It is rare to meet someone with a mind that’s just as beautiful as their face. // i really admire people who do things. i hope to be someone who does things one day// how you gon get what you want acting like you don’t want it? // Quit saying you don’t have time. You have time for what you make time for in life.

i want passionate people in my life SO BADLY. i want to travel and do fun, wild, memorable things with people. i want to have great conversations about love and relationships and poetry, things that just set your soul on fire. i don’t want to waste my 20s thinking that nobody is the same as me and wants the same things that i do. i need friends that are the same as me. i crave deep human connection so fucking badly. i need people that are willing to get up and leave everything behind just for once in a lifetime experiences. i know there are people like me out there. there has to be.

i want friends with whom i can visit art galleries and photography collections, exchange monthly book recommendations, take long city walks during the night, drink cheap wine while listening to vinyl records, browse second-hand bookshops, spend all day in little libraries, sit on balconies and take pictures of the evening sky


true love feels different. There are no games, no power struggles, no secrets and no manipulation. Honest love only craves connection, unity and truth. If what you are experiencing and calling love involves unbalanced selfish tactics it is in the process of being dismantled. ‬

Extreme self-care and outrageous self-love is a crucial secret of successful women and they don’t wait to be offered it on a silver platter – they create it for themselves. This is not only about spending money – it’s an attitude of abundance and feeling okay about increasing your expectation of minimum standards and constantly raising the bar for yourself.” 

Denise Duffield-Thoma

Time has passed, and I have loved many women. And as they’ve held me close… and asked if I will remember them I’ve said, “Yes, I will remember you.” But the only one I’ve never forgotten is the one who never asked
- Malèna (2000)

I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.

Self care:

1. Consciously teach yourself to relax, and practice relaxation as soon as you feel stressed.

2. Pay attention to what you eat and drink.

3. A warm shower or bath can help our muscles to relax, and can help ease the tension in our body and mind.

4. Talking with someone who accepts us as we are – and is nonjudgmental – is highly therapeutic.

5. Recognise that there are things that are outside our control – and there are some situations that we simply cannot change.

6. Reward and indulge yourself with things that you enjoy so you feel respected and valued as a person. (For example, buy some clothes you love, or get your hair and nails done)

7. Make an effort to establish and maintain a work/ life balance. You need to make time for your hobbies, and to hang out with your friends.

8. Organise your time, and prioritise your tasks. You’ll feel a lot less anxious if you get things done on time.

9. Recognise that you have limits and enforce your boundaries. If you live with too much pressure you will end up overwhelmed.

10. Keep a sense of humour – smile and laugh throughout the day.

I live for elegance, mystery and sophisticaton but I also live for rawness, audacious sense of living and passionate unrefinement of feeling


You see it in mind before it appears in the physical. Hold to your vision

You know what.. your dreamscapes, visions, inspirations. They aren’t higher realities forever transcending your possible reach, they are actually your mirrors. Reflecting you and your possibilities if you so choose to accept them.

i’m realizing that as i grow older i start caring more about a few people and caring less about everyone else


sometimes i’m 80 sometimes i’m 8 there is no in between


I KNOW IT’S HARD, BUT SOMETIMES YOU NEED TO ADMIT THAT YOU’VE OUTGROWN CERTAIN PEOPLE. THEY CAN’T GIVE YOU WHAT YOU NEED ANYMORE."

If you have to choose between me and someone else, pick them. I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with someone who is going to question if they made the right choice

"How weird it is to think I used to not know of your existence. I somehow lived my life without ever knowing you were a person. Once we met though, god I haven’t been able to get you out of my head since. It’s hard to imagine I used to be able to live my life without you consuming my head with thoughts."








fresh out of college:

1. if you take any job that comes your way, don’t hate yourself. everyone starts somewhere.

2. work is going to be a whole new realm of adulting. including the realization that no one else knows what they are doing either. breathe.

3. make mistakes!!! holy fuck. why were you so scared? no one will pay attention to you anyways because you’re 22 and most things are forgivable at that age.

4. on the other hand you are not that young. take care of your health and body more. drink lots of water and cut back on sugar.



5. from this point, everything is just a matter of experience. if you don’t know how to do something or you don’t understand something, the answer is: time. only time will teach you things now.

“You’re the kind of person I wanna drink morning coffee with.”

“Those who really love you don’t mean to hurt you and if they do, you can’t see it in their eyes, but it hurts them too.”

Knowing the difference between who to cut off and who to be patient with—is everything




Hurt people hurt people. That’s how pain patterns gets passed on, generation after generation after generation. Break the chain today. Meet anger with sympathy, contempt with compassion, cruelty with kindness. Greet grimaces with smiles. Forgive and forget about finding fault. Love is the weapon of the future.

Your heart knows the way. Run in that direction. Rumi

Note the visions you see, the things you want to do, the ideas you have - keep yourself accountable



Lately I’ve been noticing how everyone carries a certain vibration with them. When I talk to one person, I feel one way, and when I talk to another person, I feel a different way. No matter how long I haven’t talked to them, every time I start again, I feel the same way. With some people, I feel light and happy, and with others, like I can’t be myself. It’s very interesting to see the body adjust to different vibrations, but I guess my point is: try to surround yourself with those who you feel happy with instead of waiting until something changes with the ones you don’t.

Talent is a pursued interest. In other words, anything that you’re willing to practice, you can do.

I like the idea that nothing can ever be truly taken away but rather returned to where it came from, just as it was first given to us.

The Law of Attraction simply says that you attract into your life whatever you think about. Your dominant thoughts will find a way to manifest.

I’m afraid of living a stagnant life. I want to do more, I want to see more, I want to be more. I want to constantly grow and better myself in who I am, in my friendships in my relationships, in my career, in every single aspect of my life. I never want to settle for anything or anyone, even the person I am.

Pay close attention to what you feel drawn too, what makes your heart skip. Your passions lay nearby.

I pray the winter’s months are full of growth, blessings, productivity, new doors open and opportunities.

YOU LAUGHED SO CHARMINGLY ONCE, I THINK THAT’S WHAT FIRST ATTRACTED ME TO YOU. THAT AND YOUR SMILE.

concept: let’s go to bed at 9pm instead of 3am. let’s drink more water for our bodily health and less coffee for the aesthetic. let’s not skip breakfast because it’s worth running a little behind even if it’s just some fruit or cereal. let’s go socialize even if we’re kinda nervous. let’s love ourselves when we feel down, because flaws are not the end of the world. let’s work hard but take breaks in between instead of procrastinating and then rushing. let’s ignore what people who don’t know us have to say about us behind our backs. let’s be kind to each other because we’re all trying here. let’s hype up being mentally healthy rather than being perfect. let’s live our lives like we want to.

People who post a snapchat story for one specific person to see os the modern day equivalent to Gatsby hosting elaborate parties in hopes thag Daisy will show up

 concept: we’re in our apartment in new york, cooking dinner together and dancing to jazz music around the kitchen. it’s dark outside, and the city lights are all i can see in your eyes. you smell like sandalwood and musk, and i can’t wait to kiss those lips of yours.

pls drink a lot of wine and be extraordinarily well read and buy too much perfume and write a few too many love letters and spread affection and poetry wherever you go

 I’m so detached and distant and cold at times, but I swear if you spark my interest, I can become so clingy and you’ll become so important to me and I will put so much of my time and effort towards you.

i hope you meet people with intentions as pure as your own and i hope you travel to all the places you’re curious about and i hope the restaurants you go to have your favorite drink and i hope you always have good dreams when you sleep and i hope the life you live is a fulfilling one

 All our generation wants is a small apartment and a spouse that loves them back.

*sees a dog* god i hope he thinks im cool

My life - my personality, my habits, even my speech - is a combination of the books I choose to read, the people I choose to listen to, and the thoughts I choose to tolerate in my mind…

“The way people write. How they say hello, and how they choose to say goodbye, if they even say goodbye at all. The way they try to cheer you up when they don’t feel so good themselves. And, I think, whether or not they dare to tell the truth, especially if the truth hurts, because it almost always does.”

There’s something romantic about a train station. The way people can just leave in a second to chase their dreams; the way they can come home whenever to two waiting arms.

"YOU AND I, WE’RE NOT LOVERS; WE’RE NOT FRIENDS. WE’RE ALWAYS ON THE EDGE OF SOMETHING."

"AND I HOPE YOU HAVE GOOD FRIENDS WHO YOU CAN LAUGH OUT LOUD WITH UNTIL YOUR STOMACH HURTS. AND I HOPE YOU CAN BE HAPPY WITH YOUR OWN COMPANY WHEN THERE’S NO ONE AROUND."

“I think the person someone chooses to be with says a lot about them and the things they want to surround themselves with.”

