep their friends close but will push u the fuck away if they get scared. insecure and just want u to stick around. 


even though they don't express it frequently, they constantly crave attention from the people they care about and feel neglected/disliked if they don't receive that attention


they're incredibly secretive; even if it seems like they're talking a lot and opening up to you, you will never know the whole story bc they'll never let you know the whole story - only random parts of it


very aware of what makes other people happy and of how to cheer them up - actually surprisingly good at comforting people if they care about them enough


even if they seem quiet and reserved on the outside theyre actually completely crazy once you get to know them and it's almost scary tbh


100% ready to help you out through any crap you're going through and are likely to kill someone for you if you need it


they have a rly dorky sense of humour and even though their jokes are usually the lame they'll always be there to pick you up when you're having a bad day


not rly nice and nurturing to EVERYONE (like zodiac posts make them seem), actually VERY selective about their friends and gives them the realest advice without ever sugarcoating anything


too perceptive, even if they don't point it out they can tell when something's wrong before you've even decided to tell them


even though they're outgoing and usually manage to get along with different kinds of people, they have only a very small number of true friends who they are ridiculously loyal to


they are veeeeery picky, especially when it comes to friends and the people they trust - even if they seem very impressed with you they might be just acting polite while judging u on the inside lmao


they aren't unemotional, they probably do care about you a lot but just don't know how to show it


they let themselves get dragged through the dirt all the time and even if you treat them like crap they pretend they're okay when they're not and do literally whatever they can to help you and make you happy

“Hanky Panky

“Point Lobos, California by j*lewis

tell yourself you’re hot. tell yourself you’re amazing. tell yourself you’re untouchably, radiantly attractive. do it every day, even if it feels like you’re lying to yourself. insist to the mirror that you’re the cutest thing its ever reflected. if you do it enough eventually it wont feel like lying anymore, it’ll be automatic, and you’ll recognize yourself as the incredible babe you really are.

“You become what you think about all day long. Your thoughts become things. Make those things beautiful one thought at a time 💕💕💕. Stay inspired by @janawilliamsphoto

A five year old on YouTube just taught me how to french braid my hair.

I love self care so much.
like hell yeah, take your bubble baths. light those candles. moisturize your whole damn body. drink tea.  take a four hour nap to recharge. put on cute socks & underwear. look at yourself in the mirror. think loving thoughts.

date someone who makes you feel like Everytime We Touch by Cascada on the inside 

no offense but purposefully negative people are boring and draining as hell and not nearly as interesting as they think they are

Don’t ever let a man make you feel less than you are. Don’t ever let a man think he can control you. You are beautiful. You are intelligent, and you deserve the world. 

I think it’s really hard to find people who are genuine. Not too many people care about much outside of themselves and their own problems. I have been feeling kind of depressed and lost lately and it’s been pretty … Difficult. I am so thankful to have a few people in my life who care. People who listen to me and even give me advice. You’re the fucking shit, and I love you.


my 2015 aesthetic: working towards goals, sticking to skincare routine, drinking enough water, minding my own business, radiating love & positivity

What can you offer me that I can’t offer myself?

"Be alone. Eat alone, take yourself on dates, sleep alone. In the midst of this you will learn about yourself. You will grow, you will figure out what inspires you, you will curate your own dreams, your own beliefs, your own stunning clarity, and when you do meet the person who makes your cells dance, you will be sure of it, because you are sure of yourself."

"Somebody asked me if I was looking for something. I am looking for everything."

"Every next level of your life will demand a different version of you."

"The soul that sees beauty may sometimes walk alone."

"Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successfully personality and duplicate it."

"No one is ever too busy, it’s about priorities."

"She is Art. What the fuck do you expect from her, other than confusion, beauty and goddamn soul?"

"In order to move on, from anything in life- you must first understand why you felt what you did and why you no longer need to feel it. Shadow work, also know as the original wound. Learn to trace back uncomfortable feelings until you find the original source. No one can ever emotionally hurt us. The pain always steams from within. Others show us where we are wounded & what we must heal. One must take responsibility for what they feel. Being aware of our thoughts, emotions & actions is the first step in healing. The goal of working with the shadow is to integrate & come to know and accept all of those parts that we have attempted to hide or run from. Shadow work allows us reclaim the projections we put on others. We turn inward & can listen + heal those aspects within ourselves instead. If you were to ask me what the most important tool on the path of transformation is- I would say the mirror of other souls actions."