“Look, from what I’ve seen, people change. Time changes people. It’s a fact. Maybe you think you’re good for each other now; but who knows, you could end up walking separate paths later on in life. Having said that, sometimes you find that even time can’t change two people that are truly meant to be together. What I’m saying is, don’t worry and think about the future too much. Don’t try to predict what will happen. You still don’t fully know who you are at this point. Maybe in five years or ten years time you’ll realize that you need something, someone different.”

“Words are my salvation. And yet, I find myself gravitating towards silence. I love people who speak to me with the corners of their eyes, the curve of their lips. I love subtlety. It is an art, an elegance, a way of life.”

CHIN UP. YOU NEVER KNOW, SOMETIMES IT’S A SURPRISINGLY SHORT WALK FROM NOWHERE TO SOMEWHERE."

"NOSTALGIA; SOMETIMES IT KEEPS YOU COMPANY, SOMETIMES IT KEEPS YOU LONELY. IT MAKES YOU HIGH AND IT MAKES YOU DRUNK ON MEMORIES BUT IF YOU COULD GO BACK WOULD YOU? SOME THINGS ARE BETTER LEFT WHERE YOU LEFT THEM NOTHING FEELS THE SAME WHEN YOU PICK IT UP AGAIN AND THAT’S WHAT NOSTALGIA IS; IT DOESN’T FEEL THE SAME ANYMORE."



wouldn’t it be a fucking great idea to gather all the infjs together in a room and we can be surrounded by people who sort of get what we go through
but also not really because no one would show up

"IF IT MAKES YOU HAPPY, THEN IT’S WORTH ANY AMOUNT OF TROUBLE."

"THEY CALL ME OBSERVANT. THAT’S NOT PARTICULARLY TRUE. PEOPLE ARE SO EASY TO READ - WE BLEED EMOTIONS EVEN IN THE WAY WE DRINK OUR COFFEE. NO ONE SEEMS TO NOTICE THOUGH. THEY’RE ALL TOO BUSY DRINKING THEIR OWN DAMN COFFEE."

LOVE WILL COME TO YOU. AND YOU WILL FIND IT. THERE WILL BE A PUSH. AND A PULL. FRICTION FROM BOTH SIDES. FATE AND HARD WORK WILL MEET. AND YOU WILL FINALLY FEEL LIKE YOU CAN BREATHE WITHOUT WAITING. FOR THE BALL TO DROP. BECAUSE WHEN LOVES COMES. YOU WON’T WANT TO LOOK FOR IT. ANYWHERE ELSE. YOU WON’T NEED TO.


 so i’m walking out from yoga and this guy comes up to me and goes ‘I’m sorry can I ask you a question’ I was like ‘sure’ he goes ‘do you prefer coffee or iced milo’ and I say ‘milo’ and then he goes ‘in that case can I ask you out for some iced milo tomorrow’ and I’m not gonna lie that is one smooth pick up line

my life is me wearing yoga clothes thinking I’m going to go to yoga but then actually just ending up at a cafe

You know what the difference is between a friend and someone you can trust? When you talk to them, are they always like, ‘I’m good’, ‘I’m doing great’, ‘Everything’s fine’ ? A real friend shares their struggles with you. Their vulnerabilities. They don’t hide behind a facade of perfection. Someone you can truly trust is someone who has insecurities or a shit day and picks up the phone to tell you about it.

as an introvert, working in an open plan office is like being on display in the zoo.

"ONCE IN A WHILE YOU SHOULD STOP AND QUESTION EVERYTHING: WHAT YOU’RE DOING, WHAT YOU WANT, WHO YOU ARE. THEN CHANGE ACCORDINGLY."

"I’VE FOUND THAT ONE OF THE THINGS MOST SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE HAVE IN COMMON IS THAT THEY AREN’T INTIMIDATED TO ASK FOR WHAT THEY WANT. THEY KNOCK ON DOORS AND WALK STRAIGHT IN BEFORE SOMEONE TELLS THEM IT’S OKAY TO."

It’s this constant struggle between forcing distance from you and craving closeness.

" THIS YEAR I WANT TO APPRECIATE THE QUIETER QUALITIES OF PEOPLE. LIKE A PERSON WHO IS RELIABLE, BECAUSE YOU KNOW YOU CAN ALWAYS CALL THEM AT ODD HOURS. NOT 4AM WHEN YOU’RE DRUNK BUT BETWEEN MEETINGS WHEN YOU NEED A PEP TALK OR DURING A TRAFFIC JAM. OR SOMEONE WHO IS LOYAL. BECAUSE THAT KIND OF ENDURANCE SHOULD STAND FOR SOMETHING. SOMEONE WHO IS WILLING TO STAND BY YOUR SIDE THROUGH THICK AND THIN, WHO ACTS AS YOUR PUNCHING BAG WHEN YOU NEED IT BECAUSE THEY KNOW LIFE HAS BEEN HARD ENOUGH FOR YOU. THESE PEOPLE DON’T ASK QUESTIONS. THEY JUST GIVE LOVE.

HE WOULD ALWAYS BE THE GIRL WHO PREFERRED ACOUSTIC COVERS, RAINY DAYS INDOORS AND PAPERBACK BOOKS. YOU COULD TAKE HER ANYWHERE AND NO WHERE AND IT WOULD HAVE MEANT SOMETHING. HER SOUL WAS SOFT AND IT BLED OFTEN, BUT IT WAS THE MOST HONEST THING SHE COULD HAVE OFFERED YOU."

Maybe he’s not ‘the one’. If there is really such a thing. But he’s taught me that there’s better things out there. He listens to me. Like really listens to me and wants to know about the thoughts in my head. And he makes me laugh. The jokes are so bad and my stomach hurts so good. And in that split second I forget you even existed in my universe.

" I WOKE UP ON THE MORNING OF MY TWENTY-THIRD BIRTHDAY TO A DEAD-END JOB, A FAILING RELATIONSHIP, AN EMPTY WALLET AND A COMPLETE LACK OF DIRECTION. AND I’M SURE I’M NOT ALONE IN THAT FATE. THE YEARS FOLLOWING COLLEGE AREN’T KIND TO US. WE ARE THRUST INTO THE REAL WORLD WITH A LARGE AMOUNT OF STUDENT DEBT, JOBS THAT BARELY PAY ENOUGH TO MAKE RENT, RELATIONSHIPS THAT ARE RAPIDLY CHANGING AND A PROFOUND FEELING OF BEING LOST ON HOW TO HANDLE IT ALL. NOBODY LIKES YOU WHEN YOU’RE TWENTY-THREE, INCLUDING YOUR OWN LIFE. AND YET, WE PULL THROUGH. MOST OF US MAKE IT TO OUR TWENTY-FOURTH YEAR. MOST OF US MAKE IT OUT OF THE WOODS. MOST OF US ARE LUCKY ENOUGH TO SAY THAT BY THE END OF OUR TWENTY-THIRD YEAR WE’RE NO LONGER FEELING COMPLETELY AND UTTERLY LOST. BUT IN CASE YOU’RE NOT THERE YET, HERE ARE A FEW THINGS YOU MAY NEED TO BE REMINDED OF RIGHT NOW. 1. YOU’RE NOT GOING TO BE LONELY FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. TWENTY-THREE IS A LONELY AND UNCOMFORTABLE AGE. COLLEGE IS (PROBABLY) OVER. YOUR PROFESSIONAL LIFE IS (HOPEFULLY) JUST BEGINNING. AND YOUR SOCIAL LIFE IS DOING AN AWKWARD, UNCOMFORTABLE SHUFFLE IN RESPONSE TO ALL THE CHANGES. YOU’RE FAR AWAY FROM THE PEOPLE WHO KNOW YOU WELL AND NOT YET EMOTIONALLY CLOSE WITH THE PEOPLE WHO PHYSICALLY SURROUND YOU. GIVE IT TIME. GIVE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS THE CHANCE TO EVOLVE. GIVE YOURSELF THE CHANCE TO ADJUST TO NO LONGER LIVING WITH A GROUP OF YOUR CLOSEST FRIENDS (YES, YOU WILL ADJUST). LONELINESS DOESN’T LAST FOREVER, EVEN WHEN IT FEELS LIKE IT WILL. 2. YOU DON’T NEED TO BE WORKING YOUR DREAM JOB RIGHT NOW. IT’S OKAY TO TAKE A SHITTY OFFICE JOB BECAUSE YOU NEED TO PAY THE BILLS. IT’S OKAY TO SPEND YOUR SPARE TIME VOLUNTEERING TO GET THE EXPERIENCE YOU NEED. THERE ARE A THOUSAND DIFFERENT ROUTES YOU CAN TAKE TO GET TO WHERE YOU WANT TO GO. DON’T BEAT YOURSELF UP IN THE PROCESS – JUST KEEP MOVING, STEADILY AND SLOWLY, TOWARD WHEREVER YOU WOULD RATHER BE. 3. EVERYONE FEELS LOST AT SOME POINT. NO, SERIOUSLY. EVERY SINGLE PERSON YOU MEET, INTERACT WITH OR THINK ABOUT IN THE COURSE OF A DAY HAS ALMOST DEFINITELY HAD A PERIOD OF THEIR LIVES WHERE THEY HAD NO CLUE WHAT THEY WERE DOING. SO THIS IS YOURS. YOU’RE JUST GETTING IT OUT OF THE WAY EARLY. 4. YOU STILL HAVE SO MUCH TIME TO FAIL. YOU HAVE TIME TO FAIL AT LOVE. AT YOUR CAREER. AT YOUR CREATIVE ASPIRATIONS. AT YOUR PERSONAL GOALS. YOU ARE STILL YOUNG ENOUGH TO FALL AND PICK YOURSELF BACK UP, SO MANY MORE TIMES. SO DON’T BE AFRAID TO TAKE THOSE BIG, SCARY RISKS NOW – WHILE YOU STILL HAVE THE TIME AND THE STRENGTH AND THE DETERMINATION TO START OVER. 5. SOMEONE IS GOING TO LOVE YOU AGAIN. YOU’RE GOING TO FEEL THAT INSANE OVER-THE-MOON FEELING AGAIN. YOU’RE GOING TO WANT TO TELL SOMEONE ‘I LOVE YOU’ AGAIN. YOU’RE GOING TO HAVE SOMETHING REAL WITH ANOTHER HUMAN BEING AGAIN, EVEN IF IT DOESN’T FEEL LIKE IT RIGHT NOW. THE ABILITY TO LOVE OTHER PEOPLE DOESN’T LEAVE YOU, EVEN IF IT’S A MUSCLE YOU HAVEN’T FLEXED IN A LONG WHILE. 6. YOU ARE GOING TO LOVE YOU AGAIN. YOUR SELF-PERCEPTION IS GOING TO ADJUST TO ENCOMPASS THE NEW, ADULT YOU: THE ONE THAT YOU ARE STILL GROWING INTO. DON’T BEAT YOURSELF UP ABOUT WHO YOU ARE OR ARE NOT YET AT TWENTY-THREE – YOU HAVE SO MUCH TIME LEFT TO GROW INTO THE PERSON YOU’LL BECOME, AND TO BE DAMN PROUD OF WHOEVER THAT WILL BE. 7. YOU ARE ALLOWED TO SET AND KEEP BOUNDARIES. BEING A YOUNG ADULT MEANS SAYING ‘YES’ TO A LOT OF THINGS – LONG WORK HOURS, DEMANDS FROM OUR PARTNERS – BECAUSE YOU AREN’T YET SURE WHAT YOU’RE ALLOWED TO SAY NO TO. BUT HERE’S THE DEAL – YOU ARE ALLOWED TO SET WHATEVER PERSONAL OR PROFESSIONAL BOUNDARIES YOU NEED TO SET IN ORDER TO STAY HEALTHY AND STABLE. YOU DON’T HAVE TO EARN THE RIGHT TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. YOU DESERVE IT, AS A BASIC PRODUCT OF YOUR EXISTENCE. 8. YOU ARE NEVER ENTIRELY WITHOUT SUPPORT. YOU MAY NOT BE LUCKY ENOUGH TO HAVE PARENTS WHO ARE ABLE TO GIVE YOU FINANCIAL SUPPORT OR EVEN FRIENDS WHO ARE IMMEDIATELY AVAILABLE TO GIVE YOU EMOTIONAL SUPPORT, BUT REST ASSURED, IF THINGS EVER WENT REALLY WRONG, YOU’D HAVE PEOPLE THERE TO HELP YOU OUT IN WAYS YOU MAY NOT EXPECT. IF AT LEAST A FEW NAMES COME TO MIND, YOU’RE DOING BETTER THAN A LOT OF PEOPLE. 9. BEING DISAPPOINTED IN YOURSELF JUST MEANS THAT YOU KNOW YOU CAN DO BETTER. IF YOU WERE NEVER FALLING SHORT OF YOUR OWN GOALS, YOU’D BE LIVING YOUR LIFE ALL WRONG. DISAPPOINTMENT – IN MODERATION – MEANS THAT YOU BELIEVE IN BIGGER THINGS FOR YOURSELF. AND HOLDING THAT BELIEF IN LIFE WILL TAKE YOU FURTHER THAN YOU COULD POSSIBLY IMAGINE. 10. IT’S NOT YOUR JOB TO LIVE SOMEONE ELSE’S DREAM. YOU DON’T HAVE TO MOVE TO ASIA TO TEACH ENGLISH IF IT’S NOT GOING TO MAKE YOU HAPPY. YOU DON’T HAVE TO MOVE TO A BIG CITY AND GET A MIND-NUMBING OFFICE JOB BECAUSE IT’S GOING TO IMPRESS YOUR PARENTS. THE CHOICES YOU MAKE NOW SET THE TONE FOR THE CHOICES YOU’RE GOING TO MAKE THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. SO YOU’RE ALLOWED TO MAKE THE CHOICES YOU WANT TO MAKE – AND ONLY WORRY ABOUT IMPRESSING YOUR FUTURE SELF. 11. ‘NO’ IS A VERY IMPORTANT WORD. YOU’RE ALLOWED TO USE IT. SAY NO TO JOBS THAT DON’T ENTICE YOU. SAY NO TO PEOPLE WHO BRING OUT THE WORST IN YOU. SAY NO TO ALL THE OPPORTUNITIES THAT PREVENT YOU FROM PURSUING THE BIGGER, BRAVER, BOLDER LIFE COURSE THAT YOU’D RATHER BE ON. SAY NO CONFIDENTLY, STRATEGICALLY AND AS REGULARLY AS YOU NEED TO. IT IS YOUR RIGHT AND IN SOME CASES, YOUR GREATEST ASSET. 12. NOBODY CAN READ YOUR MIND – YOU’RE GOING TO HAVE TO ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT. NOBODY IS GOING TO COME HAND YOU YOUR DREAM JOB OR YOUR PERFECT RELATIONSHIP OR YOUR IDEAL LIFESTYLE BECAUSE YOU’VE BEEN OBEYING THE RULES SO DILIGENTLY. YOU HAVE TO ASK – DIRECTLY AND SOMETIMES INCESSANTLY – FOR THOSE THINGS. IT’S UNFORTUNATE THAT THE ADULT WORLD WORKS THIS WAY, BUT IT DOES. THE SOONER YOU GET COMFORTABLE ASKING FOR THINGS, THE SOONER YOU START GETTING BIG RESULTS. RESULTS OTHER PEOPLE DON’T GET BECAUSE THEY’RE TOO AFRAID TO ASK FOR THEM. 13. YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE EMBARRASSED. NOT BY THE JOB YOU’RE WORKING OR THE PERSON YOU’RE DATING OR WHERE YOU ARE IN LIFE, IN RELATION TO THE PEOPLE YOU GRADUATED COLLEGE WITH. EMBARRASSMENT IS A CHOICE. AND THE PROUDER YOU CHOOSE TO BE OF YOURSELF – NO MATTER WHERE YOU ARE IN LIFE – THE FURTHER YOU’RE GOING TO GO. CONFIDENCE IS A MAJOR PREDICTOR OF SUCCESS. 14. YOUR BODY IS NOT SEVENTEEN ANYMORE. YOU CAN’T EXIST ON A STEADY DIET OF BEER, BURRITOS AND POWER-NAPS FOREVER. YOUR BODY IS STARTING TO CHANGE AND YOU HAVE TO CHANGE TO ACCOMMODATE IT IF YOU DON’T WANT TO FEEL JUST A LITTLE BIT WORN-OUT FOR THE REST OF ETERNITY. TREATING YOUR BODY PROPERLY IS GOING TO HAVE MORE OF A POSITIVE IMPACT ON YOUR LIFE IN THE COMING YEARS THAN YOU COULD POSSIBLY IMAGINE RIGHT NOW. 15. YOU’RE PROBABLY HOTTER THAN YOU THINK YOU ARE. SOMETHING I HEAR OVER AND OVER AGAIN FROM MIDDLE-AGED PEOPLE IS THAT THEY CAN’T BELIEVE THEY EVER THOUGHT THEY WERE UNATTRACTIVE IN THEIR EARLY TWENTIES. WE ARE OUR OWN HARSHEST CRITICS AT THIS POINT IN OUR LIVES AND IT’S MORE LIKELY THAN NOT THAT YOUR MOST UNATTRACTIVE QUALITY IS THE LACK OF CONFIDENCE YOU HAVE IN YOUR OWN APPEARANCE. START BELIEVING IN YOURSELF A LITTLE MORE RIGHT NOW, SO YOU HAVE TO KICK YOURSELF A LITTLE LESS AGGRESSIVELY LATER. 16. YOU AREN’T DONE CHANGING YET, AND YOU PROBABLY WON’T BE FOR A WHILE. THERE ARE THOSE RARE, BEAUTIFUL MOMENTS IN OUR EARLY TWENTIES WHERE IT FEELS LIKE WE’VE GOT IT ALL FIGURED OUT AND WE’RE ENTIRELY OUT OF THE WOODS. BUT THOSE MOMENTS NEVER LAST FOR TOO LONG. LIFE IS CONSTANTLY CHANGING – BUT THAT’S FAR FROM BEING A BAD THING. YOUR BRAIN IS STILL DEVELOPING. YOU ARE STILL DEVELOPING. AND THE WORST THING YOU CAN BE RIGHT NOW IS STAGNANT. 17. YOU HAVE TO GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK. AT 23, IT’S EASY TO GET SO CAUGHT UP IN THE WORKING AND PROGRESSING AND FORMING RELATIONSHIPS AND FINDING OURSELVES THAT WE FORGET TO EVER TAKE A MOMENT TO JUST BREATH. TO RELAX. AND TO TAKE A BRIEF BREAK FROM FRANTICALLY DASHING TOWARD THE FUTURE. YOU STILL DESERVE TO LIVE AND ENJOY YOUR LIFE. YOUR FUTURE WILL COME SOON ENOUGH. 18. LOSING FRIENDS IS A NATURAL CONSEQUENCE OF THIS STAGE OF YOUR LIFE. LOSING TOUCH WITH YOUR OLD COLLEGE ROOMMATES OR YOUR HOMETOWN FRIENDS OR THE LOVED ONES WHO SETTLED DOWN EARLIER OR LATER THAN YOU DID IS A NATURAL CONSEQUENCE OF GROWING OLDER. IT ISN’T SOLELY UP TO YOU TO KEEP EVERY FRIENDSHIP YOU’VE EVER HAD ALIVE – SOME THINGS FADE OUT NATURALLY, BECAUSE THEY SHOULD. BECAUSE SOME OF THE FRIENDSHIPS YOU SHARED WERE MEANT TO LAST A SEASON, NOT A LIFETIME, AND THAT’S OKAY. 19. THERE WILL BE PEOPLE YOU HAVE TO LEAVE BEHIND AS YOU GROW, AND THAT DOESN’T MAKE YOU A BAD PERSON. EVERYONE GROWS UP AND GROWS INTO THEMSELVES AT DIFFERENT PACES. AND THE OLDER YOU GET, THE MORE YOU WILL NOTICE THAT SOME PEOPLE ALMOST DELIBERATELY CHOOSE TO STAY STUCK OR HOLD THEMSELVES BACK. AND IT IS NOT YOUR JOB TO RESCUE THESE PEOPLE FROM THEMSELVES. YOU CAN LOVE THEM, YOU CAN SUPPORT THEM AND YOU CAN ENCOURAGE THEM BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY YOU JUST CAN’T HOLD YOURSELF BACK ON THEIR BEHALF. THEY HAVE RESPONSIBILITY OVER THEIR LIVES AND YOU HAVE RESPONSIBILITY OVER YOURS. YOU ARE NOT SELFISH OR HORRIBLE TO KEEP MOVING FORWARD WITHOUT THEM. 20. COMPARISONS ARE COMPLETELY SENSELESS, UNLESS YOU USE THEM AS A MOTIVATOR. COMPARISONS ARE A GREAT THING IF YOU’RE USING THEM TO MOTIVATE YOURSELF TO RISE UP TO SOMEONE ELSE’S LEVEL OF GREATNESS. IF, HOWEVER, YOU’RE ONLY USING THEM TO BEAT YOURSELF DOWN, THEY ARE THE SINGLE GREATEST WASTE OF YOUR TIME AND ENERGY. YOU ARE NOT YOUR FRIEND OR YOUR COLLEGE CLASSMATE OR YOUR CO-WORKER WHO JUST GOT A RAISE. YOU ARE YOU. AND IF YOU WANT TO RISE ABOVE THE REST, YOU HAVE TO USE THE SKILLS THAT ARE UNIQUE TO YOU, RATHER THAN PINING AFTER WHAT COMES NATURALLY TO EVERYONE ELSE. 21. EVERYONE FUCKS UP. NO, SERIOUSLY. EVERYONE HAS MADE AT LEAST ONE BIG, HUGE MISTAKE THAT THEY WISH THEY COULD TAKE BACK. IT’S JUST THAT WE TEND TO NOT TALK ABOUT OUR FUCK-UPS, WHICH CREATES A CULTURE WHERE EVERYONE BELIEVES THAT THEY’RE THE ONLY ONES WHO EVER ENCOUNTERS THEM. TRUST ME: YOU’RE NOT ALONE. WE’VE ALL DONE SOME ROYALLY SCREWED-UP STUFF. AND WE’VE ALL SURVIVED IT. WHICH MEANS THAT YOU’RE PROBABLY GOING TO AS WELL. 22. EVERYONE’S TERRIFIED. NOBODY REALLY KNOWS WHAT’S COMING NEXT. NOBODY ACTUALLY HAS A FOOLPROOF PLAN. NOBODY IS 100% SURE OF HOW TO GET WHERE THEY WANT IN LIFE AND NOBODY HAS IT ALL FIGURED OUT. EVEN THE MOST CONFIDENT PEOPLE ARE A LITTLE BIT UNSURE AND A LITTLE BIT TERRIFIED SOMETIMES. LIFE’S JUST LIKE THAT. UNCERTAINTY IS A KEY INGREDIENT TO THE WHOLE SHEBANG. 23. IF YOU HAD IT ALL FIGURED OUT RIGHT NOW, THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WOULD BE BORING. IF YOU HAD THE REST OF YOUR LIFE LOCKED AND LOADED AT TWENTY-THREE YEARS OLD, THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WOULD BE A LET-DOWN. THE UPS AND DOWNS ARE JUST A NATURAL PART OF WHAT KEEPS THINGS INTERESTING. AND THE TRUTH IS, NOW IS THE BEST TIME IMAGINABLE TO RIDE OUT THOSE FLUCTUATIONS. A PERIOD OF STRUGGLE PREPARES YOU FOR A FUTURE OF RESILIENCE. SO STRUGGLE AWAY AT TWENTY-THREE. THE FUTURE HAS PLENTY OF TIME TO FALL INTO PLACE. "