"We can’t jump off bridges anymore because our iPhones will get ruined. We can’t take skinny dips in the ocean, because there’s no service on the beach and adventures aren’t real unless they’re on Instagram. Technology has doomed the spontaneity of adventure and we’re helping destroy it every time we Google, check-in, and hashtag."

"Intelligence will never stop being beautiful."

"Cultivate solitude and quiet and a few sincere friends, rather than mob merriment, noise and thousands of nodding acquaintances."

"She’s not the type of girl to wait by the phone, she won’t cry, she knows it’ll get her nowhere, she’ll laugh a lot and often, and she will live her own life. She would like you to be a part of it, but she will do just fine without you."

"Do you realize how important it is to be independent? To be able to take care of yourself? To not rely on someone else for your most basic needs? And to not get so damn attached to stuff that you’d rather demean yourself than live without it?"

"all great art is a form of complaint"

"She was most beautiful when she did as she wanted; when she ate what she wanted and sighed in satisfaction. When she wore what she wanted and walked in confidence. She was particularly spectacular when she loved…even when she received nothing in return."

Sometimes people try to destroy you, precisely because they recognize your power — not because they don’t see it, 
but because they see it and they don’t want it to exist.”

My worst fear is being stuck.
Being stuck in a place that isn’t comfortable, or that bores me, being stuck with people that I don’t care for, being stuck doing a job I can’t stand.

we had a platonic relationship, made me feel like I was 16 again and made me feel nervous at times. something I haven’t felt in years. we both knew we could be a little more or a lot more, but we didn’t care to.
instead we drifted and now I’m left with small smirks when I think of our short-lived friendship. there’s something about having a great connection with someone out of nowhere and never speaking to them again that I love. I don’t need anyone right now, but what I do need is little reminders that I can feel ways that I swore I couldn’t feel again.

"Even when I detach, I care. You can be separate from a thing and still care about it. If I wanted to detach completely, I would move my body away. I would stop the conversation midsentence. I would leave the bed. Instead, I hover over it for a second. I glance off in another direction. But I always glance back at you."

"I crave affection; and run from it."

I appreciate simple company so much 
Those people who you can go to lunch with and play your favorite songs with in the car but there isn’t much talking, because you guys are extremely comfortable with each other and don’t need conversation to fill the silence. No expectations when you hang out, everything just feels neutral and easy.


"You cannot make everyone think and feel as deeply as you do. This is your tragedy … because you understand them, and they do not understand you."

My business, my love life, my problems, my feelings, my next move, my goals… All on the low low. Don’t think you ever know me if you ain’t in my life.

  • transparent: (reveals everything) Cancer, Pisces, Libra, Aries
  • translucent: (only reveals some things or hints at them) Sagittarius, Gemini, Leo, Virgo
  • opaque: (cannot be read, reveals nothing) Taurus, Capricorn, Aquarius, Scorpio

  • "Step into the fire of self-discovery. This fire will not burn you, it will only burn what you are not."
  • "They told me to pour my heart into everything I do. So that’s what I did, I poured and poured and poured. Now they ask me why I’m so empty."

  • "I liked that about her. She was unpredictable. Sometimes the things she said and did were surprising. Sometimes they disturbed me. But she was exciting, and that’s what I liked most. She was so many, many things but she was never once boring."

  • "Surround yourself with people who talk about visions and ideas, not other people."