"LOOKING BACK, I DON’T REGRET ANYTHING I’VE DONE. I WOULD HAVE COME DOWN THIS ROAD EVEN IF I HAD TO DO IT AGAIN. BECAUSE SOMETIMES YOU NEEDED TO TAKE THE LONG WAY HOME TO REALIZE WHAT HOME EVEN MEANT."

How do you cut ties with someone? There will come a time in that relationship where you’re just done. You have that moment of mental clarity that they can’t give you want you need and you can’t be who they need you to be and when that moment comes it’s a lot easier than you think. Because all you need to do is walk.

You’re only friends with some people because you were both in the same place at the same time. Be careful of those. Look for the ones who would call you from the other side of the world just to hear about your day for one minute.

i currently have 728 drafts on this blog and i think that pretty much sums up my life

T’S ABOUT BEING FRIENDS WITH THE RIGHT PEOPLE. PEOPLE WHO INSPIRE YOU WITH THEIR INTERESTS AND PASSIONS. IT’S ABOUT BEING WITH PEOPLE WHO DON’T SIT AROUND AND POINT OUT YOUR FLAWS OR CARE ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE’S FLAWS FOR THAT MATTER EITHER. WHEN YOU’RE IN A GOOD CIRCLE, EXTRAORDINARY THINGS START HAPPENING TO YOUR LIFE. NEGATIVE ENERGY DOESN’T GET ANYONE ANYWHERE."

How to love yourself?

 1. Be by yourself a lot. Be alone. Learn to love it. When you learn to love your company you will ultimately be at peace no matter where you are or who you are with.
2. Accept that you have ‘flaws’ (the ones defined by society anyways) and just be like fuck it. Because you can’t change that
3. Hang with people who inspire you and let it inspire what you CAN change about yourself in a positive way. Note: don’t let inspiration become jealousy or envy. 
4. Hang with people who YOU inspire. Because then you will realize that you’re always a role model to someone, they can tell you all your good points even if you don’t know them yourself.
5. Know you can do anything to make yourself happy. Literally. Anything. Anytime. You can quit your job and roam around Europe if it makes you happy. You can kiss that guy you’ve been crushing on. Nothing terrible is going to happen. Promise. It’s never really life or death even if it seems like it. Whatever makes you happy? Do that.