  • "…and then I realized how much I always tried to save you, when I was the one who needed saving."   ( jedna osoba w wodzie z wyciągniętą ręką, druga na pomoście)
  • "So many people glorify and romanticize “busy”. I do not. I value purpose. I believe in resting in reason and moving in passion. If you’re always busy/moving, you will miss important details. I like the mountain. Still, but when it moves, lands shift and earth quakes."
  • "We need something else, and there is nothing."
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  • We need more hot men who don’t follow every girl on Instagram
  • "I choose to be alone, I choose the very few people I sit with. I grew. And I discovered that life became too stressful to be with anyone who makes you feel uncomfortable."
  • "Everything passes. Everything changes. Just do what you think you should do."
  • "Don’t look away. Look straight at everything. Look it all in the eye, good and bad."
  • "Your best teacher is your last mistake."
  • "People empty me. I have to get away to refill."
  • "I often make the mistake of thinking that something that is obvious to me is obvious to everyone else."
  • When I ask you what you do and you answer me 'I'm an artist' I always want to ask 'aren't we all?" 
  • "You will evolve past people, places, jobs, and various situations. Stop trying to hold on, especially when there is no love residing within them. And if these things are breaking away from you, it’s easier. Never fight for something that doesn’t want to stay; you’ll just be carrying dead weight."
  • "I feel so many things growing–my individuality, my confidence; I feel lines of my character growing stronger. I’m really sprouting, springing up, with mixed feelings of tenderness and bitterness, faith and disillusion, hardness and softness. I have never felt so clearly that my Self is – obscurely and stubbornly self-made."

  • "There is only one person you spend your whole life with, and that is yourself. If you aren’t ok with you, there is an issue"

  • leanputa:

  • "you deserve to be loved. you deserve to be touched. you deserve to be kissed. you deserve to be worshipped. you deserve to be treated right." —Reyna Biddy (via kushandwizdom)

    Kochasz jedzenie w mieście, odkrywając nowe smaki i nowo otwarte kawiarnie i restauracje czujesz się jak Krzysztof Columb i wierzysz w to, że śmiech i dobre ciasto to recepta na szczęście?

    Jeśli chociaż na jedno z tych pytań odpowiedziałeś/aś twierdząco - to właśnie Ciebie szukam! :D

    Jestem młodą fotografką i od dłuższego czasu marzę o założeniu bloga kulinarngo z recenzjami poznańskich perełek wśród lokali - także tych nieznanych i słabo reklamowanych. Wiem, że takich blogów jest w sieci sporo, ale mam kilka pomysłów, dzięki którym mamy szansę się wyróżnić.
    Wiara w sukces, optymizm i miłość do jedzenia to podstawa!

    Chcę włożyć w ten projekt całe serce, całą duszę i cały żołądek i poszukuję teamu wielbicieli jedzenia, z którymi będę zwiedzała cieawe lokale, degustowała potrawy, robiła im zdjęcia (agresywna polityka to plan sukcesu: blog, fanpage, Instagram) iii przede wszystkim - mam nadzieję, że spędzimy przepełnione żartami i uśmiechem momenty, które na początku będą dobrą i smakowitą zabawą, a kto wie - może kiedyś przerodzą się w pracę! 

    Chcę postawić na efektowne zdjęcia, autentyczne i prawdziwe recenzje, przepelnione naszymi emocjami i klimat, który sprawi, że ludzie będą chcieli nas czytać i oglądać. Nie szukam profesjonalistów, znawców kuchni, ani kulinarnych ekspertów - NIE! Szukam zwykłych, przyjaznych ludzi, którzy tak jak ja mają ochotę w ciekawy sposób spożytkować czas - jedząc, śmiejąc się, robiąc zdjęcia i wymieniając się opiniami na temat tego, co jemy, a później spisywaniu tych myśli. 

    Także hej, hej - niezależnie od wieku i płci - jeśli choć trochę zaintrygował Cię mój pomysł, koniecznie skrobnij odpowiedź. Napisz kilka słów o sobie, wiek i płeć i wymień trzy rzeczy, które wzbudzają w Tobie ślinotok. 

    Pozdrawiam ciepło wszystkich łakomczuchów i czekam na odzew! :)

    I have a big ass and even bigger heart. I drink twenty teas per day (white and green ones taste like ambrosia, I swear!, I eat and think about eating much more than I should. I enjoy reading, adore traveling (we live to see the world, not for the world to see us) and like taking care of myself (I am the most precious 'thing' I own), can't live without my friends and dogs. 

    zdjęcie z dużym globusem:

    For you it's too big, for him it's too small. For me it's perfect. We see the same world differently."

    "I’m not afraid of being lost. We all wander off from time to time. It’s the fear of never quite finding myself that keeps me up at night." 

    zdjęcie z latarką!

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