“At 24, I thought I’d have a boyfriend, a stable job, some idea of how to do my taxes. Instead, I’m 24, loving the freedom of being alone, leaving said stable job and still clueless about taxes. I think you never really know what to expect. And it’s in those moments, the ones where you don’t get what you want, that you end up learning the most.”

Nigdy nie wiedziałem do końca, co znaczy lubić. Lubić to chyba znaczy być pozytywnie przyzwyczajonym.

Ludzie demolują życie innym ludziom, ale tylko dlatego, że są przez nich zapraszani i wpuszczani. Są nieracjonalni i psychotyczni jedynie dlatego, że dostają na to pozwolenie.

Gdy człowiek czegoś bardzo pragnie, wysyła sygnały otaczającej go rzeczywistości i jeśli te sygnały są wystarczająco silne, świat mu odpowie.

Boimy się wszyscy i bez wyjątku.[...] 
Wchodząc w miłość, boimy się, że ją stracimy, trwając w niej boimy się, że to nie to, albo że nic w życiu już nas innego nie spotka. Nie mając miłości boimy się, że nigdy jej już nie znajdziemy".
- Musimy się kiedyś spotkać, porozmawiać - mówi po dłuższej chwili, gdy ja sprawdzam telefon.
- Właśnie się spotkaliśmy i rozmawiamy - mówię.
- Słuchaj, to jak wyszło... - Pochyla głowę, aby nie patrzeć mi w oczy.
- Jak wyszło, tak wyszło - mówię. - Teraz to nie ma żadnego znaczenia. 
- Dla mnie ma - mówi.
- Dla mnie nie - kłamię.
Kłamię, bo nadepnęła mi na twarz, bo złamała mi nos. Kłamię, bo coś we mnie było, coś, o czym nie wiedziałem, a ona mi to zabrała. (...) Może za często do niej dzwoniłem. Może powiedziałem jej za wiele o sobie. Może popełniłem ten błąd, koszmarny błąd, przytulania się do niej w środku nocy i słuchania jak oddycha. Może pozwoliłem sobie za bardzo przy niej odpoczywać. Może po raz pierwszy w życiu od czegokolwiek się uzależniłem. (...)
- Spotkajmy się jakoś tak, żeby nie być, wiesz, przestraszonymi, zaskoczonymi - mówi po chwili, podnosząc wzrok.
- Może. Kiedyś. - mówię, wsadzając sobie w końcu do ust trochę sałatki i dodając z pełnymi ustami: - Po prostu zadzwoń.
- Na który telefon? - próbuje żartować.
- Wiesz, na który - odpowiadam.
(...)
Parę dni później w końcu skasowałem jej numer.
Ludzie sypiają ze sobą, nic ekscytującego. Zdjąć przed kimś ubrania i położyć się na kimś, pod kimś lub obok kogoś to żaden wyczyn, żadna przygoda. Przygoda następuje później, jeśli zdejmiesz przed kimś skórę i mięśnie i ktoś zobaczy twój słaby punkt, żarzącą się w środku małą lampkę, latareczkę na wysokości splotu słonecznego, kryptonit, weźmie go w palce ostrożnie jak perłę i zrobi z nim coś głupiego, włoży do ust, połknie, podrzuci, zgubi. Potem, znacznie później, zostaniesz sam z dziurą jak po kuli, i możesz wlać w tę dziurę mnóstwo cudzych ciał, substancji i głosów, ale nie wypełnisz, nie zamkniesz, nie zabetonujesz, nie ma chuja.
Każdy ma tę małą lampkę, ten kryptonit. Ja też. Nigdy nie powinienem go nikomu pokazywać.

Wszyscy strasznie spinamy się , aby być jacyś. Codziennie rysujemy siebie, dolepiamy do siebie klejem kolejne kartki, zdjęcia, wrysowujemy się w ramki, aby poczuć że jesteśmy czymś więcej niż imieniem i nazwiskiem.


Rzeczy których chcesz, przychodzą zawsze, tylko z lekkim opóźnieniem, zawsze trochę później, zawsze lekko niekompletne. Tak samo dzieje się z rzeczami, których bardzo nie chcesz. A czasami, czasami rzeczy, których bardzo chciałaś, przychodzą za późno, wtedy, gdy już ich kompletnie nie chcesz.To, czego chcesz, przychodzi do ciebie zawsze inaczej, wcześniej, później, w niedoborze, w nadmiarze.






















life gets so much better when you realize you can literally do whatever the fuck you want if you dont care what anyone thinks about you
















everything sounds better in french



I tell everyone this and I mean it. Buy a journal. Carry it with you everywhere you go. And I mean everywhere. Write about your favorite moments, your least favorite moments, ideas, grocery lists, people you’ve met, strangers you’ve walked past on the street, favorite quotes, words to remember, what the sky looked like at 7pm, new songs you’ve discovered and what they mean to you, your childhood, places you want to go or places you’ve been, write about your passions, how you feel in this exact moment, draw out the mountains, scribble all over the pages. And when that one gets full, buy a new one. Reread it in 2 years, 20 years, when you need a good laugh, when you’re crying on your bathroom floor, read it to your children. You need to remember these moments in your life. They are so important.















 



















“These woods are lovely, dark and deep,But I have promises to keep,And miles to go before I sleep,And miles to go before I sleep.



i wanna be surrounded by people who laugh and who make me laugh, who dance with me, who sing at the top of their lungs to good music with me, i just wanna be surrounded with love

Do something worth remembering


Read books. Go to museums. Watch documentaries. Educate yourself. You don’t need to go to an ivy league school to be cultured. You don’t need money to understand how the world works. You just need to put yourself first, and grab all the opportunities that comes your way.

We all broke our rules for someone.

Whatever life may send your way — make the best of it. Don’t waste your time and energy worrying about it. Instead, find a way to do something about it. Learn from it, adjust to it, be strong, be flexible and be your best in every situation




I appreciate the people who take time to look at the world a little deeper

People who feel deeply, live deeply, and love deeply are destined to suffer deeply.



I wanna hold your hand and wear your sweaters. I wanna go to coffee shops and stare at your smile. I wanna go to art museums and have you kiss me between the paintings. I wanna take polaroids of us, of you, I want us to be art

Stop apologizing. You don’t have to say sorry for how you laugh, how you dress, how you make your hair, how you do your makeup, how you speak. You don’t have to be sorry for being yourself. Do it fearlessly. It’s time to accept: this is you, and you gotta spend the rest of your life with you. So start loving your sarcasm, your awkwardness, your weirdness, your peculiar habits, your unique sense of humor, your voice, your talents, your everything. It will make your life so much easier to simply be yourself.


drown your sadness in coffee, literature and fancy desserts.

“I love speaking with people about their passions and goals– the look in their eyes or the pure excitement in their voices. When it draws you in, makes you feel something: that’s how you know it’s genuine.”






























































Find a beautiful piece of art. If you fall in love with Van Gogh or Matisse or John Oliver Killens, or if you fall love with the music of Coltrane, the music of Aretha Franklin, or the music of Chopin - find some beautiful art and admire it, and realize that that was created by human beings just like you, no more human, no less.













































































































a concept: outside a small restaurant I’m eating raspberry gelato under an Italian sun, I am wearing a white Bardot dress and my sun-warmed hair is soft on my shoulders. I am at peace.

100 Ways to be Elegant (without depending on a label)

1. Send thank you notes, always and to everyone.

2. Practice good posture

3. Speak more softly

4. Listen without interrupting

5. Wear solid colors

6. Ignore fads, or use them sparingly

7. Have a signature wine that you serve at home

8. Wear only 2-3 accessories

9. Have impeccable manners

10. Read on a variety of topics

11. Maintain a budget

12. Study the arts

13. Have one signature perfume/cologne

14. Show restraint in expressing anger

15. Learn the art of conversation

16. Learn French

17. Wear a trench coat

18. Learn how to wear a scarf

19. Wear a tuxedo, when one is called for

20. Practice quality over quantity

21. Don’t yell or scream

22. Learn to dance the waltz

23. Have one fabulous signature meal you serve guests

24. Remember birthdays

25. Go on picnics

26. Wear dresses/suits more often, and on dates

27. Simplify your life, your home and your calendar

28. Wear pearls

29. Open the door for ladies

30. Let him open the door for you

31. Remember that it’s more important to be kind than it is to be right

32. Serve coffee or tea after meals

33. Arrive exactly on time

34. Don’t complain

35. Dress to travel

36. Be well travelled

37. If you’re a women, don’t wear black shoes between Memorial Day and Labor Day…wear spectator pumps instead

38. Keep your home clean and uncluttered

39. When guests stay over, put a small pitcher and glass for water on their nightstand, along with a book they might enjoy

40. Learn how to host a small dinner party

41. Have one subdued solid color scheme throughout your home, use accessories to add color

42. Learn how to make the perfect martini

43. Learn how to tie both a regular tie and a bow tie (whether you’re a man or a woman)

44. Be a lady or a gentleman at work, especially when delivering a difficult message or when tempers flare

45. Wear lovely/handsome hats

46. Don’t point out the mistakes of others

47. Wait your turn patiently

48. Don’t curse

49. Chew each bite 20 times

50. Sip your drink

51. Learn proper etiquette for all situations

52. Accept compliments graciously

53. Be quietly self confident

54. Don’t boast

55. Be respectful of others

56. Have fresh flowers in your home

57. Write a letter rather than send an email to those you love

58. Keep your nails well manicured

59. Maintain your shoes and clothing

60. Don’t ever lose your joie de vivre

61. Be well groomed

62. Remember that money does not equal elegance, nor is it necessary to be elegant

63. Wear less make-up

64. Wear well-fitting clothes

65. Spray lavender on your sheets

66. Be positive

67. Learn to politely say no

68. Be concerned with making others feel comfortable

69. Maintain good health

70. Don’t overindulge

71. Hold yourself to high standards

72. Turn your mobile off at dinner PLEASE

73. Wear simple, classic hairstyles

74. Think before you speak or act. Ask yourself, can anything good come from this?

75. Apologize quickly and sincerely

76. Have integrity, even when no one is looking.

77. Don’t speak ill of others, or gossip

78. Always take a gift to your host or hostess

79. Tie a scarf on your handbag

80. Take a clutch in the evening

81. Wear well fitting jeans with either a long sleeve white shirt or solid sweater for more casual events

82. Only wear sneakers for exercise

83. Use white sheets, white towels, white dishes

84. Be sure your clothes are pressed

85. Your car’s horn should say “pardon me, but do you see me?”, rather than “get out of my way!”

86. Overdo empathy

87. Light candles in your home

88. Go for walks in the park on Sunday

89. Give others sincere compliments

90. Understand your own worth

91. Learn how to open a bottle of champagne

92. Dress appropriately for the occasion

93. Do small favors for others, without expecting anything in return

94. Say please and thank you

95. Take the time to stop and listen to others, especially children

96. Take responsibility for yourself and your own happiness

97. Keep a journal

98. Give thoughtful gifts, rather than expensive ones

99. Less is more

100. Savor the moment

How to be a lady?

I. Always call and return your mother’s calls as promptly as you possibly can. Remind her in every conversation how appreciative you are – how much you love, miss and adore her. 

II. Make it a ritual to smile every morning. Doing so will send signals to the brain making it think it’s happy. Smiling is associated with happiness; this will naturally help the brain release endorphins (a chemical that promotes a healthy, elevated attitude). Maintaining a balanced diet and consistent workout regimen helps as well.

III. Invest no time on men who feel indifferent towards your interests. A man who does not care what melodies ignite your heart strings with love, or exchanges words of endearment, is a man not worth getting to know. Real men know to cater to their significant other – internal and external. 

IV. Keep all negative social media activities to a minimum, no real lady engages or wastes time on things like Twitter subtweets or passive-aggressive Facebook statuses. Social media is démodé.

V. Broaden your horizons. Become well-rounded, learn a new language, read more books, watch classic foreign films, subscribe to travelogue, take a culinary course! Culture yourself, actually know what you are talking about. No one likes a pretentious snob. 

VI. Stop looking at marriage as the defining endeavor in a woman’s life, no matter how much it has been ingrained into you. It should neither be something you actively disdain, nor something you seek out with deadlines. It’ll happen when you’re ready.

VII. Never allow anyone to stop you from crying. Crying cleanses the soul. All you need is a rose petal bubble bath, aromatherapy and chamomile tea. Immerse yourself in a chocolate coma at Max Brenner if you must. Comfort food was made for moments like these.

VIII. Your home should be a reflection of who you are. Keep fresh-cut flowers in your home, scented candles (personally, I love Diptyque and Jo Malone fragrance oils). Acquire a signature wine and master a delectable dish you can always serve to your guest – be a great hostess! 

IX. Show respect to people who don’t even deserve it; not as a reflection of their character, but as a reflection of yours. What you say about others says a lot more about you.

X. Date the kind of person who will still respect you when you no longer love them. Date the kind of person who will still respect you when they no longer love you. Do not waste your emotional capacities on individuals whose respect for you is conditional.

XI. Have at least one outfit ready in your wardrobe for almost every occasion: job interview, your first date, family events etc. The amount of headaches that can be spared by simply having a versatile blazer, LBD and pencil skirt at one’s disposal are incalculable. 

XII. What would Grace Kelly do? When in doubt, Rosé. 

XIII. Live by this quote: “Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.” —Kurt Vonnegut




Someone wanna go with me on a long train ride through France and Italy and stop at little cafés and eat at corner restaurants and spend our nights drinking on the balcony of our hotel room?


I’m not sure what I’ll do, but— well, I want to go places and see people. I want my mind to grow. I want to live where things happen on a big scale.



‪It’s a very powerful time to set some intentions for the remainder of 2018, the last few months of this year are going to be packed with transformational shifts and quick moving energy. Stay focused on your goals and use this cosmic push to get back on track.
















latin word of the day: stellula, “little star

I love people who make me laugh. I honestly think it’s the thing I like most, to laugh. It cures a multitude of ills. It’s probably the most important thing in a person

coming into 2018 all I want is every aspect of my life to be genuine. genuine love and connections. genuine intentions. genuine curiosity. genuine happiness. I want everything about me and my soul to be genuine and I want it to radiate throughout everything I do, think or say.


mood: getting out of the opera building after watching a beautiful ballet, it’s snowing and christmas bells are finally ringing on the street while you are walking and holding hands with your significant other and your laughters are brighter then the stars above

There is no growth inside of a comfort zone, it’s only when you push through the resistance or fear, do you experience transformation. Trust in your journey. Trust in your process. Trust in your destiny.



Przez długi czas wstydziłam się swojego konta na Instagramie. Przez kilka lat po cichu marzyłam o tym, żeby zacząć publikować wspomnienia, ulubione cytaty, przemyślenia, niepoukładane analizy rzeczywistości, ale brakowało mi odwagi - no bo przecież znajomi uznają, że jestem szalona. Byli chłopacy odobserwują. Przyjaciele się odwrócą, bo stwierdzą, że przyjaźnią się z freakiem. Od blisko 15 lat wzdycham do mody, śledzę jej historię, zapisuję inspiracje - ale zawsze tłumaczyłam sobie, że nie ubieram się, tak, jakbym chciała, bo mnie na to nie stać. A tak naprawdę nigdy nie ubierałam się tak, jak stylizowałam się w wyobraźni, bo nie miałam odwagi. Byłam niemalże pewna, że jeśli zacznę wspominać o tym, że kocham obserwować tendencje, oglądam pokazy mody i wzdycham do elegancko przyodzianych ludzi, przykleją do mnie łatkę pustej i głupiej blondynki. Albo powiedzą "come on, nie jesteś modelką, nie jesteś szaloną i głośną ekstrawertyczką, więc to nie dla Ciebie! Nie pchaj się do tego świata"
 Od ponad 10 lat robię zdjęcia - i dopiero w minionym roku zaczęłam nazywać się fotografem. Nigdy wcześniej to słowo nie przechodziło mi przez gardło -bo przecież istnieją ludzie, którzy skończyli prestiżowe kursy, światowe uczelnie, a  kadrowania uczył ich Tyszka lub Anne Leibowitz, więc kim ja jestem, żeby mianować się artystką? 
Piszę do szuflady również juz od ponad dekady - kiedyś skuszona spontanicznym przypływem odwagi, wyjęłam z niej jedną dłuższą historię i pokazałam byłemu już chłopakowi. Miałam nadzieję, że bliski mi człowiek będzie łagodnym krytykiem - rzucił okiem, przeczytał trzy zdania i . Przyjaciel z przeszłości lata później słuchał jednym uchem moich wierszy, ale po czterech zaczynał ziewać i 

wiesz, że sylwester zbliża się wielkimi krokami, kiedy przez cały dzień słuchasz "fireworks"  i śpiewasz sobie pod nosem (momentami trochę za głośno) "let it shine, just owe the night, baby you're fireeeeeworks, as you shoot across the sky. boom boom boom, even brighter than the moon" -> tak naprawdę to jest moja ulubiona część xD

w sylwestra nie piję szampana, nie potrzebuję alkoholu,żeby publikować niepoczytalne instastories hahaha 

life is meant to be lived, not almost fully spent on the internet

http://silk-dreams.tumblr.com/post/172183524910

kiedyś szukałam Cię idąc pewnie przed siebie
nosząc na ustach czerwoną pomadkę
i zalotnie lustrując każdego niebieskookiego mężczyznę
sprawdzając czy nie jest czasami Tobą
później nadeszły chłodne dni
założyłam czarny kapelusz
i szukałam Cię wpatrzona w ziemię
patrząc uważnie pod nogi
nie podnosiłam wzroku
byłam już niemalże pewna, że
istniejesz tylko w mojej głowie.



http://thoodleoo.tumblr.com/tagged/latin


 https://culturenlifestyle.com/post/160665906612/11-bad-habits-you-need-to-give-up-if-you-want-to
https://culturenlifestyle.com/13%20Ways%20to%20be%20Happier
http://thecityofdreaming.tumblr.com/
http://huvv.tumblr.com/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dbLxOO1I2tk
https://www.damoyantwerp.com/
http://petitepearl.tumblr.com/
http://lachanteuse.tumblr.com/
https://www.tumblr.com/dashboard/blog/annaibanescu/177965227594

“Keep reminding yourself. If it is supposed to happen, it will.” //The purest form of love, I think, is having someone who wants to learn about you, from you and with you. // You have to be willing to lose in order to win. In love. In life. In everything you’ll ever do.

“And one day the girl with the books became the woman writing them.”

— Kristen Costello

i wish i met some people a little earlier, some a little later & some never at all.

It might take a year,

it might take a day.

But what’s meant to be

will always find its way.

You ever stopped and thought, “Wow, I prayed for this. It’s here. It’s happening.”

if you remember that life is fluid you’ll never feel stuck. nothing is the end all or your only option. when something ends it’s your time to start something new. it doesn’t matter how often doors close if you’re always moving forward. don’t dwell or try to open those old doors. the more you keep moving, the more you’ll see life is working in your favor.

“You need people in your life that are further along than you, people that are more experienced, people that are out of your league. You need to be exposed to new levels so that you can go to new levels

“Working hard for something we don’t care about is called stress; working hard for something we love is called passion.”

life gets a whooooole lot more beautiful once you start living for yourself and accept the fact that you can’t please everyone 

 Whatever relationships you have attracted in your life at this moment, are precisely the ones you need in your life at this moment. There is a hidden meaning behind all events, and this hidden meaning is serving your own evolution. 

Weekly Reminders:
You get what you think about, and what you work towards.

Distracts should be avoided through self-discipline.

What works for you doesn’t work for everyone else.

Forgive yourself and keep it moving.

Always take time to self-reflect. If you don’t like where you are, start planning where you want to be.

emotional intellect is easily the most downright attractive thing in a human

don’t ever beg for a friendship or relationship with anyone. if you don’t receive the same effort you give… lose that contact 

miniony rok nauczył mnie jednej rzeczy - o przyjaźniach i relacjach z ludźmi:

once someone shows you who they are, believe them…. THE FIRST TIME.

“If you inherently long for something, become it first. If you want gardens, become the gardener. If you want love, embody love. If you want mental stimulation, change the conversation. If you want peace, exude calmness. If you want to fill your world with artists, begin to paint. If you want to be valued, respect your own time. If you want to live ecstatically, find the ecstasy within yourself. This is how to draw it in, day by day, inch by inch.”

“I don’t need to get revenge on anybody. What happened, happened. It’s over. It’s time for me to get back to my life and continue to improve as a person.”

You attract people by the qualities you display. You keep them by the qualities you possess.

self care is creating a life you don’t routinely have to escape from

Small, intimate shit really does a lot

At a certain age, you gotta start thinking long term.

Stop begging somebody to act right, if they truly valued you..they would do it automatically..

it’s hard, I know, but imagine the feeling of finally reaching that goal

Don’t let someone’s opinion deter you from anything. Most people are temporary and so are their words

“When you become comfortable with uncertainty, infinite possibilities open up in your life.”

‪Honest, raw, real communication changes everything. Get it out. Unburden yourself. Say what you feel.‬

Talking to you, laughing with you, being with you, changes my whole mood.

When you trust in yourself and your journey everything feels calm, it’s the doubt that creates chaos. ‬

If I connect with you, anything I do for you isn’t a favor, It’s out of love. Just look out for me when it’s time.

‪So many of the previously hidden and blocked puzzle pieces are shifting today. We are grounding into new timelines. Get ready for a big acceleration forward

it takes just as much time to gossip as it does to say something nice. it takes just as much time to complain as it does to be grateful. it takes just as much time to judge others as it does to be kind and helpful. what you put out will come back to you in return. do not think that it will skip over you. spend your time wisely and you will be repaid greatly. spend your time being judgmental and cruel and you will find yourself always in drama and negative situations. it is all up to you.

How to be Yourself

1. First, and most important, see yourself as a valuable, likeable and worthwhile person – someone who is worth knowing and loving. If you find that hard, then you are likely believing lies about yourself. (And that may be something you want to explore, and work through with, a counsellor.)

2. Recognise that your thoughts, ideas, views and beliefs are as important as anybody else’s. You are your own person. You are not just a clone of somebody else. What you think is worth hearing – and you don’t have to apologise or change your views in order to please, or be acceptable to, others.

3. Stay away from people who are trying to change you, or who want you to think and act as they do. Don’t allow yourself and your personality to be swamped or dominated by others.

4. Surround with people who encourage you to be yourself, accept you as you are, and bring out the best in you.

5. Resist the urge to emulate or copy people you admire. At the end of the day “they are them and you are you”. That’s the way it should be. Each of us is unique. The world is a richer place by you expressing who you are in your own way.

6. Don’t compare yourself with others. We each have different experiences, and are evolving in our own way, at our own pace. There’s no one formula or recipe for becoming or being. Trust your intuition, and follow your own path.

 You’re always gonna be unfolding! You’re never gonna get to the place where it’s all manifested. Looking for life the way most people are looking for it can never bring you satisfaction. Because you’re expanding so much more rapidly than you even know. So if we can convince you that what you’re looking for is the satisfaction factor, and it’s moment by moment by moment by moment by moment… 

Do not contradict yourself. If you believe anything is possible, then you should also believe that you can become massively successful. If you know that you create your own reality, then you should also know that you can create a spectacular one for yourself with ease. The question is, what can you do to begin?

i need my space unless youre the right person then dont go anywhere

“It’s not exactly love at first sight. It is more like soul recognition.”

“I like nonsense, it wakes up the brain cells. Fantasy is a necessary ingredient in living.”

If he wanted to talk to you he would find a way. If he wanted to see you he would see you. If he loved you then he’d showit. Stop making excuses or falling for his. You’re just wasting your time and deep down you know it. 



The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.





You don’t realise how bad some people’s vibes are until they’re not around and you feel free

‪Honest, raw, real communication changes everything. Get it out. Unburden yourself. Say what you feel.‬



If I connect with you, anything I do for you isn’t a favor, It’s out of love. Just look out for me when it’s time.



Try not to worry about how you are perceived. If you are authentically you, the right energy at the right time comes.



“She knew the power of her mind so she programmed it for success.”



It has to be passionate or I don’t want it.

“Don’t wait for approval. Not everyone will understand your vision. You just need to believe in yourself, remain positive and go get it done.”

it is actually really sweet when someone stays up late to talk to you



i love the part of growth that allows you to look back on a previous period of your life and recognize that parts of it were unhealthy. something that felt so normal wasn’t in hindsight. you’re not supposed to feel that tired all the time. you’re not supposed to be treated like that.

“Put your heart, mind, and soul into even your smallest acts. This is the secret of success.”

— Swami Sivanada

“Had I told the sea what I felt for you, it would have left its shores, its shells, its fish, and followed me.”

Don’t try to be something for everyone. Just be everything for someone 

“A soul mate’s purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life.”

“What I want is for the two of us to meet somewhere by chance one day, like, passing on the street, or getting on the same bus.”

good things are on the way. Just hold on a little bit longer. Keep putting in the work

The only person you need to succeed for is yourself. You have nothing to prove to anyone. You make the rules. You set the goals.

 You can, you should, and if you’re brave enough to start, you will. 

I could write about this for days! It’s so important to remember that it’s all a learning process. Nothing works overnight but with practice, you’ll get there. As someone with bd and a few other mental illnesses I know it’s easier said than done. However, it’s important for you mental health that you improve your thoughts you know? As I always say, seek professional help if you can. 

• Stop comparing yourself to others.
• Don’t use social media first thing in the morning, or right before bed.
• Talking shit about others just shows how insecure you are. Try saying nice things instead.
• Always speak kindly to yourself, about yourself. Never say mean things about yourself.
• Create the life you want! Instead of only wishing for it go after it. What do you have to lose? 
• Don’t validate who you are with the opinions or thoughts of others. 
• Treat your body and mind well. 
• Daily affirmations. It only takes 2 mins to say, “I love you, I love you, (your name). Life loves me. I am capable. I am worth it. Today is the very best day. Money flows to me. I am intelligent. I am worth loving. I love you, I love, (your name here).” x3-5 times

no two people have the same starting place. some of us have a tougher start and that’s okay. always remember that certain hardships will make you stronger. yes it’s nice to not have problems, but having issues doesn’t make you less human. you’re one of a kind. you’ll get to where you want to be in life. stop comparing your life and start living for yourself.

It’s hard to change your life for the better, when you hang around people who weigh you down.

Wow it’s true what they say that life works in your favor more when you keep shit to yourself. This includes family and friends as well. You never know who’s putting that negative energy on you. And for the love of everything do not share your manifestations publicly on the internet.

“Do not lose hope. Please believe that there are a thousand beautiful things waiting for you.”

believe people when they show you their true colors. if they treat you like trash, it’s because they think you deserve that or because they know you’ll put up with it. you don’t and you don’t have to. stop making excuses for them. stop excusing their shitty behavior. they aren’t worth hours of mental gymnastics. a good person would treat you decently. it really is that simple. i promise.

“I learn a good deal by merely observing you, And letting you talk as long as you please, And taking note of what you do not say.”

 hearing genuine laughter from the people you love is the most healing sound

The most powerful thing you can do right now is to be patient while things are unfolding for you.

please make sure that wherever you’re at in life, you don’t treat it like a transitory period. don’t waste your college years wishing to already be graduated & have a job. don’t waste your single years wishing for someone to be in love with. if/when those things come, they will come in due time and they will be good. but there is nothing like looking back and feeling empty because you wasted literal years ignoring what you had because you were hoping for something better. while it’s important to better yourself and reach for your goals, don’t neglect the present because that’s where you are now and it’s your now that determines your future.

Steps to Letting go of Painful Memories

Experiences can leave us with some painful memories. They tie us to the past and prevent us moving on. And the only way to freedom is to work on letting go – so these memories don’t haunt us or keep us trapped in pain. Below are some guidelines to help you work on this.

1. Before you can let go, you must face whatever happened and accept that it is part of your past experiences. Suppression doesn’t work as a long-term solution. It can only be a band aid that brings temporary relief. Talk to someone you trust, or write about it in your journal. You need to share what has happened, in order to move on.

2. Identify the lessons you have learned from what has happened. There’s always a lesson – so look for what you’ve learned. It doesn’t make it better – but it does lessen its power.

3. Write the lesson down on a piece of paper and repeat it to yourself when you’re hit by painful memories. For example, if you’ve been scarred by abuse, then you might write something like: “My experience of abuse does not determine who I am. I’m a stronger person now, and that is not my destiny. I’m choosing my own future, and the person I will be.”

4. Repeat this mantra often so it takes root in your mind. Allow it to be stronger than the bad experience. Say it often – till you mean it– then you’ll start to feel you’re freer. Persevere and keep on fighting when the old memories return.

5. Seek to be a person who’s a peace with themselves. When peace is your focus, old thoughts and memories have much less power over how you think and feel. However, seeking after peace must be a conscious, constant choice.

6. When the past tries to intrude focus firmly on the present. Ground yourself in what’s happening around you in the room, and try to breathe deeply - and deliberately relax. You are here in this moment; you’re not living in the past.

7. Forgive – for your own sake. Try to heal from what happened – then let resentments go. You don’t want them in your life for they’ll just tie you to the past. You may need some help with this – but it is worth the daily struggle. It is a powerful tool for moving forward, and being free.

12 Things Happy People Do Differently

Happy people value and choose:

1. Love over Fear: People, who are really happy, fear less and love a lot more. They see each moment, each challenge, each person as an opportunity to discover more about themselves and the world around them.

2. Acceptance over Resistance: Happy people understand that you can’t really change a situation by resisting it. When something unpleasant happens to them, they don’t try to fight it. Instead, they ask themselves questions like: What can I learn from this? How can I make this better?

3. Forgiveness over Unforgiveness: Really happy people know that it’s not healthy to hold on to anger. They choose to forgive and forget, understanding that forgiveness is a gift they give themselves.

4. Trust over Mistrust: They trust themselves and they can figure out who is trustworthy – and who they should avoid.

5. Meaning over Ambition: They do the things they do because of the meaning it brings into their lives and because they get a sense of purpose by doing so. They’re not driven by the need to gain approval from others.

6. Challenges over Obstacles: Happy people see problems as challenges, and as opportunities to explore new ways of doing things.

7. Selflessness over Selfishness: Happy people look for ways to give and to share the best of themselves, and to make other people happy if they can.

8. Kindness over Harshness: They are kind to themselves and others and they understand the power of self-love, self-forgiveness and self-acceptance.

9. Gratitude over Ingratitude: No matter where they look, no matter where they are or with who, happy people have the capacity to see beauty where many would only see ugliness – and they’re quick to express their gratitude, as well.

10. Being Present over Being Disengaged: Happy people know how to live in the present moment, appreciating what they have and where they are. 11. Positivity over Negativity: No matter what happens to them, happy people always seem to adopt and maintain a positive, and upbeat, perspective.

12. Taking Responsibility over Blaming: Happy people take full ownership of their lives. They choose to keep their power and take responsibility for everything that happens to them.

 Every thought we think is creating our future. 

 Success isn’t something that occurs. Success is something that you create. 

I am in the right place, at the right time, doing the right thing. 

 If you take any step, no matter how small it is, towards achieving your dreams then you will surely find the right path and reach the abundance that lies in store for you. 

Steven Richards

you know how the ocean always finds the shore? that’s how i know i’ll always find you

fall in love with someone who looks at you the same way your dog does when you get home

Stop thinking that others are better than you. Nobody is better than you.

Sure, people have different strengths, but overall we are all equally amazing.

Don’t just imagine or dream of the person you want to become. Make it happen. Even if you do a little bit at a time you’re still moving forward. Going slow beats not doing anything at all.

Waking up and working towards my goals has completely shifted my energy. I cannot believe when I started this blog I was thinking I should end my life. Or that I should just give up because I can’t get it right. I have finally come to terms with my BPD and I’ve accepted that it will always be harder for me, but it will be worth it in the end. I think some of the worst parts of my disorder (like not keeping a job for long) are also some of the reasons I’m going to succeed. My disorder always leaves my brain wanting more and having to do more. I can’t fight who I am. I am so blessed to have love in my life. I’m so blessed to be working towards a dream with my best friend! I am so full of love right now. I needed to make this post for memories on days my disorder gets the best of me.

once you attract something, you want keep it all up by doing acts of kindness and being grateful. every night i say to myself what i am grateful for from that day. i usually end up smiling and feeling warm inside, because positive emotion raises your vibration. always try to give just as much as you receive if not more. by the way this isn’t always material giving. say something nice or do a chore for a loved one. do it with love, not just because you want to attract more. before you know it gifts will continue to flow into your life from source energy. this also helps with keeping a positive attitude no matter how the day goes. you’ll always find something to be grateful for, and you will always have the wonderful feeling of helping/giving to someone else. ✨

i am the creator of my own universe. i can have anything i manifest if i believe i deserve it.

waking up and having a clear goal to work towards every single day feels so good. i love waking up and planning and creating.

stop judging women on how they handle their husband cheating. stop calling them courageous and a good wife for forgiving their husband, or demonising them for being hurt. stop excusing a husband’s cheating as a small misstep. stop romanticising infidelity as a common struggle all couples must face in order to grow stronger

a fresh cup of mint tea, the sound of a xylophone, labrador puppies, the warmth of the sun at 5pm, two women holding hands, laying in uncut grass, watching the sky turn pink, the smell of the person you love, clear sea water, journalling about happy memories, forehead kisses, the first day of summer, dimples, small palm trees, comfortable silence.

soulmates are real and yours is dying to meet you

love unites, allows, creates, shows, ensures, saves, flows, enables, breathes, sings, safeguards, embraces, heals & elevates

one day you’ll have fresh flowers in your hair, skin soft as silk and walk the beach hand in hand with the love of your life. you’ll then remember how all the sadness was worth it

Darling, I have written so much about you that I can’t tell where you begin and my dreams end anymore.

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